The Hello Someday Podcast For Sober Curious Women

When you stop drinking, doing inner work around knowing, liking and trusting yourself again can be healing and empowering. 

For years you may have been meeting external expectations and caring for others over listening to your inner voice and intuition. 

By the time you’ve stopped drinking you may be so removed from your authentic self that you no longer know who you truly are or what you want and need.

Today my guest Tanya Ouhrabka is going to share ways that we can regain our “know, like, and trust” factor in life. 

Tanya’s a Life Coach who works with women to shift their mindset and perspectives in order to achieve self-acceptance. 

Tanya believes that when you realign the mind, body, and soul with the truth of who you are, what you desire, and your purpose - you “know, like and trust” yourself again, and can live a purposeful and passion filled life.

By releasing self-judgement and increasing self-confidence and self-awareness we’re able to be the healthiest and happiest version of ourselves.  

As someone who lost too many years of her own life to self-critical thought patterns and destructive behavior, Tanya knows the power to change our life lies within us, not externally. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Tanya is a survivor and thriver, former self-critic, and truth seeking storyteller, who is changing women’s lives as a certified life coach.

In addition to coaching, Tanya shares her inspirational story of transformation to groups of girls and women across the country. Additionally, she has just founded POWAR™, a community for women to authentically and transparently share and rise together.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/20

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Grab Tanya’s Free Guide Seven Days To Y.E.S. - daily focus objectives and mantras:https://www.tanyaouhrabka.com/7-steps-to-yes

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

Connect with Tanya Ouhrabka

Website: https://www.tanyaouhrabka.com/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tanyaouhrabka/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tanya.b.ouhrabka

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Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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There's a whole genre of books that you might not ever hear about if you're not a woman who has a complicated relationship with alcohol. It's called “Quit lit"- books about drinking, quitting drinking, getting sober and life without alcohol. 

There are novels and memoirs, essays, fiction, and how to guides. They are deep and soulful, entertaining and honest, eye opening, hysterically funny, raw and hopeful. Quit lit books were a lifeline to me in early sobriety. 

In this episode, I want to share not only my favorites but the voices of other women and the books that have inspired them and helped them along the path of re-evaluating their relationship with alcohol. 

This episode is about the best quit lit for women.

To get the full guide of the best quit lit for women go to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/quit-lit

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Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/19

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Books and Resources mentioned in this episode

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If you’re a woman who’s trying to quit drinking it’s normal to look around and suddenly realize that booze is all around you. 

There’s Rosé All Day, Hot Yoga and Happy Hour, beer at the finish line of the 10K and “Mommy Juice” at playdates with the kids.

You look up from your wine glass to see that everyone around you is drinking, all the time. 

We live in a culture that tells women that drinking is their treat for getting through the day. It’s our reward for working so hard and taking care of our kids. 

We’re told alcohol is what we should consume to be ‘cool’ and ‘relaxed’ and ‘fun’. 

We’re taught that drinking will make us less frustrated, less angry, less tired, less bored with the monotony of adulting. 

And then we blame ourselves for not being able to ‘moderate’ or ‘cut back’ or ‘drink less’ of an addictive substance.

In today’s episode I have a long conversation with a friend and one of my favorite authors, Kristi Coulter, about Working, Drinking and Being a “First World Woman”.  

Kristi and I talk about:

About Kristi Coulter

Kristi Coulter is the author of the 2018 memoir-in-essays Nothing Good Can Come from This, a writer who is currently working on her next memoir - Exit Interview - about gender, ambition, and her twelve-year stint as an executive at Amazon, and a former drinker. Four years ago (in 2016) Kristi published an article on Medium that went viral and changed the course of her life. "Enjoli" is an essay about what happened after Kristi decided to stop drinking and realized that all the women around her were tanked. It hit a nerve among women (and men) around the world and has now been downloaded over 700,000 times. Kristi's work has appeared in The Paris Review, New York Magazine/The Cut, Elle, Amazon Original Stories, Glamour, Vox, and elsewhere.

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

Connect with Kristi Coulter

Website: http://www.kristicoulter.com

Off-Dry Blog: https://offdry.com/

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kristicccoulter/

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www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) 

Have you ever sabotaged yourself and you can’t figure out why?

You want to get promoted, improve your health and your relationships, achieve a big goal, and somehow you get in your own way and wreck your best-laid plans. 

Self-sabotage was definitely a part of my story when I was drinking. 

The truth is that self-sabotage is the result of low self-esteem. 

We only allow into our lives what we feel and believe we deserve. 

Building self-esteem is a foundational piece of recovery work.

