The Kelly Trach Show

"Fear can be extremely telling & useful depending on your perspective & how you choose to move forward."

Today on the podcast, I have my friend Jenna Dailey on the show and this conversation is so real, human, and honest. You'll feel like you are at a wooden table in a coffee shop sipping matcha lattes with us.

Female friendships, finding your soul sisters, and building a community can be hard - especially if you have a lot of worries or fear about female relationships. We start off talking about female friendships and the process she went through to unlearn and relearn what that even meant to her.

Jenna also shares about how learning from female teachers also shifted her perception of women and when she realized that women can be fierce and tender, strong and soft, wild and balanced, and much more multi-dimensional than the narrow box that society likes to place women in and what we might have learned from the media growing up.

We also talk a lot about surrendering to the process, allowing what is, and honoring the journey. Jenna also shares that the self-development journey and leveling up your life takes effort - it's not a "5 quick hacks" deal. It's a never-ending and ongoing journey that's a mess, difficult, and takes time.

This conversation is so genuine and you'll feel right at home. So, grab your favorite hot beverage, curl up on the couch, and hang out with us for the hour.

About Jenna:

Jenna Dailey is a photographer, storyteller, yoga teacher and social media specialist by trade.

Somewhere along her path, creative expression became an intrinsic part of her identity and now she constantly seeks out opportunities to put her creativity to work. Jenna's core values, which she puts into practice daily, are creativity, connection, choice, passion and nature.

When she's not working, she's pursuing her passions of traveling the world, hiking, writing, and seeking out opportunities to experience, learn and grow. And she lives to spend time with family and friends, read real books and yes, run an occasional Netflix marathon every now and then.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- "You have to try new things. You have to be a beginner. And you have to be okay where you are, wherever you are."

- Other women's success doesn't take away anything from you or detract from what you have. (+ This notion of community and collaboration versus competition with other women).

- How to be more intentional with social media. (+ How Jenna used Instagram as a place to appreciate strong women and get inspired by all the ways women can be multi-dimensional).

- "It's just catching yourself in the moment and then making the conscious shift to look at it in a different perspective."

- How to let go of perfectionism and trying to make it all immaculate.

- The relationship between perfectionism and expectation. (+ How letting go of being perfect was so freeing and allowed Jenna to be more present).

- How to cultivate a better relationship with social media. (+ How Jenna uses Instagram to inspire her but also has personal boundaries around it).

- About the power of presence and how Jenna has grown this practice in her life by mono tasking, slowing down, and doing one thing at a time.

- How has learning from female teachers shifted Jenna's perception of women. (+ The a-ha moment that women can be multifaceted versus thinking that strong women only looked a certain way - which is something we might have grown up assuming like I did).

- That "fear can be extremely telling and useful depending on your perspective and how you choose to move forward."

- That the journey and the process really is the destination. There is no end as much as we're all seeking this "final destination" in personal development.

Resources Mentioned:

- The Inner Circle

- Your Best Life

- Everything Bagel Seasoning from Trader Joes

- Rock Your Bliss

- Jacki Carr and Mary Beth LaRue

- Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski

- Mary Beth LaRue's yoga mentorship program

- Marie Kondo

- Rupi Kaur

- Permission to Slow the Fuck Down by Jenna Dailey

- Fuck Perfect by Jenna Dailey

- The Originals by Adam Grant

- The Tipping Point by Malcom Gladwell

- Defining Decade by Meg Jay

Find Jenna:

Instagram: @_jennadailey

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Find Kelly:

Instagram: @kellytrach

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Music for The Kelly Trach Show is by Ikson: soundcloud.com/ikson

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"The practice of coming home is continual."

You are in for a treat today, my friend! Jess Robson is here on the podcast and this conversation is so refreshing, nourishing, and filled with those "me too" moments. Jess is a copywriter, a freelance creative, and a hand-lettering pro and you are so going to dig our chat today. Her words really are like honey!

Today, we're talking about owning who you really are, how that process unfolded for Jess and this notion of coming home to yourself. This includes embracing your humanness, loving the mess, and accepting what is.

Jess is someone who embodies true realness and full self-expression and I knew she was just the person to share about the journey of rerouting back to your truth. This path can definitely be a rocky one full of "shoulds" and following social norms and we talk about having the courage to align with what is true for you.

