The No Contact Club: Healing From A Narcissistic Mother

By Chloe and PorshaHealth & Fitness Mental Health

The No Contact Club: Healing From A Narcissistic Mother episodes

December 04, 2020 Episode Twenty Four: Let's Talk 2020
This week Chloe and Porsha keep it lowkey and discuss 2020 - the rollercoaster that it has been, the lows, the highs, and the cats. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at [email protected]. If you need support, please see the numbers below. Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ NEW ZEALAND: Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) AUSTRALIA: Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre. USA: Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word UK: Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 CANADA: For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
57 min
November 24, 2020 Episode Twenty Three: The No Contact Club Holiday Special
This week Porsha and Chloe discuss tips for the approaching holiday season, whatever - you celebrate don't celebrate! They talk about options for those still in contact, and those who are no contact.
If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at [email protected]. If you need support, please see the numbers below.
Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
NEW ZEALAND:
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
AUSTRALIA:
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
USA:
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
UK:
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
CANADA:
For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
References:
https://esteemology.com/give-yourself-a-gift-this-holiday-season-a-lesson-in-no-contact/
https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=123773
https://londoncentralcounselling.com/2017/12/05/going-no-contact-family-estrangement-at-christmas-and-other-major-holidays/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/pathological-relationships/201011/triggers-and-knee-jerk-reactions-during-the-holidays
https://www.soulfulfillinglove.com/how-to-follow-the-active-no-contact-rule-during-holidays/
https://www.divorcemag.com/articles/why-do-narcissists-always-ruin-the-holidays-here-are-5-reasons
https://www.health.com/relationships/how-to-deal-narcissist
https://soulgps.medium.com/5-strategies-to-save-your-sanity-when-narcissists-try-to-sabotage-your-holidays-3d7d7dc7af27
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201911/how-deal-gaslighter-or-narcissist-during-the-holidays
48 min
November 17, 2020Episode Twenty Two: Surprise! Your Mother-in-law is a Narcissist
This week, Porsha and Chloe are joined by Ellen to discuss what it's like to come into a family with a narcissistic mother at the helm. They talk about normalising what shouldn't be normalised, and Ellen discusses her experiences coming into the family with Chloe and Porsha's narcissistic mother. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at [email protected]. If you need support, please see the numbers below.
Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
NEW ZEALAND:
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
AUSTRALIA:
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
USA:
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
UK:
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
CANADA:
For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
References:
https://www.insider.com/signs-of-narcissistic-toxic-parents-in-law-2019-9

https://www.image.ie/life/everyone-thinks-narcissistic-mother-law-amazing-feel-alone-183158

https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2017/12/how-to-survive-a-narcissistic-mother-in-law/
56 min
November 03, 2020 Episode Twenty One: Was It Really Abuse?
This week on the podcast, Chloe and Porsha discuss the idea of not believing what you experienced was abuse. They talk about the normalisation of abuse and hesitation to label it as such. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at [email protected]. If you need support, please see the numbers below.
Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
NEW ZEALAND:
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
AUSTRALIA:
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
USA:
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
UK:
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
CANADA: For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
References:
39 min
October 27, 2020 Episode Twenty: Let's Talk Therapy
This week Chloe and Porsha discuss therapy: what to look for in a therapist, where to look for one, and what the journey was like for them. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at [email protected]. If you need support, please see the numbers below.
Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
NEW ZEALAND:
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
AUSTRALIA:
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
USA:
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
UK:
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
CANADA:
For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
References:
53 min
October 13, 2020 Episode Nineteen: Let's Talk Triggers
This week, Chloe and Porsha answer a few emails from listeners before having a discussion about triggers.
If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at [email protected]. If you need support, please see the numbers below.
Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
NEW ZEALAND:
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
AUSTRALIA:
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
USA:
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
UK:
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
CANADA: For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
References:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trauma_trigger
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK207191/
https://www.verywellmind.com/ptsd-triggers-and-coping-strategies-2797557
https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/complex-ptsd-symptoms-behavior-and-treatment/
38 min
September 28, 2020Episode Eighteen: Codependency
This week, Chloe and Porsha are discussing codependency. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at [email protected]. If you need support, please see the numbers below.

Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
NEW ZEALAND:
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
AUSTRALIA:
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
USA:
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
UK:
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
CANADA: For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
References:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/toxic-relationships/201907/narcissists-are-codependent-too#:~:text=Codependency%20is%20a%20disorder%20of,identified%20with%20their%20ideal%20self.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/toxic-relationships/201902/escaping-the-codependent-narcissist-trap

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/codependency-narcissism-may-have-more-in-common-than-you-think-0807187

https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-dance-between-codependents-narcissists/

https://www.whatiscodependency.com/narcissistic-relationships-with-narcissists/

https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/the-relationship-between-narcissism-and-codependency/

https://go.gale.com/ps/anonymous?id=GALE%7CA539922311&sid=googleScholar&v=2.1&it=r&linkaccess=abs&issn=15205495&p=AONE&sw=w

Codependence, Narcissism, and Childhood Trauma by Harvey J. Irwin of the University of New England, Australia (accessed through the Open Polytechnic library).
47 min
September 22, 2020 Episode Seventeen: Feeling Empowered After No Contact
This week, Porsha and Chloe answer a listeners question on how to feel strong after going no contact with a narcissistic mother. They discuss coping mechanisms and ways to look after yourself. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at [email protected]. If you need support, please see the numbers below.
Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
NEW ZEALAND:
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
AUSTRALIA:
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
USA:
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
UK:
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
CANADA:
For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
42 min
September 15, 2020 Episode Sixteen: The Trauma Bond
This week, Porsha and Chloe are discussing the trauma bond - similar to Stockholm Syndrome, and tricky to identify.
If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at [email protected]. If you need support, please see the numbers below.
Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
NEW ZEALAND:
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
AUSTRALIA:
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
USA:
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
UK:
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
CANADA:
For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
References:
https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to-recognize-the-signs-of-trauma-bonding/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/addiction-and-recovery/201905/trauma-bonding-codependency-and-narcissistic-abuse
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Traumatic_bonding
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/10-steps-to-recovering-from-toxic-trauma-bond-0110175
https://psychcentral.com/lib/symptoms-of-codependency/
19 min
September 08, 2020 Episode Fifteen: Let's Talk Mental Health
It's a low-key kind of week this week as Chloe and Porsha have a conversation about controlling the narrative, paranoia, and waxing?!
If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at [email protected]. If you need support, please see the numbers below.
Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
NEW ZEALAND:
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
AUSTRALIA:
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
USA:
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
UK:
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
CANADA:
For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
31 min

About The No Contact Club: Healing From A Narcissistic Mother

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Two sisters from New Zealand discuss life after going no contact with their narcissistic mother. Chloe and Porsha will give you insight into how to spot a narcissist and how to heal.