The Wise Effort Show

Are your relationships and household dynamics feeling out of balance due to money and work stressors? This episode explores insights and strategies for creating equitable and harmonious relationships across financial and domestic spheres. I, along with guest Melissa Hogenboom, dive into the impact of gender dynamics on household responsibilities, power imbalances, and the mental load frequently shouldered by women. We discuss the importance of communication, valuing care work, and sharing responsibilities effectively. Learn practical steps to rebalance efforts in your life and foster a more equitable future for the next generation.

• How societal and childhood gender norms affect our work and money dynamics today.
• The concept of unwise effort versus wise effort in household and workplace settings.
• Tips for effective communication and sharing the mental load in relationships.
• Balancing career, domestic, and finances equitably in relationships.

Episode 126: Wise Parenting With ACT

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Are you an aspiring writer struggling to find your voice? This week’s episode explores how to tap into your unique creative genius and align it with your values to become the writer you were meant to be. Dr. Diana Hill, along with book coach Jennie Nash, delves into the Wise Effort Method. Hear about Diana's personal journey of overcoming her challenges and how Jennie guided her through unleashing her true writing genius. They also discuss how to clear mental blocks, focus creative energy, and integrate daily rituals to enhance your writing process. If you’re ready to dig deep and transform not just your writing, but your life, this episode is for you. Tune in and get inspired to bring your book idea to life.

• How to identify and overcome your mental stories and obstacles in writing
• Strategies to open up creatively and align your work with your values
• Practical ways to harness and focus your unique genius energy
• The importance of ritual and community in the writing process

Episode 113: Trapped By Your Own Success? Embrace Values And Commitment With Jennie Nash (Real Play)

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How can we respond to uncertainty and loss with the power of soul work? In this episode of The Wise Effort Show, Dr. Diana Hill speaks with Francis Weller, an influential author and psychotherapist, about confronting the 'long dark' — a term he uses to describe our collective and individual challenges. Weller emphasizes the importance of community, imagination, and ritual in overcoming grief and trauma. They discuss key concepts from his book, 'In the Absence of the Ordinary: Soul Work for Times of Uncertainty,' and explore practical ways to engage in soul work and build resilience. Listen to this episode to uncover how these practices can help you navigate difficult times and become more connected to yourself and others.

• The Long Dark
• Rediscovering Rituals in Uncertain Times
• The Power of Grief Rituals
• Creating a Holding Vessel for Grief
• Finding Healing in Community
• The Medicine for the Long Dark

Episode 157: The Medicine of Surrender, Poetry, and Metaphor With Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer.

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Thanks to the team, Craig and Ashley Hiatt, and Benjamin Gould of Bell & Branch for your beautiful music.

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Tell the Truth Salon Series

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Feeling scattered, low, or depleted? Join Dr. Diana Hill as she takes you through a step-by-step energy audit to reclaim your vitality and your life. In this episode, Dr. Hill, the author of the new book Wise Effort, shares her personal journey and practical strategies for evaluating and revitalizing your physical, psychological, relational, environmental, and spiritual energy. Discover how to align your energy use with your values and unique strengths, and transform energy drains into gains for a more fulfilling and balanced life.

• Step-by-step guide on performing an energy audit across key dimensions of your life
• The power of aligning your energy use with your values and unique genius
• Practical tips for boosting energy levels in physical, psychological, relational, environmental, and spiritual areas
• How to leverage positive relationships and environments to enhance your energy

Episode 123: Pleasure and Intimacy with Sex Therapist Dr. Jenn Kennedy

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Thanks to the team, Craig and Ashley Hiatt, and Benjamin Gould of Bell & Branch for your beautiful music.

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Come to the Tell the Truth Salon on October 1

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Tell the Truth Salon Series

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How can you develop deep resilience? That’s the focus of this insightful episode with Dr. Michael Kearney. Dr. Diana Hill and Dr. Kearney explore the concept of deep resilience, emphasizing the importance of community, interconnectedness, and natural metaphors to navigate life’s challenges. Dr. Kearney shares five vital lessons for building deep resilience, inspired by his experiences and the profound vitality of a redwood tree in Big Sur. This episode invites listeners to delve into self-care, healing connections, and the profound wisdom found within nature and our interconnected human existence.

• Burnout and the Need for Deep Resilience
• Lesson #1: Take Care, Know What Feeds You and Restores You
• Lesson #2: Healing Connections
• Lesson #3: You Are Not Who You Think You Are
• Lesson #4: All You Have to Do Is Rest
• Lesson #5: We Thrive Because of Each Other.

Episode 131: What We Can Learn From Nature’s Genius With Dayna Baumeister

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Thanks to the team, Craig and Ashley Hiatt, and Benjamin Gould of Bell & Branch for your beautiful music.