Plus, we also chat about making bold leaps and how you know it's time to jump. In this chat, Jess intimately shares her leaps into the unknown and the markers along her path which illuminated her decision. We also deep dive on big, heart-centered topics like trust, faith, and allowing for the divine unfolding in your life (versus trying to force it all on your watch).

So my friend, grab your notebook and dive into this conversation with Jess and I for the hour. This is a note-taking, a-ha moment inducing podcast episode if I've ever heard one myself! I hope you love this chat just as much as I do.

About Jess:

Jess Robson is a copywriter and freelance creative supporting entrepreneurs, business owners and brands in infusing their impact into their messaging, helping them speak their value into the world with power and purpose. Over five years as an entrepreneur, and supported by the endless years of voracious journaling and language-love, Jess has cultivated a 100% referral based business with clients from all corners of this fine planet we call home.

Because words are everything in her world (and idle hands aren't a thing she's ever had), before copywriting really took off, Jess kick-started a passion for handlettering. Inspired by endless Youtube videos of lettering pros and armed with a cheap set of brushes, she put her hands to work and has established a custom-created line of prints (and more!), where words that leave a mark on her clients are expressed as art. And! Coming soon...the 'Robson' letters will be a font! #neat.

Beyond the copy and the creative, Jess is an intrepid explorer, a passionate listener, a facilitator, speaker, bourbon-drinker and sea-to-sky living Squamish resident who's on a mission to bring a little more love to the world in the form of self-expression, empathy, and soul-deep connection.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- Why the process is so important to Jess. Especially understanding that things happen in divine timing versus on your clock. (+ Her value of "process" and how she describes it).

- About Jess' concept of "Naked Sundays" and how to put yourself first and fill up your cup.

- How to be yourself and be cool with it.

- How Jess' practice of goal setting illuminated how afraid she was about failure.

- That "the practice of coming home is continual." And that it's a constant evolution.

- How to take up space in this world and breathe deeply knowing that your uniqueness isn't wrong.

- About the importance of speaking up and as Jess perfectly shared: "exactly when I'm getting pinched off is exactly when I need to speak."

- How to find a safe place and a person who can hold space for you to share your truth without judgment or pressure.

- That the art of expressing yourself consciously sometimes comes from a quick pump of the breaks and asking yourself: "what do I want to say? What do I need to say?" Then, finding the words and a safe place to express it. (I love how Jess explains this in today's episode).

- How to make the leap and when you know that you're ready to commit wholeheartedly.

- That when we get lost in self-imposed "shoulds" and expectations, we lose ourselves, voice, and purpose. (+ The moment when Jess realized that she was no longer herself).

- What to do when you get caught up in the "one-way-ness" of schools, organizations, cultures, and groups and how to find another way that feels creative, generative, and expressive of who you are.

- How to get out the scarcity mindset and lean into abundance when it comes to our gifts and sharing our work. (+ The reminder that generous breeds more generosity).

- How to trust that your service and voice is needed in the world. (+ How to cultivate that trust as well on a deep, soulful level).

- How you are only responsible for your work and once you release your gifts, it's no longer on you. This means surrendering and trusting the Universe that what is meant for you will come to you.

- That trust, faith, and diving off the diving board is a learned practice. (+ Jess' mantra: "inhale trust and love, exhale faith and patience").

- "With faith and patience, it's the ability to know that what's going to happen is going to happen at the right time and that it's all coming."

- About the power of listening. (+ How complete listening is a generous act and a tool to connect. It's a way we can hear someone's purpose behind their words).

Resources Mentioned:

- Fergie's Cafe in Squamish, BC

- Scandinave Spa in Whistler, BC

- The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer

- The Juice Truck

- On Writing by Stephen King

- Copy School

- Ladyvana & Girlvana Retreats

- Alex Mazerolle

- Russian Stacking Dolls

- Is Your Competitiveness Rooted in Scarcity? — The Kelly Trach Show

- The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron

- Ryan Leier

Find Jess:

Instagram: @jessrobson

jessicarobson.com

(+ Photos of Jess are by Jeremy Jude Lee)

Find Kelly:

Instagram: @kellytrach

kellytrach.com

Music for The Kelly Trach Show is by Ikson: soundcloud.com/ikson

Support for today's show comes from:

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Unearth your divine talents & own them.

So often, we are the only ones who can't see our own greatness. It's like everyone else can see it, but we can't see it in ourselves. (It's like that friend who is hilarious but just doesn't believe it when you tell him).

