"I felt that if I couldn't get it out emotionally it would affect me physically" - Denise Cullington

Psychoanalyst and writer Denise Cullington joins Samantha Baines to discuss her divorce over twenty years ago. Denise talks about dealing with emotions as a trained psychoanalyst, why it's important to have good men in your life and how divorce caused her to swap painting for

Psychotherapy. Sam finds out what psychotherapy actually is and Denise explains how our past can underpin our present.

Trigger warning:

cancer

"run as fast as you can to the middle of nowhere" - Jen McGuire (and Pink)

Writer Jen McGuire joins Samantha Baines to discuss how the artist Pink encouraged her to leave her husband as well as her movie moment at an actual crossroads. Having your first child at 21, divorced at 30 and dealing with your kids leaving the nest all feature. The two discuss break up anthems, the importance of asking for help and that sometimes getting Chinese food and watching Bring It On is the best medicine.

Jen's book is called Nest.

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"I hired a divorce assistant" - Diane

Sitcom writer Diane Burroughs joins Samantha Baines to talk divorce after twenty four years of marriage. Working with your ex, finding your ex an apartment and sticking post it notes on your furniture all feature. Diane introduces Sam to the 'look back' and why it's so important to let go of it and how flash mobs changed her life! Sam is very excited by the idea of a break up assistant to help the process along and Diane teaches her about the menopause.

Trigger warning:

cheating

mental health

perimenopause

suicide

Diane on socials: @left50

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"I feel like I've been three different people" - Liz

Actor Liz Hume-Dawson joins Samantha Baines to talk divorce that feels like a lifetime ago. The two discuss friends/relatives telling them they can drop out of the wedding and Liz knowing things aren't working five years before the separation. Liz discusses the way we keep things to ourselves, dealing with the in-laws, the way things build up and the legacy of a mushroom pate. Her break up led Liz to train as an actress, remarry and feel free.

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"I was basically taking a lethal dose of alcohol and drugs to get to sleep" - Laura Cathcart-Robbins

Laura Cathcart-Robbins joins Samantha Baines to talk divorce and addiction. Laura openly talks about "improvising her education", entering into her marriage lying and using alcohol and drugs to 'cope'. The two discuss the five stages of grief, the importance of asking for help and Laura lets us know how much it costs to check into recovery in the US and the difficulties of getting divorced and sober at the same time.

Laura talks about the journey of first hiding and then sharing her story plus still having Thanksgiving with her ex husband every year.

Trigger warnings:

addiction

violence

abuse

Laura's podcast is The Only One

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"it was a bonfire of the whole of my life" - Jennifer Crichton

Journalist and Founder of The Flock Jennifer Crichton joins Samantha Baines to talk divorce. Jennifer talks tough emotional trauma and the experience she had with her new-born son's illness in intensive care for the first few months of his life. Living in a foreign country, illness and then losing all your possessions before you even get divorced, Jennifer explains that her most difficult times were actually before her separation. The two discuss career as part of your identity, dating new people and having a good looking friend.

Trigger warnings:

newborn/baby illness

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"I started to go blind" - Poppy Delbridge

Tapping teacher Poppy Delbridge joins Samantha Baines to talk getting married at 18, divorce, being a single Mum and starting to go blind. The two talk about catalysts, grief and have a great chat about seeing a different penis for the first time. Samantha shares her crying during sex fears, setting up that first time post break up and the two discuss clothes as part of your identity. An upbeat chat and a tapping exercise to follow too.

Trigger warning:

death/grief

blindness

sex

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"I viewed my divorce like a project" - Fidel Beauhill

The Modern Man Fidel Beauhill joins Sam to discuss his divorce and coaching other men. Fidel talks about 'obsess appointments', jealousy and testosterone. Sam challenges Fidel on the subject of consent and the two have a great discussion about sex and men's views around consent. Fidel discusses self-sabotage and the trend with men of jumping straight into a new relationships and lonliness. The two discuss sexual explosions, online dating and doing the work.

Trigger warning:

consent

rape

cancer

pets dying

Book:

Divorce a Modern Man's Guide

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"Your divorce is not about your ex, it's about you" - Tosh Brittan

The Divorce Goddess Tosh Brittan joins Samantha Baines to chat divorce, her daughter trying on her wedding dress, the 'family ring' and the importance of not throwing everything away. Tosh talks separating at the beginning of a month long road trip, going bankrupt, going through the attic memories and using your divorce as a kindness experiment. Some lovely exercises and words of wisdom from Tosh's mindfulness coaching work too.

Trigger warning:

bankruptcy

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