The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

What does it mean to follow your deepest calling? How do you get clear on what actually matters and act on it today? Jayson sits down with executive coach John O’Connor to explore what it takes to create real transformation.

They get into symbolic sovereignty, creating a clear vision, and how deep callings can emerge from deep traumas. Jayson shares what it means to earn your black belt in relationships, they discuss why music is a powerful metaphor for life, and the one skill every facilitator needs. They also talk about entanglement, and having a shared vision with your partner. Stick around for grounded insights on leadership, connection, and showing up fully to the work only you can do.
John O’Connor is an executive coach and facilitator living in Boulder, Colorado. For more than a decade, John has coached the top CEOs and leaders in hedge funds, startups, and Fortune 500 companies. John embodies a masterful level of skill to create radical transformation. His coaching path emerged out of 17 years as a massage therapist, after working through tens of thousands of bodies, he developed a deep connection and curiosity to the unconscious mind, learning how to facilitate behavioral, emotional and mental change at the deepest level. John was a co-lead facilitator at the first two Open Source Retreats that helped lay the foundation for the EVRYMAN movement. He is also a certified NLP and hypnosis trainer, a certified master coach, creator of The Access Method, and author of the upcoming book From Ordinary to Extraordinary.

Timestamps:

• 1:23 - What is your deepest calling?
• 3:49 - Stepping out of time
• 8:54 - Creating a clear vision
• 10:43 - What are the three most important things you need to do today?
• 13:19 - Symbolic sovereignty
• 32:24 - How to get your black belt in relationships
• 37:36 - Music as a metaphor for relationships
• 45:48 - Having a shared vision
• 52:42 - Deep callings can emerge from deep traumas
• 58:56 - Dealing with entanglement
• 1:04:00 - An important skill for facilitators and coaches

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Jayson breaks down the problems with one common strategy—people-pleasing and how it relates to the core inner conflict. What are the childhood roots of people-pleasing? Why do people-pleasers become resentful? Why do integrated individuals make better coaches and therapists? Tune in to this insightful episode to learn how to stop betraying yourself in the context of your relationship.

Timestamps:

• 1:37 - Client example
• 5:43 - The childhood roots of people-pleasing
• 12:04 - Betraying yourself to fit in
• 14:46 - Why people-pleasers become resentful
• 18:23 - Why integrated people make better coaches and therapists

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Jayson sits down with Duane Mullner to talk about the role of the therapist or coach. Why is the here and now so important? Can clients help their coaches and therapists? How should you prepare for a session? What should you do with a client who isn’t making progress? How can you help clients who are stuck in victimhood? Don’t miss this chance to hear Duane Mullner share the wisdom he has accumulated over his long career.

Timestamps:

• 6:44 - What is the role of the therapist/coach
• 15:30 - What’s going on between therapist and client?
• 20:31 - Why is the here and now so important?
• 27:39 - Don’t make resistance wrong
• 34:35 - How clients help coaches and therapists
• 41:46 - How to prepare for a session
• 44:51 - Making progress with clients
• 54:18 - How to help people who are in their victimhood
• 1:07:00 - Should you trust clients to treat you about their problems?

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Jayson breaks down how to coach yourself using AI and shares a variety of example prompts. Can AI offer constructive criticism? What can it do with astrology and Gene Keys? Can it give you a tough-love wake-up call? Stick around until the end to learn how you can use AI to get the most out of your therapy sessions!

Timestamps:

• 2:40 - Ways to use AI as a client
• 4:52 - Using AI for constructive criticism
• 7:50 - Astrology
• 10:27 - Tough love
• 13:36 - Getting the most out of therapy

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Jayson discusses the role of AI in the therapy and coaching space. Will AI replace therapists and coaches? Can it ever be better than a real coach or therapist? What are the downsides of using AI to coach yourself? Stay tuned until the end of the episode to find out how you can thrive—rather than just survive—as a coach or therapist in the age of AI.

Timestamps:

• 5:42 - Price point
• 9:10 - Who will lose their jobs?
• 12:53 - What AI can't replace
• 19:24 - AI and intuition
• 23:47 - How should coaches and therapists adapt to AI?

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If you want to get the most out of therapy or coaching, it’s important to know how to be a great client. In this episode, Jayson shares his experience of being a client and breaks down how you can make sure you’re getting the results you want. Is it ever okay not to make progress? Learn how to advocate for yourself, prepare for your sessions, stay accountable to friends and family, and much more in this episode!

Timestamps:

• 1:40 - Is it okay not to make progress?
• 4:01 - Jayson's story
• 8:51 - How to be a good client
• 15:53 - When to have a frank conversation with your coach or therapist

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Clinical psychologist Alexandra Solomon joins Jayson to offer valuable advice for therapists and coaches. What are the unique challenges of working with men in couples work? How should therapists and coaches manage countertransference? What common issues are individuals bringing to therapy these days? And how can therapists help people most effectively? Find the answers to these questions—and more—in this insightful episode!

Timestamps:

• 10:11 - Gendered issues in therapy
• 19:45 - Individuals vs couples therapy
• 26:45 - Countertransference
• 39:23 - Advice for new practitioners

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Jayson and Ellen have started a new podcast!

Integrated is for entrepreneurial couples who want both a high-impact career and an exceptional partnership. Jayson and Ellen blend cutting-edge relationship science with decades of coaching experience to help you balance leadership at home and in business, fostering deeper connection and lasting success.

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In this episode Jayson and Ellen talk about five reasons why being a team is so hard. How do culture and personal history impact teamwork? Is your sense of entitlement holding you back from effective collaboration? How can differences between people make for a stronger team? Find the answers to these questions and more in this episode!

Timestamps:

• 1:00 - 5 reasons why being a team is so hard
• 1:47 - Cultural backdrop
• 7:00 - Personal history
• 11:49 - Your entitlement
• 16:56 - Differences
• 20:41 - Sharing leadership takes time

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What’s wrong with going into fix-it mode when someone shares their problems?

Jayson explains why it’s better to offer understanding rather than jumping in with solutions—and how people are more likely to come up with their own answers when they feel truly heard.

Timestamps:

• 0:03 - What's wrong with "fix-it" mode?
• 3:49 - Reflecting instead of fixing
• 7:08 - Giving people space to come up with their own solutions
• 8:30 - Understanding first, then solutions

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How should you coach someone who wants to be in a successful relationship? Jayson breaks it down. Do you need to have successful relationships yourself to coach effectively? How can you teach your clients the skills they need to develop, and what does that process look like? Don’t miss this insightful episode.

Timestamps:

• 0:36 - You have to have successful relationships
• 7:05 - Skill acquisition
• 13:27 - Don't be uncomfortable with intimacy

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