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Where Did the Village Go? How to Actually Build One with Mallory Le Duc

Everyone says, “It takes a village.”

But what happens when it feels like the village is nowhere to be found?

In this episode, Jamie sits down with Mallory Le Duc, the woman behind The Village Calling, for a kitchen-table conversation about what it actually takes to create community in a world that has become increasingly isolated.

And here's the thing: your village probably isn't going to magically show up at your front door.

You have to build it.

Jamie and Mallory talk about how the rise of the nuclear family, social media, short-form content, hyper-independence, and our obsession with protecting our peace have slowly disconnected us from the messy, imperfect relationships humans have always relied on. They explore the strange contradiction of modern motherhood: we're desperate to feel seen and supported, while simultaneously shutting people out of our homes and lives.

They also get into one of the biggest barriers to real-life connection: our phones. Online communities can give us just enough connection to temporarily satisfy our need for people—without actually giving us the deep relationships, witnessing, reliability, and support we're craving.

But building a village doesn't have to start with hosting twenty people for dinner.

It can start with a text.

A walk.

Remembering someone's big appointment.

Bringing something when you're invited over.

Inviting the mom from the playground to meet again—even if you're terrified she'll think you're needy.

And sometimes, being willing to be the person who reaches out again when they didn't reach out to you.

Jamie and Mallory also unpack why community isn't supposed to be perfectly reciprocal. Some seasons you'll give more. Other seasons you'll desperately need someone else to carry you. The point isn't keeping score; it's creating relationships strong enough to hold all of it.

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We're going through the myriad of ways airway issues can impact your child. I accidentally get diagnosed on air, LOL.If you're struggling with your mom authority, join me: Lead Like A MotherSeptember is open: https://www.jamieglowacki.com/lead-like-a-motherIf you need potty training help: https://bit.ly/4cMpsojIf motherhood is making you overwhelmed, overstimulated, and burnt tf out, I can help. You may know me as the author of Oh Crap Potty Training and Oh Crap, I Have a Toddler but in the last few years, I've been obsessed with moms...and they are not okay. My work has veered off into helping moms find ease and confidence in their mothering. If you are struggling, check out my classes and live calls at jamieglowacki.com

What if the biggest thing making motherhood harder… isn't your child?

What if it's the endless stream of parenting advice telling you exactly what to do, what to say, and what you're getting wrong?

In this episode, Jamie shares why she's "pulling out of the parenting industrial complex" and making a major shift in her work. After more than 25 years of working with families, she's seeing a troubling pattern: moms have more parenting information than ever before, yet they feel less confident than ever.

Instead of helping, the explosion of parenting content has left many mothers second-guessing every instinct, outsourcing their authority to experts, and feeling like they need another script, strategy, or tip before they can make a decision.

Jamie unpacks how we got here—from the rise of the nuclear family and parenting "experts" to the explosion of social media, TikTok psychology, and the misunderstanding of gentle parenting. She argues that the real issue isn't a lack of information. It's a loss of confidence.

In this episode, Jamie discusses:

• Why modern parenting advice may be making motherhood harder
• The rise of the "fix my kid" mentality
• How social media has replaced nuance with sound bites
• Why parenting advice without context often falls flat
• The difference between information and authority
• The evolution of motherhood from the 1950s through today
• How the village disappeared—and experts filled the gap
• The unintended consequences of the gentle parenting movement
• Why so many moms are parenting from fear instead of confidence
• What it really means to "lead like a mother"

Most importantly, Jamie makes the case that you don't need another parenting script.

You need to trust yourself again.

Because no expert, book, or Instagram reel knows your child better than you do.

This episode is an invitation to step off the parenting advice treadmill, reclaim your authority, and lead your family with confidence instead of constant self-doubt.

True child-led play is the child's choice, they make the rules, and they can leave when they want. It is NOT adult-led, adult-supervised sports or activities. It's vital for vestibular and proprioceptive inputs and it's an agent for regulation of the nervous system. For MOMS TOO. Move your body, lift heavy things, and move the energy.The categories of movement: Crawling & Cross-BodyWeight Bearing Through Hands & Shoulders, Jumping & LandingBalance & Core, Climbing, Hanging & Pulling, Throwing & CatchingSpinning & Vestibular, Heavy Workhappy mom potty training chat If motherhood is making you overwhelmed, overstimulated, and burnt tf out, I can help. You may know me as the author of Oh Crap Potty Training and Oh Crap, I Have a Toddler but in the last few years, I've been obsessed with moms...and they are not okay. My work has veered off into helping moms find ease and confidence in their mothering. If you are struggling, check out my classes and live calls at jamieglowacki.com

It's so easy to think our kids need fixing....but it's almost always an US problem or an environment problem. Most parenting "scripts" don't work because they're attempting to fix the child. Behavior is always communication and it's our job to translate that. ⁠If motherhood is making you overwhelmed, overstimulated, and burnt tf out, I can help. You may know me as the author of Oh Crap Potty Training and Oh Crap, I Have a Toddler but in the last few years, I've been obsessed with moms...and they are not okay. My work has veered off into helping moms find ease and confidence in their mothering. If you are struggling, check out Happy Mom, my online community supporting moms into a more fun motherhood. Happy Mom: https://bit.ly/4v9Fz5NFor potty training help, get started with our Oh Crap Chat: https://bit.ly/4cMpso

After taking a pause from the podcast, Jamie is back — not because of the algorithm, consistency pressure, or content treadmill… but because she finally had something she genuinely needed to say.

