The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Doctor Alexandra Stockwell, MD

If you've been around here for any length of time, you've probably heard this from me before -

Relationships are the ultimate vehicle for personal growth (it's so true)!

In today's episode, I invite a couple on the show who exemplifies this concept in a big way. Derick and Dr. Liz Aquirre have been married for 12 years and have built an intentional, pleasure-filled & collaborative marriage that has transformed each of their lives immensely. Join us as we discuss how they have both grown inside of their relationship, as a result of the other's influence, their passion for growing together as a couple, and the ultimate gift of participating in a truly collaborative marriage.

We discuss:

• Liz and Derick's collaborative marriage & the impact they've had on each other's transformational journey during their 12 years of marriage
• Motivation by inspiration v. motivation by desperation
• Some powerful insights on communicating through frustration (we talk about what to focus on instead!)
• Derick's advice to help men really embrace the role of father and husband
• The BIGGEST lessons they've learned about themselves as a result of their marriage
• And a lot more…

Connect with Dr. Liz here:

www.LizAguirreMD.com

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https://www.instagram.com/lizaguirremd/

If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com

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If you want to experience more connection and intimacy in your marriage, you have to know what you want. But, in a society that is so focused on doing, productivity, and achieving goals - it can be hard to connect to your deeper desires, or even find the time to start discovering & exploring your needs.

So what can you do to make more room to connect with yourself, know your desires & feel more closeness with your partner?

You can shift your focus from "doing" and prioritize an experience of "being."

In today's episode, I'm diving into the concept of doing v. being - and why making the shift from doing to being will help you get in touch with your truest desires. As a result, you'll experience more pleasure, joy & gratifying intimacy in your life, and in your relationship.

I discuss:

• Doing v. being - and how understanding this concept will change the game for your relationship!
• One of the BIGGEST things that gets in the way of having a passionate & intimate marriage
• A 10-minute practice that has drastically improved my relationship and business (and can do the same for yours!)
• The KEY to experiencing true intimacy in your marriage
• And a lot more…

Ready to feel more alive, dynamic, and lit up? Check out my course, "DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN Within" https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/

If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com

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Why do so many marriages fail?

I know it can seem like a super complicated question. But whether it's poor communication, a dissatisfying sex life, not enough money, or a struggle to work together in parenting - marriages fail because of one BIGGER reason.

In today's episode, I'm digging into that reason, the magic formula for building a lasting and intimate marriage, and how you can use it to strengthen your relationship and recommit to more aliveness, vitality & passion with your spouse (and yourself)!

I discuss:

• The BIGGEST reason marriages fail - and how to avoid it!
• How being disconnected from your desires could be affecting your relationship
• A very confronting experience I had with naming my own desires
• The important shift you can make to live a more fulfilled (and orgasmic!) life
• Some powerful examples of clients of mine who communicated their desires - and were surprised by how well they were received
• And a lot more…

Ready to feel more alive, dynamic, and lit up? Check out my course, "DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN Within" https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/

If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com

Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/

Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl

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Marriage can be rich and juicy after the first decade.

And after the second, the third, the fourth…And the FIFTH!

Don't believe me? Get ready to meet Jim & Ruth Sharon, co-creators of a connected & delicious 50+ year marriage. They generously share the beginnings of their love story (which was prompted by an out-of-character moment from Jim!) and the tools and practices they use to sustain their openness to one another to keep the spark of intimacy and eroticism alive in their marriage.

Want to have amazing sex & orgasms - into your 70's? Tune in for this juicy relationship wisdom:

• How it's possible that Ruth is having more rich & pleasurable orgasms at 73!
• Their view on intimacy inside of their relationship (hint: it's not just sexual)
• How Jim has seen their relationship as a vehicle for his personal growth
• Vulnerable shares about the things they've shifted in their marriage to allow for more openness and connection
• What they consider to be an important secret to their lasting & fulfilling relationship
• And a lot more

Dr. Jim Sharon is a licensed psychologist and a certified life coach; Ruth Sharon, MS is a licensed professional counselor and a certified wellness coach. The Sharons have published six professional books and written chapters in other books, with themes including relationship enhancement, men's and women's development, wellness, yoga, and constructive conflict resolution.

Jim and Ruth Sharon have been married for over five decades and have worked together for most of those years! They have raised three children and enjoy being with them and their grandchildren. Please visit www.heartwise.us to learn more and get email updates.