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Tell the Truth Salon Series

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There’s a reason why Prince Harry called Jennifer Rudolph Walsh his “fairy godmother.” That’s because she has a magical way of creating community, elevating voices, and telling stories that need to be told. In this episode, Jennifer shares how she used this magic to move from scale to intimacy and build meaningful conversations at Godmothers bookshop in Summerland, CA. Diana Hill and Jennifer Walsh discuss how being relevant distracts us from the real connection we need, how we carry our childhood experiences forward and the richness of gathering together, talking, and sharing a good book.

• Why Prince Harry called Jennifer Walsh his “fairy godmother”
• The sacred pause that led to the birth of Godmothers books
• What to do when people are pushing you to be relevant
• Why community is so central to our wellbeing
• The magic of applying your genius to your values

Episode 151: Generosity, Greed, and Sustainable Practice with Insight Timer CEO Christopher Plowman

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Thanks to the team, Craig and Ashley Hiatt, and Benjamin Gould of Bell & Branch for your beautiful music.

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Tell the Truth Salon Series

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This week’s episode is about stabilizing your heart and clearing your mind so you can show up more effectively in a world that’s constantly throwing stress your way. This is a solo episode—and these are my favorite to share, because they come straight from what I’m practicing in real time. I share 5 simple but powerful practices inspired by my recent time at Deer Park Monastery.

• Practice #1. Stop
• Practice #2. Put Down What You Are Carrying
• Practice #3. Sit at the Back of the Heart
• Practice #4. Tune Your Mind to Impermanence
• Practice #5. Prioritize Love

These are practices I’m returning to again and again. I hope they offer you some steady ground, too.

Episode 78: Slow Down, Resist Busyness, and Other Lessons from My Family Retreat at Plum Village with Dr. Diana Hill

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Thanks to the team, Craig and Ashley Hiatt, and Benjamin Gould of Bell & Branch for your beautiful music.

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Tell the Truth Salon Series

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Feeling overwhelmed by your addiction or the addiction of a loved one? Discover a creative, non-shaming, and integrative way to understand and address addiction in this episode of the Wise Effort Show. Host Dr. Diana Hill and guest Dr. Carl Fisher delve into the complex nature of addiction, exploring it as a multifaceted issue that affects our energy and life direction. They share personal stories and professional insights, emphasizing compassion and humanity while offering a new perspective that frames addiction as a response to suffering and a call for deeper needs. Learn strategies for managing urges and the importance of a supportive environment in recovery.

• How to view addiction with compassion and without stigma
• Dr. Carl Fisher's personal journey with substance abuse and professional success
• The role of environmental factors in addiction and recovery
• The significance of social support and connection in overcoming addiction

Listen to this episode to learn strategies for managing urges and the importance of a supportive environment in recovery.

Dopamine Nation: The Neuroscience Of Our Everyday Addictions With Dr. Anna Lembke

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Thanks to the team, Craig and Ashley Hiatt, and Benjamin Gould of Bell & Branch for your beautiful music.

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Come to the Tell the Truth Salon on October 1

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Tell the Truth Salon Series

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Can poetry be a form of medicine? Dr. Diana Hill explores this profound question with poet Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer on the Wise Effort Show. They discuss the role of poetry in emotional processing, grief, love, and connection. Diana shares how Rosemerry’s poetry has personally influenced her life and work. Rosemerry reads some of her poems, discusses her daily practice of writing a poem everyday, and offers insights into how poetry can help us be present with our pain and transform it. Drawing from her own experiences, especially the tragic loss of her son, Rosemerry explains how metaphors and a daily writing habit can serve as healing practices.

Join this insightful conversation to discover the therapeutic potential of poetry and how it can guide us through life's most challenging moments.

• The Power of Poetry in Therapy
• Rosemary's Personal Journey with Poetry
• Daily Writing Practice and Its Benefits
• Embracing Imperfection and Truth
• Sharing Personal Grief Publicly

Episode 138: Holding Space for Yourself and Others With Tom Parkes

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Thanks to the team, Craig and Ashley Hiatt, and Benjamin Gould of Bell & Branch for your beautiful music.

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Come to the Tell the Truth Salon on October 1

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Tell the Truth Salon Series

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What do you do when the thing you love—your art, your work, your creativity—starts feeling like a product? When the metrics of success get louder than the pulse of your own heart? In this episode, I sit down with Glen Phillips—lead singer of Toad the Wet Sprocket and a longtime Santa Barbara creative—for a conversation that meanders, deepens, and opens up space for something honest and healing. Glen shares how his music career took off at age 16, how he lost his way chasing the industry’s definition of “enough,” and how he found his way back—through community song, spiritual practice, Tuesday night yoga class, and a kind of effort that doesn’t grind, but flows.

Episode 110: In This Moment You Are Enough with Ofosu Jones-Quartey

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Thanks to the team, Craig and Ashley Hiatt, and Benjamin Gould of Bell & Branch for your beautiful music.

Mentioned in this episode:

Come to the Tell the Truth Salon on October 1

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Tell the Truth Salon Series

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