When you change your self-esteem, your deep, subconscious beliefs about what you think you deserve, you stop self-sabotage. 

You can improve your relationships, job, ability to achieve your dreams and goals, financial abundance, the love you attract and your health. 

If you don't change those beliefs, regardless of how hard you work, you will sabotage your progress in achieving them, either consciously or unconsciously. 

My guest today is Arlina Allen. She’s a Certified Life and Recovery Coach and Host of the award winning recovery podcast, The ODAAT Chat Podcast.

Arlina helps busy professional women to get the clarity they need to get unstuck, and achieve their goals so that they can live the life of their dreams.

Arlina is also the creator of the Reinvent, a six week self-esteem course, where she works with women to get to the root of what's holding them back and change their beliefs so that they can realize their dreams. 

In this episode Arlina dives into the framework of her self-esteem course, including the importance of creating the right support system, tools for long term change, and new self image and a vision for what's possible in your future.

In this episode, you’ll learn about:

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Links and resources mentioned in this episode

Connect with Arlina Allen

https://soberlifeschool.com/

https://selfesteemcourse.com/

Arlina's Podcast: https://odaatchat.com/

ODAAT Chat Private Women's Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1244862275613746 

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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Have you ever wondered what exactly is Yoga For Recovery or Trauma Informed Yoga? 

And what about essential oils?

Today we’re here to answer these questions and more with one of my favorite teachers in recovery, yoga and life: Taryn Strong, 

Taryn is a founder of the SHE RECOVERS Foundation - a global grassroots movement currently consisting of more than 300,000 women in or seeking recovery from substance use disorders, other behavioral health issues and/or life challenges. 

Taryn is a trauma-informed yoga instructor, recovery coach and an aromatherapist. 

Taryn has developed a unique yoga retreat program and led over 40 yoga for recovery retreats since 2012. 

She is also the host of the SHE RECOVERS Podcast and most recently created and taught the inaugural trauma informed SHE RECOVERS Yoga Teacher Training Program.

Taryn identifies as being in recovery from trauma, a substance use disorder and self-injurious behavior and believes that recovery is a journey to wholeness – in which we take care of our mind, body and spirit.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

A strong yoga practice and essential oils can be an important tool in your "sober toolkit" as a pathway to holistic healing and recovery.

Today we dive into everything you need to know about these practices to get started!

More about Yoga with Taryn

https://sherecovers.co/yoga-with-taryn-strong/

As part of her online yoga signature recovery series and online monthly membership Taryn takes you on a gentle, trauma-informed journey of exploration that will help heal your body, mind and spirit.

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

The Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Connect with She Recovers

https://sherecovers.co/together-online/ 

https://sherecovers.co/our-retreats/ 

SHE RECOVERS on Facebook: facebook.com/sherecovers

The SHE RECOVERS Intentions & Guiding Principles 

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/16

Connect with Taryn Strong

https://sherecovers.co/yoga-with-taryn-strong/ 

https://www.instagram.com/tarynstrong/ 

Click here to become a member of Taryn's dōTERRA Essential Oils for Recovery Group 

Taryn’s Spotify Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/user/tarynstrong

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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Do you have a loud inner critic voice? 

You know the one that starts when you wake up and tells you that you're not good enough, thin enough, productive enough, patient enough, strong enough, smart enough or whatever?

I used to believe that these daily repetitive negative thoughts were helping me.

I thought I could berate myself into 'being better' or shame myself enough that I would stop drinking, start running or lose weight.

I thought if I was just hard enough on myself - I'd get my shit together.

The truth is it didn't work.

I didn't work for me and it probably isn't working for you. It's just making you miserable.

Somehow we've convinced ourselves that embracing the ways in which we ‘should’ be better will help us achieve more in life.

But that's not true.  

In fact, our inner critic can lead us to drink or numb out to turn it off and quiet your mind. And reaching for substances will only lead us to anxiety and more self-criticism.

It's the opposite, limiting self-criticism and offsetting its negative effects, that will build resilience, reduce stress and lower anxiety.

And there’s an easy way to quiet your inner critic. 

In this podcast episode we’ll dive into how and why to release the voice that tells you that you’re not enough and less than others.  

My guest today is Vanessa Klugman, She’s an MD and a Certified Professional Coach and a Certified Professional Recovery Coach and she’ll share how healing your inner critic starts with self compassion.

You’ll learn:

About Vanessa Klugman, MD, ACC. 

Vanessa is a physician, and mother of three. 

She balanced the demands of a career and family for many years until the stress became overwhelming. 

Vanessa turned to poor coping mechanisms to escape the demands that she placed on herself. 