This episode starts with a reflection on stepping away from content creation and the overwhelming response from listeners whose lives were impacted by the podcast. But it quickly evolves into something much deeper:

A conversation about trauma, therapy, motherhood, somatic healing, lineage, and what happens when women stop shrinking themselves.

Jamie explores:

• Why talk therapy can sometimes keep us stuck in the story of our trauma instead of helping us move through it
• The difference between pathology and mythology
• Somatic healing, movement, and releasing emotions through the body
• Why parenting often activates unresolved childhood wounds
• The challenge of healing while actively raising children
• How women are conditioned to suppress powerful emotions and “stay calm” at all costs
• Community, maternal energy, and the need for real connection
• What it means to reclaim space, power, and feminine energy

Jamie also shares a deeply personal experience involving movement, dance, grief release, ancestral reflection, and a moment that shifted something profound inside of her.

This isn’t an episode about parenting tactics.

It’s about:

• The stories we inherit
• The stories we tell ourselves
• And the possibility of rewriting them

If you’ve been feeling emotionally stuck, disconnected from yourself, overwhelmed by motherhood, or exhausted from overanalyzing your healing journey… this conversation may resonate deeply.

Wanna know what you actually need for potty training… and what you definitely don’t?

Because here’s the truth:
Most parents overcomplicate this milestone — and end up buying a bunch of stuff that doesn’t help (and sometimes makes it harder).

In this episode, I break down the essentials for potty training success — and the things you can skip completely.

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This episode is a little different.

It’s a personal update — and an honest look at where I am in my work right now.

Over the past few months, I’ve been feeling something I can’t ignore anymore:

This one-way conversation isn’t working for me.

In this episode, I share:

• Why I’ve been skipping podcast episodes

• My recent hearing loss and tinnitus diagnosis

• Why content creation has started to feel draining

• The emotional toll of online criticism and “feedback”

• Why social media isn’t built for real conversation

• The problem with parasocial relationships

• Why I don’t want to monetize with ads

• And why I’m choosing to pause the podcast (for now)

But this isn’t just about what I’m stepping away from.

It’s about what I’m moving toward.

After hosting live classes and group calls recently, something became really clear:

I don’t want to talk at you anymore. I want to talk with you.

So I’m shifting my work toward:

• More real-time conversations

• Live Zoom calls and community discussions

• A new membership space: Managing Modern Motherhood

• More intentional, sustainable content (including YouTube)

This is a pivot.

Not an ending — but a recalibration.

If you’ve been here for a while, I appreciate you deeply.

And if you’re coming along for what’s next… I’m really excited about where this is going.

As always — put your phone down, and rock on.

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We’re in the middle of what many are calling a capability crisis.

Kids are struggling to do basic things — not because they can’t… but because they haven’t been taught how.

In this episode, Jamie introduces the concept of scaffolding — the process of gradually building skills over time, starting much earlier than most parents think.

Because here’s the truth:

Kids don’t magically wake up at age 9 knowing how to clean, cook, or take responsibility.

Those skills are built slowly — beginning as early as 18–24 months.

But many parents unintentionally delay this process by:

• Doing everything for their kids

• Rushing through tasks instead of letting them help

• Avoiding mess, frustration, or inconvenience

• Underestimating what their kids are capable of

And over time, that creates dependency instead of independence.

In this episode, Jamie breaks down:

• What scaffolding actually looks like in real life

• Why toddlers saying “I help!” is a critical moment

• How helping too much sends the wrong message

• Why struggle is necessary for self-esteem

• How to introduce responsibility in age-appropriate ways

• Why it’s never about perfection — it’s about participation

If you want your kids to grow into capable, confident humans…
this episode will shift how you think about parenting.

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“You’re not special because you work.”

It’s a bold statement — but it opens the door to a much deeper conversation.

In this episode, Jamie explores the tension between working moms and stay-at-home moms, and the unspoken competition that often exists between the two.

But the real issue?

It’s not about work.

It’s about validation.

Somewhere along the way, motherhood became something we feel the need to justify:

• If we work, we want recognition for how much we’re balancing

• If we stay home, we want recognition for how much we’re sacrificing

And underneath all of it… is the same question:

“Am I doing enough?”

In this episode, Jamie breaks down:

• Why your worth as a mom isn’t tied to your productivity

• The pressure to “prove” your role in motherhood

• How comparison quietly shows up in parenting

• Why validation will never feel like enough

• How to trust your choices without needing approval

This is a conversation about letting go of the pressure — and coming back to what actually matters.

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