Energy Works

The ‘Should’ Trap: How to Build Habits You Actually Want


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In this episode of Energy Works, Blaine and Lauren tackle the exhausting pressure of constantly feeling like you “should” be doing something - whether it’s sticking to a rigid self-improvement plan or living up to other people’s expectations.

Blaine shares her experience with the endless “shoulds” that pop up around yoga and spiritual practices and how quickly that mindset can turn into frustration and burnout.

They dig into how this pressure can backfire, leading to self-criticism and even resistance to the things you actually care about. 

This episode introduces a straightforward three-step process to help you move away from self-judgment and create healthier habits rooted in genuine choice. Blaine also shares a reflective technique to identify and work through the mental blocks that often keep you stuck.

If you’ve ever felt weighed down by self-imposed expectations, this conversation offers practical tools for creating a more relaxed, intentional approach to personal growth.

What’s in This Episode:
- Why the “should” mindset drains your energy and creates resistance
- The impact of comparison and internalized expectations
- A personal pandemic story that reshaped Blaine’s approach to self-care
- Practical journaling exercises to uncover hidden resistance
- A three-step method for building healthier habits


🎧 Tune in now and take one small step toward a more balanced, intentional approach to growth.


How ‘Should’ Makes Us Stupid — And How to Get Smart Again on Medium:
https://medium.com/curious/how-should-makes-us-stupid-and-how-to-get-smart-again-6815a9460302

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