If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com

The Aligned & Hot Marriage program www.alignedhotmarriage.com

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This season I've gone into depth about the 6 Keys To An Intimate Marriage that I use in my Aligned & Hot Marriage program. If you're just joining us, I highly recommend you go back to Episode 5 and learn more about the keys.

Today, I'm going to talk about 4 couples that have taken my course and used the skills they learned and as a result, their marriages are hotter than ever. They were facing problems like:

• Lack of sex and intimacy
• Disconnection from the relationship they used to have
• Feeling unheard and taken for granted
• Stress from work causing unhealthy coping mechanisms

I created this program to serve couples. If you're ready to experience more closeness, more connection, more emotional intimacy, more sensual and erotic intimacy, then this program is for you.

Program mentioned:

ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com

If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com

Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/

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Today I have a special gift for you. My husband Rodd is here to talk about how we keep our relationship intimate and thriving.

We're very busy people and we don't have a ton of extra time for date nights and romantic getaways, but we do know how to prioritize one another and feed our relationship. We know how to let the erotic energy flow and enjoy our emotional connection.

We used to spend too much energy on mundane things, and end up compromising and holding back with each other when it mattered. This lead to a buildup of resentment and frustration that would inevitably explode and leave Rodd feeling he had to navigate emotional land mines.

Using the 6 Keys to an Intimate Marriage has transformed our relationship to one of closeness and intimacy, mutual support, laughter and fun. The communication in our marriage, companionship, and passion are deeply satisfying and we credit our capacity to Cultivate Curiosity, Embrace Honesty, Be Kind, Choose Happiness, Take Responsibility, and Seek Growth.

Program mentioned:

ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com

If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com

Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/

Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl

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When children are young, it's fascinating to watch their growth and milestones. It's easy to be excited about watching them learn how to roll over, crawl, talk, walk, and tie their shoes. As we all get older, there's a sameness about us that isn't so exciting.

The sixth and final Key to an Intimate Marriage is to "Seek Growth". In your marriage, that means:

• If you're doing the same things over and over, it gets boring and unfulfilling no matter how wonderful it was the first time.
• You need to check in with yourself and your partner about what you each know about yourselves and each other that you didn't know 10 years ago, 10 days ago, or even 10 minutes ago.
• What do you desire now? How has that changed?
• Be clear and intentional about how you prioritize growth.

No matter what happens in your relationship, you can see it through the lens of growth. Ask yourself what you can focus on and what there is to learn, so that whatever you are experiencing will be inspiration for you to grow and evolve.

Programs:

ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com

If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com

Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/

Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl

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The fifth Key to an Intimate Marriage is "Take Responsibility". That may be a loaded phrase for some, but hear me out.

Very often among educated, successful couples, we have this idea that everything should be split 50/50, fair and equal. You may be familiar with the phrases, "it takes two to tango," and "we are both in this together." While those are true in their context, meeting each other halfway isn't the way to a passionate marriage.

The only way all aspects of the marriage will be addressed and taken care of is if you take 100% responsibility for the quality of your relationship. Ideally, your partner will take 100% as well, but when you take all the responsibility you won't be waiting around for your partner to do their part and instead will go ahead and improve things.

That does NOT mean that you're 100% a caretaker or nurturer. That doesn't mean you do all the work. It may mean taking the initiative to make some plans for yourself to go to the spa, asking your partner for help with household matters, stepping into the hard conversations, or just being responsible for making interactions feel good and respectful. Basically, it means you stop waiting for your spouse to change before bettering yourself and how you show up in your relationship.

Programs:

ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com

If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com

Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/

Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl

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During my studies in college, I took many philosophy courses and one constant all the way from Ancient Greece to the present was that all human beings seek happiness. Based on what I had seen in my life so far, I didn't really believe that was true.

Now, after my decades of work with clients and couples, I agree with the wisdom of that assertion. The problem is that most people don't really know how to get the happiness they seek. In my 6 Keys of an Intimate Marriage, the key of "Choose Happiness" ties in with uncompromising intimacy in that you are honoring the truth that lives within you.

Listen for a story about a couple I've worked with and how choosing happiness has improved communication in their marriage, reduced resentment, and made them both feel much better as they worked through the keys.

I'd really love to hear what came up for you in this episode. Contact Alexandra and share your thoughts here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/

ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com

DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN within https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/

Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/

If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com

Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl

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