In this episode, you'll discover how to find your distinct gifts and the unique expression of your soul. And, more importantly, how to fully own your gifts. This my friend, is where the real inner work transpires because this is when you expand and choose to show up as the person you truly are.

Plus, I also explain the importance of shedding who you are NOT and letting go of that baggage to "fit in." This is such a part of the process as we strip away the "shoulds," the desire to be well-rounded, and as we stop trying to be so good at everything that we block our own brilliance. (You'll hear about my own example of this in terms of trying to be great at Excel so I could put it on my resume versus just owning the fact that I'm a natural at public speaking).

Owning my zone of genius and sharing my gifts publicly (and for a living) has taken me years to master. So, I'm guiding you closer to your own truth and enabling you to embody your divine gifts much faster than I did.

So, tune in and grab your notebook. This episode is for you my friend. 

- Why being well-rounded is overrated. (+ How if you try to be a master of everything, you become a master of none).

- How to fully embrace your gifts and see your own zone of genius.

- Why everyone else might see your divine genius, but not you. (+ Why we sometimes think that when things come easy and natural to us, it's not a gift or a skill because we haven't "earned" it or "proved it" to anyone).

- How to own who you really are. (+ How to start showing up as your real self, versus how you think you should appear). 

- About the questions, you should ask yourself in order to own your genius. 

- Why you need to shed the metaphorical snakeskin and release who you are NOT in order to become who you really are. (+ And this is the most freeing part, so woohoo!)

- The Inner Circle. A monthly subscription where I've combined all of my secrets to elevated personal growth in one place: proven strategy, intimate life coaching, and a deep-rooted tribe. This group has accountability when you need it, the soul sisters you've been seeking, a built-in support system, and loving guidance from me. 

- Your Best Life. My online, self-study, best-selling course on how to build a life you love by starting with the inner work first and mastering your mindset

- Good to Great by Jim Collins

Instagram: @kellytrach

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Music for The Kelly Trach Show is by Ikson: soundcloud.com/ikson

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"Knowing how to restore and having tools to bring us back to our truth allows us to be human & connect."

It's such a treat and a pleasure to bring you Jacki Carr today on the podcast! 

Jacki is a goal coach and co-founder of Rock Your Bliss and she's one of those people who just speaks my language. I knew that from the moment I first met her that she was someone I definitely wanted to learn from. She's got that magnetic personality and the truth bombs that really make you lean in and listen.

In this divine episode, we talk about the soulful side of goal setting. We deep dive on trusting the timing of your life, what to do when goals aren't working out and the concept of being attached versus committed to your visions. Jacki also shares about her practice of spiritual surrender and letting go when it comes to goals and how being fluid and flowing with your life vision is the only way to do it.

Jacki also shares about the bliss work and why we block love and light out of our lives. We chat about clearing old stories and getting really honest and true about what old narratives we are still playing out in the present.

I've so loved learning from Jacki Carr over the last few years and it's such a delight to share her radiant light and wisdom with you. So tune in and grab your notebook - Jacki has all sorts of golden nuggets in this episode!

Jacki Carr is a goal coach, writer, motivational speaker and Mama. She is the co-creator of Rock Your Bliss, a transformation company with a mission to bring your intentions to action. As a leader in transformation, her coaching style includes real + honest conversations and true connection to your most powerful and whole self. 

She has her Lightyear Leadership certification, her 200hr Yoga Teacher Certification, and Gems of Excellence Level 1 & 2 certifications. Jacki has worked with companies such as Patagonia, lululemon, Manduka, Facebook, TOMS and NIKE on leadership and culture. She believes in a World where we all truly belong and each and every one of us has unique gifts to contribute. 

You can find Jacki in Evergreen, Colorado hiking with her man, little girl Evi with a little one on the way and two pups all over the Rocky Mountains.

- About goal failures and what happens when you don't get the goals. (+ How goals are not always rainbows and butterflies).

- About the spiritual surrender and letting go in the process of intentional goal setting.

- How to physically let things go.

- How to trial and error the goals practice to find your own intentional style.

- The difference between attached and committed to your goals. (+ How one is supportive and dynamic and the other is rooted in control and rigid). 

- "My commitment to a goal is to the process, to myself, and to the request I've made to myself to make this goal possible."

- How goals can't happen by yourself.

- "The depth of our humanness is in the depth of our light and darkness."

- The importance of not forcing goals to make it happen with a super tight grip.

- About checking in to make sure that your goals are heart-centered and not crafted to prove yourself, get validation or external appreciation from others.

