THE SHADOW SIDE OF NICE GUY IDENTITY

*(This is part of the module from the upcoming course DISMANTLING THE NICE GUY IDENTITY)

Nice guys aren’t all that nice, it turns out.

Nice guys are often holding in a lot of anger.  Sometimes the quantity of this anger can easily qualify as rage.

Nice guys are often quite jealous and envious of other men and often act in underhanded way to hurt or sabotage men they are envious off.

Nice guys often are full of resentment.

Nice guys tend to be two-faced, and can thus come across as creepy.  People perceive something incoherent in their niceness.  People don’t entirely buy the nice guy’s niceness, causing them distrust the nice guy.

Nice guys are often passive aggressive and hurtful in other ways.

Nice guys are quite judgmental of others — both men and women.  They are judgmental of men who seem to be having success in life and with women in spite of not being nice.  And they are judgmental of women who don’t seem to appreciate their niceness and/or reciprocate their niceness with desire.

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