Defensiveness can shut down a conversation before you ever get close to resolving anything. But sometimes it’s not just what you’re saying—it’s how you’re approaching the conversation. In this episode, I’m giving you three simple ways to lower someone’s defenses without avoiding the hard conversation. We’ll talk about why words like “always” and “never” immediately put people on guard, how to use “when you, I feel” instead, why finding something you can agree on changes the tone, and how turning commands into “we” questions can keep you on the same team.
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Defensiveness can shut down a conversation before you ever get close to resolving anything. But sometimes it’s not just what you’re saying—it’s how you’re approaching the conversation. In this episode, I’m giving you three simple ways to lower someone’s defenses without avoiding the hard conversation. We’ll talk about why words like “always” and “never” immediately put people on guard, how to use “when you, I feel” instead, why finding something you can agree on changes the tone, and how turning commands into “we” questions can keep you on the same team. Join me on Supercast for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and AMAs: https://jefferson.supercast.com/ Leave me a voicemail to be featured on the show! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/ask-jefferson Order The Next Conversation Workbook: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/workbook Thank you to our sponsors: AG1. Visit https://drinkag1.com/jefferson and get a FREE AG1 Flavor Sampler and a FREE bottle of Vitamin D3 + K2 in your Welcome Kit with your first AG1 subscription order. Factor. Head to https://factormeals.com/jefferson50off and use code JEFFERSON50OFF to get 50% off and 1 free breakfast item per box for 1 year. BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Order my book, The Next Conversation, or listen to the full audiobook today. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Join My School of Communication Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on TikTok Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Defensiveness can shut down a conversation before you ever get close to resolving anything. But sometimes it’s not just what you’re saying—it’s how you’re approaching the conversation. In this episode, I’m giving you three simple ways to lower someone’s defenses without avoiding the hard conversation. We’ll talk about why words like “always” and “never” immediately put people on guard, how to use “when you, I feel” instead, why finding something you can agree on changes the tone, and how turning commands into “we” questions can keep you on the same team.
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How to Handle Defensiveness

You want to sound more assertive. But you’re not sure what to say or how to say it. In this episode, I’m revealing 3 simple ways to instantly sound more assertive. These are easy phrases you can say to sound more confident and communicate your needs clearly. Plus, I share several common mistakes people make when trying to be assertive and how to avoid them. So you stand up for yourself and keep your conversations respectful and productive. Like what you hear? Subscribe to this podcast and leave a 5 star review.———Want a FREE communication tip each week? <a href="https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/newsletter">Click here to join my newsletter.</a> Watch my podcast on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@jeffersonfisher">YouTube</a> Follow me on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher">Instagram</a> Follow me on <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/">LinkedIn</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a>

You want to sound more assertive. But you’re not sure what to say or how to say it. In this episode, I’m revealing 3 simple ways to instantly sound more assertive. These are easy phrases you can say to sound more confident and communicate your needs clearly. Plus, I share several common mistakes people make when trying to be assertive and how to avoid them. So you stand up for yourself and keep your conversations respectful and productive. Like what you hear? Subscribe to this podcast and leave a 5 star review. ——— Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You want to sound more assertive. But you’re not sure what to say or how to say it. In this episode, I’m revealing 3 simple ways to instantly sound more assertive. These are easy phrases you can say to sound more confident and communicate your needs clearly. Plus, I share several common mistakes people make when trying to be assertive and how to avoid them. So you stand up for yourself and keep your conversations respectful and productive. Like what you hear? Subscribe to this podcast and leave a 5 star review.———Want a FREE communication tip each week?&nbsp;<a href="https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/newsletter" rel="noopener noreferrer">Click here to join my newsletter.</a> Watch my podcast on&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@jeffersonfisher" rel="noopener noreferrer">YouTube</a> Follow me on&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher" rel="noopener noreferrer">Instagram</a> Follow me on&nbsp;<a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/" rel="noopener noreferrer">LinkedIn</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices" rel="noopener noreferrer">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a>

How to Sound Assertive

Need to have a difficult conversation, but you're not sure what to say or how to say it? In this episode, I’m revealing 3 simple steps to confidently approach your next hard conversation. I'll guide you through the exact words to use, how to maintain your composure, and make sure your message is heard. Plus, I share several phrases you must avoid to keep the conversation productive and respectful. Like what you hear? Subscribe to this podcast and leave a 5 star review.——— Pre-Order my book <a href="https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book">The Next Conversation</a> Want a FREE communication tip each week? <a href="https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/newsletter">Click here to join my newsletter.</a> Watch my podcast on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@jeffersonfisher">YouTube</a> Follow me on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher">Instagram</a> Follow me on <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/">LinkedIn</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a>

Need to have a difficult conversation, but you're not sure what to say or how to say it? In this episode, I’m revealing 3 simple steps to confidently approach your next hard conversation. I'll guide you through the exact words to use, how to maintain your composure, and make sure your message is heard. Plus, I share several phrases you must avoid to keep the conversation productive and respectful. Like what you hear? Subscribe to this podcast and leave a 5 star review. ——— Pre-Order my book The Next Conversation Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Need to have a difficult conversation, but you're not sure what to say or how to say it? In this episode, I’m revealing 3 simple steps to confidently approach your next hard conversation. I'll guide you through the exact words to use, how to maintain your composure, and make sure your message is heard. Plus, I share several phrases you must avoid to keep the conversation productive and respectful. Like what you hear? Subscribe to this podcast and leave a 5 star review.——— Pre-Order my book <a href="https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Next Conversation</a> Want a FREE communication tip each week?&nbsp;<a href="https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/newsletter" rel="noopener noreferrer">Click here to join my newsletter.</a> Watch my podcast on&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@jeffersonfisher" rel="noopener noreferrer">YouTube</a> Follow me on&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher" rel="noopener noreferrer">Instagram</a> Follow me on&nbsp;<a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/" rel="noopener noreferrer">LinkedIn</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices" rel="noopener noreferrer">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a>

How to Have a Difficult Conversation

Communicate with confidence and make your next conversation the one that changes everything. Every episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast is packed with actionable communication strategies you can implement today. Argue less and talk more. New episodes drop every week. Pre-Order my book <a href="https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book">The Next Conversation</a> Subscribe to my <a href="https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/newsletter">Newsletter</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a>

Communicate with confidence and make your next conversation the one that changes everything. Every episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast is packed with actionable communication strategies you can implement today. Argue less and talk more. New episodes drop every week. Pre-Order my book The Next Conversation Subscribe to my Newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Communicate with confidence and make your next conversation the one that changes everything. Every episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast is packed with actionable communication strategies you can implement today. Argue less and talk more. New episodes drop every week. Pre-Order my book <a href="https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Next Conversation</a> Subscribe to my <a href="https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/newsletter" rel="noopener noreferrer">Newsletter</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices" rel="noopener noreferrer">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a>

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