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What does it really mean to raise securely attached kids? I first came across Eli Harwood’s book Raising Securely Attached Kids on a solo trip, and it completely re-energized how I think about connection and parenting. Her words reminded me that so much of raising emotionally healthy kids starts with how we show up, not how perfect we are. It is now one of my most favorite parenting books out there.
On today’s episode, Eli and I talk about the real meaning of secure attachment, how it shows up in everyday moments, and why so many of us misunderstand it. She shares her own story of growing up with a cycle-breaking mom, how that shaped her work, and the lessons she now passes on to parents everywhere.
We discuss:
✔️ What secure attachment actually means in daily life
✔️ The four main attachment styles and how they develop
✔️ How to tell if your child feels emotionally safe with you
✔️ Why repair after conflict is one of the most powerful parenting tools
✔️ How to build lasting connection through small, consistent moments
To connect with Eli Harwood follow her on Instagram @theattachmentnerd, check out all her resources at https://attachmentnerd.com/ and purchase her books here: https://attachmentnerd.com/books
Upcoming mother daughter journal “Uniquely Us”
https://attachmentnerd.com/books/uniquely-us
Upcoming encyclopedia style book called “How to Deal With Your ____ so Your Kids Don’t Have To” created to help parents develop healthy emotional patterns!
https://attachmentnerd.com/books/how-to-deal-with-your-so-your-kids-dont-have-to
EMDR Podcast Episode: https://pedsdoctalk.com/podcast/trauma-therapy-why-you-may-need-emdr/
0:00 What Secure Attachment Really Is
1:00 Why One Safe Caregiver Changes Everything
1:58 How Dr. Mona Found Eli Harwood
3:12 Eli’s Story and Becoming Attachment Nerd
7:58 How Attachment Theory Shapes Family Patterns
10:12 Why Connection and Communication Matter
12:18 What Secure Attachment Looks Like Day to Day
19:39 The Four Attachment Styles Explained
30:13 How To Tell If Your Child Feels Emotionally Safe
32:35 Real-Life Parenting Mistakes and Repair
37:59 Four Daily Habits That Build Secure Attachment
42:56 Listening, Feedback, and Emotional Language
43:55 Repairing After Messy Moments
50:24 Final Takeaways and Where To Learn More
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By Dr. Mona Amin
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What does it really mean to raise securely attached kids? I first came across Eli Harwood’s book Raising Securely Attached Kids on a solo trip, and it completely re-energized how I think about connection and parenting. Her words reminded me that so much of raising emotionally healthy kids starts with how we show up, not how perfect we are. It is now one of my most favorite parenting books out there.
On today’s episode, Eli and I talk about the real meaning of secure attachment, how it shows up in everyday moments, and why so many of us misunderstand it. She shares her own story of growing up with a cycle-breaking mom, how that shaped her work, and the lessons she now passes on to parents everywhere.
We discuss:
✔️ What secure attachment actually means in daily life
✔️ The four main attachment styles and how they develop
✔️ How to tell if your child feels emotionally safe with you
✔️ Why repair after conflict is one of the most powerful parenting tools
✔️ How to build lasting connection through small, consistent moments
To connect with Eli Harwood follow her on Instagram @theattachmentnerd, check out all her resources at https://attachmentnerd.com/ and purchase her books here: https://attachmentnerd.com/books
Upcoming mother daughter journal “Uniquely Us”
https://attachmentnerd.com/books/uniquely-us
Upcoming encyclopedia style book called “How to Deal With Your ____ so Your Kids Don’t Have To” created to help parents develop healthy emotional patterns!
https://attachmentnerd.com/books/how-to-deal-with-your-so-your-kids-dont-have-to
EMDR Podcast Episode: https://pedsdoctalk.com/podcast/trauma-therapy-why-you-may-need-emdr/
0:00 What Secure Attachment Really Is
1:00 Why One Safe Caregiver Changes Everything
1:58 How Dr. Mona Found Eli Harwood
3:12 Eli’s Story and Becoming Attachment Nerd
7:58 How Attachment Theory Shapes Family Patterns
10:12 Why Connection and Communication Matter
12:18 What Secure Attachment Looks Like Day to Day
19:39 The Four Attachment Styles Explained
30:13 How To Tell If Your Child Feels Emotionally Safe
32:35 Real-Life Parenting Mistakes and Repair
37:59 Four Daily Habits That Build Secure Attachment
42:56 Listening, Feedback, and Emotional Language
43:55 Repairing After Messy Moments
50:24 Final Takeaways and Where To Learn More
Our podcasts are also now on YouTube. If you prefer a video podcast with closed captioning, check us out there and subscribe to PedsDocTalk.
Get trusted pediatric advice, relatable parenting insights, and evidence-based tips delivered straight to your inbox—join thousands of parents who rely on the PDT newsletter to stay informed, supported, and confident. Join the newsletter!
And don’t forget to follow @pedsdoctalkpodcast on Instagram—our new space just for parents looking for real talk and real support.
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on the PedsDocTalk Podcast Sponsorships page of the website.
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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