Vanessa had a harsh inner critic who told her messages that she was not good enough.

She believed that her worth was equated with how much she achieved, how well she was liked, and how much she gave to others. 

She wasn't living an authentic life. In recovery, she learned effective ways to face negative emotions: set boundaries that protected her sobriety; faced limiting beliefs and healed old wounds. 

Vanessa’s passion is to guide others battling to find a healthy balance in their lives, to disconnect from their inner critic and reconnect with their inner wisdom.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/15

Links and Resources Mentioned

Vanessa Klugman

[email protected]

https://www.facebook.com/vanessa.klugman.3

http://resiliencerecoverycoaching.com/

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Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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Books mentioned:

Dr. Kristin Neff: Self-Compassion: The Proven Power Of Being Kind To Yourself

We all have our own personal brand of nonsense - self sabotage, blame, people pleasing, control issues. A lot of women deal with almost all of these but especially scarcity versus abundance and making decisions out of your fears.

We all have things we're doing that are standing in the way of our health, happiness and success. Learn to get out of your own way, to identify the nonsense in your life, and how to move past the big ones.

My guest is Meredith Atwood. She's a former attorney, a podcaster and a motivational speaker. She is a sobriety advocate, and the founder of Grateful Sobriety. She's also a four time Ironman triathlete. She's the author of a best selling triathlon book Triathlon for the Every Woman, in addition to her new book, The Year of No Nonsense: How to Get Over Yourself and On with Your Life. She’s the host of the iTunes Top 50 fitness podcast, “The Same 24 Hours.” She has been featured in The Boston Globe, The New York Post, the Seattle Times and dozens of online publications. Meredith is a contributing writer to Psychology Today online, Triathlete Magazine and Women’s Running. She is a USA Weightlifting Level II, USA Triathlon Level I, and Precision Nutrition Level I Coach. 

In this episode, you’ll learn

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/14

Links and Resources Mentioned

Connect with Meredith Atwood

Website: https://swimbikemom.com

Instagram: https://instagram.com/swimbikemom

Facebook Page: https://facebook.com/swimbikemom

The Same 24 Hours Podcast www.Same24HoursPodcast.com

Books Mentioned

The Year of No Nonsense: How to Get Over Yourself and On with Your Life

Triathlon for the Every Woman: You Can Be a Triathlete. Yes. You.

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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Do you use drinking to shut off your mind? Do you use drinking as a coping mechanism to push away your feelings? Many women, just like you, who drink have underlying anxiety issues they might be coping with, and they use drinking to make those feelings go away.

Anxiety is the number one side effect from drinking. If you drink often, you may have anxiety more deeply and more pronounced than you would have otherwise.

Jessica Foody and I are discussing anxiety and the tools to cope with anxiety that you can take away and implement in your life. 

Jessica is a registered nurse, a recovery coach, and a She Recovers signature coach. Her expertise is in working with women who struggle, both with addiction and with anxiety. She helps women not only drink less, but transform their relationship with anxiety.

Jessica shares her favorite mindfulness techniques and how to unconditionally love and accept yourself, anxiety and all. Jessica believes that recovery is the return to the joy of living.

In this episode, you’ll learn about a Buddhist mindfulness technique that can help you work with any difficult emotion for anxiety. This technique is called the Rain technique. The rain technique can be used either in formal meditation practice or when a strong emotion is coming up.

Rain stands for RECOGNIZE, ALLOW, INVESTIGATE and NURTURE.

RECOGNIZE - Recognize what you’re feeling. With anxiety, this can be something that you are very attuned to and are very good at recognizing it.

ALLOW - Allowing your anxiety to be here just as it is. The more you resist something, the more you’re trying to get rid of it, the more you’re trying to push it away, it actually gets stronger, it gets bigger. You can't push away feelings, you can't get rid of feelings outside of numbing. So when you allow your anxiety to be here, just as it is, it's like you give your anxiety space to breathe.

INVESTIGATE - Investigate your body. Investigate with kindness. Get out of your head and get into your heart. Ask yourself, what's happening with me right now, where am I feeling this anxiety? Is there a tightness in my chest? Is my back getting tense? Step out of the mind and actually be in your body and sometimes taking a few deep breaths can really help because something that makes anxiety worse is the more you think about your anxious thoughts the worse it gets.

NURTURE - You embrace yourself with love and compassion, and you provide that comfort to yourself. You’re allowing our anxiety to be here, but you need that comfort. Be kind to yourself, especially when you’re hurting.

If you’re looking for tools to help you cope with your anxiety, listen to this episode.

