Have you ever found yourself caught in the complicated dance of self-sabotage, where the haunting echoes of past trauma manifest as destructive behavior, over using substances and withdrawal from the world? In this Language of Love Session, Pamela opens up about her struggles with self-sabotaging behavior and past trauma, including excessive drinking and withdrawing from people due to past abuse.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

Maintaining self-love and overcoming self-sabotaging behavior

The impact of past trauma on self-perception and behavior

The importance of acknowledging and speaking about past trauma 

The role of somatic experiencing therapy in healing trauma 

The physical symptoms and coping mechanisms associated with unresolved trauma 

Finding peace, love, and happiness within oneself


Remember, the journey toward self-love and healing is a continuous process, but with the right tools and support, it is indeed possible.
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The Struggle with Self-Sabotage

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In this Language of Love Session, I catch up with the amazing couple, Marla and Ken, who have been married for 38 years, to discuss the challenges and triumphs of maintaining intimacy in a long-term relationship.

If you have been following Ken and Marla's journey, you're probably eager to hear about their progress. And if you're new to their story, I highly recommend catching up on their previous episodes—it's been quite a ride!

Marla and Ken open up about their emotional highs and lows, including the impact of losing a close friend and struggles with finding the right therapist and committing to daily connection exercises. We also delve into their struggles with self-criticism and their pursuit of joy within their partnership. So, let's dive right in and see how things have been unfolding since our last session.

We discuss:

Challenges in expressing love and connection in the relationship

Importance of foundational activities for maintaining a strong connection

Suggestions for building physical and emotional intimacy

Identifying specific actions to nurture emotional bonds and self-care


Don't forget to explore my free course on Quantum Sex! It's designed to elevate your sexual experience to new heights. Simply visit the homepage of my website to get started. Until next time!


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Navigating the Tides of Intimacy

Are you tired of the same old snooze fest in the bedroom? Are you craving a wild, spine-tingling adventure that will leave you breathless and begging for more? Well, my friend, you've come to the right place!

In this Language of Love Bite, I'm excited to dive into a topic that's both fun and informative. I'm going to share with you my insights on five sexual positions that women find enjoyable. We also get cozy with spooning, discussing the intimacy it brings to your connection with your partner. And let's not forget the Yab Yum and Cat Technique – I explain how these positions can enhance your connection and really activate the G-spot.

Let’s dive in!

I'm all about experimentation and finding what works best for you and your body, so visit my website for all my courses, books, and products that will definitely heighten your pleasure. I even have a course on quantum sex to help you explore further!
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Exploring the Peaks of Female Pleasure

Imagine having a blueprint for love that empowers you to design the kind of love that fulfills you, lifts you up, and sets you free.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I’m sitting down with two remarkable guests. Joining me is  Mark Groves, a human connection specialist and founder of Create the Love, and Kylie McBeath, a certified health coach and host of the Journey Home podcast. Together, they form a powerhouse couple who have co-authored the book “Liberated Love.”

Mark and Kylie introduce us to the concept of liberated love, a term that encapsulates a commitment to truth, transparency, and honoring each other's individual paths in a relationship. This approach to love is about not trying to fix or control one another but rather supporting each other's growth and authenticity.

Their personal journey, which they candidly share, took them from a phase they refer to as relationship 1.0—a time marked by unconscious dynamics and codependency—to a transformative period they call the sacred pause. This mutual uncoupling allowed them to embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth, which eventually led them back to each other, ready to begin relationship 2.0, a renewed and more conscious partnership.

Here is what we unpack with Kylie and Mark:

The concept of “liberated love” and its principles

The significance of the “sacred pause” in relationships

An exploration of codependency in relationships

Recognition of blind spots and masks in relationships

Self-awareness, healing from codependency, and personal growth before entering new relationships

Intergenerational patterns and societal influences in shaping beliefs about relationships


Check out Liberated Love by Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath. Whether you're single, in a relationship, exploring a transition, or seeking growth, this book is for you. You can also find Mark on Create the Love and Kylie on Instagram for more inspiring content. Also, do not forget to check my website for more resources to take your intimacy to the next level.
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The Path to Liberated Love with Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath

In this episode of Language of Love, I am featuring another session from the Good Grief Day event, and this time we have speaker and author Anita Moorjani. Anita's story is nothing short of miraculous. She was grappling with end-stage cancer, her body riddled with tumors, and she was on the verge of what seemed like an inevitable end. But it was in this moment of extreme physical depletion that Anita experienced something extraordinary—a near-death experience that would change her life forever.

She also explores the significance of joy in our lives and the comforting idea that our departed loved ones are still with us in some form. During the Q&A segment, she offers her perspective on what the afterlife might hold for controversial figures, discussing the notion of personal growth beyond the traditional view of eternal punishment. 

We explore:

Cultural conditioning and societal expectations impacting Anita's illness

Anita's miraculous recovery and the importance of finding joy and uplifting energy

Communicating with deceased loved ones and the signs they send

Addressing the belief that grieving may keep loved ones trapped

The choice to operate from the highest version of oneself


Please remember to check Anita's website to learn more about her latest projects. Don't forget to grab a copy of her book "Dying to Be Me" for more insights. You can also connect with her on LinkedIn. As usual, you can visit my website for more amazing resources and courses.

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Near-Death Experience Insights on Love and Being with Anita Moorjani

In this Language of Love Bite, we're going to dive deep into a topic that's both incredibly personal and universally relevant – the five common types of trauma and how they impact our love lives and relationships.

As a sex and relationship therapist, I've seen firsthand how trauma can really shake the foundation of our self-worth and trust. We're talking about sexual trauma, physical trauma, emotional trauma, and those gut-wrenching experiences of rejection, humiliation, abandonment, and betrayal. Each one of these can leave scars that might not be visible to the eye but can be felt deeply in the heart.

I want to walk you through how these traumas can hinder us, and how they can make us put up walls where we should be building bridges. It's about understanding that when we're hurt, our instincts tell us to protect ourselves, sometimes to the point where we might push away the things we desire most – connection, intimacy, and love.

But here's the thing – and this is so important – healing is possible. I can't stress enough the value of trauma-informed therapy. Techniques like somatic experiencing can be game-changers, helping us to reconnect with our bodies and process those deep-seated emotions that we've been carrying around.

If you’re struggling, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. It's not a sign of weakness; it's a step towards recovery. And I want you to know that you're not alone in this. We're in it together, and I'm here to support you on your journey towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Remember to visit my website for tips on revitalizing your sex life: prioritize open communication, try the fantasy box, take my “Seven Days to Better Sex” course, and explore “Quantum Love.”


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The Struggle with Self-Sabotage

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