- About setting goals and intentions that are aligned with your values. (+ How to flow with your goals rather than force them).

- About how Jacki and I have the intention to have fun. (+ How to not take yourself too seriously to be in the flow).

- How to explore boundaries with goals. (As in not taking on other people's vision of your life and you not forcing goals on other people).

- The importance of checking in physically to see your your boundaries land and what your inner critics

- How to make your own boundary mantra. 

- How to let go of beliefs that don't serve you.

- That "love is an inhale and an exhale. Just like a breath." (How beautiful is that?)

- Why it's so important to let go of old beliefs and actively choose new ones.

- The importance of learning from someone who speaks your language. (+ Pick your teachers on purpose).

- Jacki's book club: Novel Grapes

- Mary Beth LaRue

- 7-Weeks to Bliss

- Hold on Loosely by 38 Special

- Lightyear Leadership by Susanne Conrad

- Angela Simson on Gratitude, Cultivating Deep Relationships & Getting Clear on Your Stories - Kelly Trach

- Emotional Ice Cream — Jacki Carr

- Jacki's Bookshelf

- Brene Brown

- The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

- Eastern Body Western Mind by Anodea Judith

- How Great Leaders Inspire Action by Simon Sineck

- The Four Tenancies by Gretchen Rubin

Instagram: @jackicarr

jackicarr.com

rockyourblissmovement.com

Instagram: @rockyourbliss

Instagram: @kellytrach

kellytrach.com

Music for The Kelly Trach Show is by Ikson: soundcloud.com/ikson

Four Sigmatic 

No jitters, packed with superfoods, and no stomach flare-ups like regular coffee. P.S. my friends at Four Sigmatic are offering you 15% off your order (anytime!) so use the code: "kellytrach" at checkout.

Angela Simson is a female health and happiness coach, writer and speaker. She is the creator of The Gratitude Project blog which inspires thousands of women to step into their light and live their best life. Angela is also the mind behind 30 Days Of Self Care and The Gratitude Transformation and has added cacao-filled joy into many kitchens with her recipe book Treat Your Tastebuds. Through her time as an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, Angela has coached dozens of women personally through her private coaching practice and hundreds more with her online program.

Angela is one hundred percent committed to giving women the tools to completely change their lives through small acts of gratitude, tweaks in nourishing their bodies and the power to create what they desire in their relationships, career and personal lives.

Gratitude turns what we have into enough, sometimes we just need to clear the fog to see the magic right in front of us.

- That the magic of gratitude comes when you find it in a way that encourages growth - not just appreciation for the moments that feel like sparkles and rainbows.

- How to see the gratitude in both the good and the bad.

- How to find heart-felt gratitude that's deep and true to your soul. And as Ange shares, "it's true gratitude when you are brought to tears."

- Why it's so important to feel your feelings of anger, frustration, and anxiety, not just slap on gratitude and ignore it. Ange explains that "our body needs to release emotions before we go into gratitude or appreciation."

- If you radiate what you are seeking, Law of Attraction can find you easier.

- How to let yourself feel more emotions, no matter what your ego says.

- How to clear your stories by looking at past examples when you did have abundance in your own life.

- How Ange makes lists in her phone that reminder her of all the strategies which enable her to shift in the moment. (I love this idea!)

- That sometimes we get a little self-indulgent with what our "hard" is and it's so worth feeling it and then putting it in perspective.

- What Ange had to unlearn about female relationship. (+ Her journey from attending an all-girls school to leading The Gratitude Gang with Kate Caddle and coaching heart-centered women).

- How to stop putting expectations on yourself and others.

Kira Willey

Rule Your Routine by Hugh Simson

Kate Caddle

Kate Caddle on Self-Comparison, Social Media & Overcoming Perfectionism on The Kelly Trach Show

Tony Robbins

Jess Lively

The Lively Show

The Greatest Showman

Emotional Ice Cream by Jacki Carr

Open Wide by Melissa Ambrosini

Open Wide with Melissa Ambrosini and Ange Simson

Creating Real Connections by Ange Simson

The Gratitude Gang

The Tapping Solution by Nick Ortner

Code of the Extraordinary Mind by Vishen Lakhiani

High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard

the-gratitude-project.com

Instagram: @gratitude_project

Facebook: The Gratitude Project

Instagram: @kellytrach

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Music for The Kelly Trach Show is by Ikson: soundcloud.com/ikson

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