Show notes: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/13/

Links and Resources Mentioned

Connect with Jessica Foody

Website: Jessicafoody.com

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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Tara Brach

www.tarabrach.com

Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha

Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN

Do you feel trapped in a job or career that doesn’t make you happy?

Is work a trigger that makes you want to drink?

If the answer is yes, this podcast episode was created for you. 

For years when I was climbing the corporate ladder I felt like I needed (and deserved) wine at the end of a long day to unwind. And I know I’m not alone. 

So many women have spent a decade or two working hard, paying their dues and climbing the career ladder, only to find themselves in midlife dreading opening their emails and the work awaiting them tomorrow.  

Between pressure from your boss, long commutes, deadlines and deliverables, struggling to balance the needs of your kids and your clients and trying to be everywhere at once - it’s no wonder so many women feel unfulfilled and driven to drink. 

If you feel tired, deflated or uninspired at work know that you have options, you have agency and you can change the way you’re living. 

There are opportunities available to you when you take time to get clarity on who you are, what you value, your strengths and the work you want to do.

Betty Kempa is my podcast guest today, and she’s here to help us figure out how to reduce our stress and tension in our current job and how to work through the fear, frustrations and limiting beliefs that are keeping you from leaving your role and finding a career that you truly love. 

Betty’s a certified professional coach one of the industry's top career change strategists. She specializes in helping mid to senior level corporate women transition out of unfulfilling jobs and into careers they love.

She is a thought leader in the industry, who writes, speaks and coaches on topics such as building six figure coaching businesses, overcoming imposter syndrome, dream career clarity, and effective career change strategy. And Betty quit drinking 9 years ago. 

In this episode, Betty talks about how to get unstuck in your career and in your life. 

She takes us through two of the five steps in her career bliss formula and how to implement them in your life. 

If you feel triggered by work and are ready to get unstuck, feel empowered and move to a more positive place in your career - listen to this episode. 

Show Notes: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/12/

Links and Resources Mentioned

Connect with Betty Kempa

Website: BettyKempa.com

LinkedIn: Betty Kempa

Facebook: www.facebook.com/coachbettykempa

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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If any of these questions spark your interest, today’s episode is for you. 

My guest is Kate Moryoussef, a UK based EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, Coach. Kate helps busy moms manage overwhelm and stress.  

EFT Tapping has been referred to as psychological acupressure. It’s a 5-step technique for anxiety relief.

I had heard of tapping but never tried it before this conversation with Kate. Following our podcast interview I hired Kate to walk me through the tapping techniques for 3 sessions. 

We did the sessions over zoom (with me sitting in my office with coffee in the morning in Seattle and Kate settled in after dinner with her family in Manchester, UK).  

I loved the process of tapping. It felt like a massage - but one in which I was able to tap on a problem I was having and where I felt stuck.  

I felt more relaxed after our sessions and I uncovered a lot of fears and limiting beliefs that were holding me back that I didn’t know existed. They were in my subconscious - yet impacting my thoughts and choices each day.  

By our third session I felt like I’d made some major breakthroughs in the thoughts and feelings I was carrying around with me everyday - and I was able to set some down and get some more emotional distance from them. 

Kate describes EFT Tapping as a practical self-help method that involves using the fingers to gently tap on the body's acupuncture points along the meridian lines of Chinese medicine. 

EFT Tapping helps you tune in to the negative patterns that form around uncomfortable thoughts, feelings, or troubling memories. You ‘tap’ on the correct pressure points while bringing the thoughts or emotions into consciousness. The aim is to find relief, relaxation, and promote healing around the emotional or physical issues that are holding you back.

For issues with drinking, you can tap around your cravings and triggers. 

To get you started Kate created a tapping video specifically for women dealing with drinking cravings for The Hello Someday Podcast listeners. You can find the video at www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/11.

In the podcast you’ll hear what parts of the “drinking cravings” tapping sequence made me nervous while working through it, and how I understood the process better and felt better by the end. 

I love talking with Kate. She lives in Manchester, UK with her husband, four kids and two dogs. She’s a wellbeing coach trained in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping). As a coach Kate works with women to find more emotional freedom, happiness, fulfillment and health. She believes in choosing to focus on what brings you joy and continued happiness, removing shame and guilt that many women feel in their life. 

Kate is passionate about wanting to help women rediscover their inner voice, tap into their expansive potential and realise themselves outside of their family dynamic. She wants to help women recognize what’s holding them back and teach them to hear and then listen to their inner guidance and connect to a force they didn’t know they had. 

Show Notes: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/11/

Connect with Kate Moryoussef

www.coachingbykate.me.uk

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Instagram: Kate Moryoussef (@coaching_by_kate_)

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Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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