The Angry Therapist Podcast

The Pressure to Make Them Proud: Letting Go of Conditional Love


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What happens when love feels like pressure - when “I’m proud of you” never came? In this honest conversation, John Kim and John Wang, author of Big Asian Energy, talk about growing up with parents who equated love with achievement, and what it takes to finally feel enough on your own terms.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

  • The invisible weight of trying to make your parents proud
  • Why love often sounds like pressure in achievement-driven families
  • The difference between being accepted and truly belonging
  • Healing generational patterns of sacrifice and self-doubt
  • Redefining success to include joy, rest, and self-worth
  • 📘 John Wang’s book, Big Asian Energy, is available HERE and wherever books are sold.

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    John Wang's Website HERE


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