Therapy Brothers

Caller Question: "My husband has acted out with men in the past, does that mean he is Gay? How can I move past the “ick” feeling that comes with that knowledge if I decide to stay in the relationship?"

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Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon.

Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course.

Caller Question: "My husband disclosed three months ago that he is a sex addict. Specifically pornography and masturbation. We are in the thick of the work, and I acknowledge it’s early still. Here’s where I’m stuck: while he never physically cheated on me, he admitted that a large aspect of his addiction was a sexual fantasy- he provided me with a list of 25 of my female friends and neighbors he has fantasized about and masturbated to. I believe he is repentant, I believe he wants to heal, and that he’s working hard. But part of my work is trying to find forgiveness… and I can’t. I can’t look at these women in my everyday life without being hit hard with the hurt all over. I’m pulling away from friends (of course they have no idea why), distancing myself and my kids from neighborhood activities and friends, and I feel stuck. My closest friends who should be a support system right now feel poisonous, and I’m not sure how to process and move beyond this."

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon.

Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course.

Caller Question: "Hi. I am struggling with this concept. If my husband really wanted to change and stop looking at porn/ talking to women, wouldn't he? I see him working with his counselor and 12 step but the pattern remains. I keep giving him the benefit of the doubt in his recovery but then o get stuck in moving forward in mine."

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Tyler Patrick | "The Wandering Therapist": Tyler is a co-founder Love Strong (lovestrong.com). Check out the Love Strong YouTube Channel for more therapy tips and skills and videos about WHOLEHEARTED living and Christian Based Recovery. Instagram: @love.strong.organization

Brannon Patrick | "The Expert": Follow Brannon on instagram @brannon_patrick. For more info, find him at brannonpatrick.com. Check out Brannon's Boundary Bootcamp on his website.

Caller Question: "I am in the process of filing for divorce. I feel it was the right decision, however now that I have been out of the situation that caused a nervous system overload, and as the hurt caused is starting to fade, I am more clearly able to see my role/issues/shortcomings I played a role in in the marriage (critical, expecting him to live up to my husband “manual”, layering shame on top of his already existing shame) the list goes on … this is leaving me with conflicting feelings… and it hurts. It isn’t fun to see that I guess my question is how do I sort through the feelings of the divorce being what I needed to do and feeling like … I could have done much better at ex//(Not layering on the shame whenever he made a mistake/speaking my truth calmly when triggered )… the feeling is maybe there is more I could have done? I am feeling a responsibility for the situation too where I hadn’t really before…. Kind of a messy, unorganized question, but these are my thoughts. Thanks for your time!"

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Tyler Patrick | "The Wandering Therapist": Tyler is a co-founder Love Strong (lovestrong.com). Check out the Love Strong YouTube Channel for more therapy tips and skills and videos about WHOLEHEARTED living and Christian Based Recovery. Instagram: @love.strong.organization

Brannon Patrick | "The Expert": Follow Brannon on instagram @brannon_patrick. For more info, find him at brannonpatrick.com. Check out Brannon's Boundary Bootcamp on his website.

Danielle's Question: " In sex addiction, can you and your partner's attachment style be mislabeled? I have several women that I know that think they are "avoidant" because they are rejecting their husband's external validation seeking through sex. Is addiction usually avoidant attachment?"

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Tyler Patrick | "The Wandering Therapist": Tyler is a co-founder Love Strong (lovestrong.com). Check out the Love Strong YouTube Channel for more therapy tips and skills and videos about WHOLEHEARTED living and Christian Based Recovery. Instagram: @love.strong.organization

Brannon Patrick | "The Expert": Follow Brannon on instagram @brannon_patrick. For more info, find him at brannonpatrick.com. Check out Brannon's Boundary Bootcamp on his website.

Caller Question: "My husband just got back from your Rising Son conference and it’s feeling like he’s changing and becoming the man I’ve always known he could become. The problem is now that he’s taking his place in our family I am losing my place as the strong steady lead of our family. I honestly don’t know where I fit. So my question is 2 fold, 1: As he embraces his masculinity how do I embrace my femininity? I don’t even know what that means. 2: Does one weekend of spiritual awakening just erase 11 years of pornography addiction. I terrible that I can’t move on like he is."

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Tyler Patrick | "The Wandering Therapist": Tyler is a co-founder Love Strong (lovestrong.com). Check out the Love Strong YouTube Channel for more therapy tips and skills and videos about WHOLEHEARTED living and Christian Based Recovery. Instagram: @love.strong.organization

Brannon Patrick | "The Expert": Follow Brannon on instagram @brannon_patrick. For more info, find him at brannonpatrick.com. Check out Brannon's Boundary Bootcamp on his website.

Caller Question: "What is the best way to handle a relapse, both for the person struggling with addiction and for their partner? What is the best way to move forward?"

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Tyler Patrick | "The Wandering Therapist": Tyler is a co-founder Love Strong (lovestrong.com). Check out the Love Strong YouTube Channel for more therapy tips and skills and videos about WHOLEHEARTED living and Christian Based Recovery. Instagram: @love.strong.organization

Brannon Patrick | "The Expert": Follow Brannon on instagram @brannon_patrick. For more info, find him at brannonpatrick.com. Check out Brannon's Boundary Bootcamp on his website.

Caller David reached out to the Therapy Brothers to ask them about issues related to avoidance that stem from video games and pornography at a very early age.

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Tyler Patrick | "The Wandering Therapist": Tyler is a co-founder Love Strong (lovestrong.com). Check out the Love Strong YouTube Channel for more therapy tips and skills and videos about WHOLEHEARTED living and Christian Based Recovery. Instagram: @love.strong.organization

Brannon Patrick | "The Expert": Follow Brannon on instagram @brannon_patrick. For more info, find him at brannonpatrick.com. Check out Brannon's Boundary Bootcamp on his website.

Caller: "Hi! Betrayed partner here (porn addiction). I'm a new listener & I just listened to E58-is it ok to be attracted to more than 1 person. I have to say that coming from the betrayed partner's perspective, what was said & talking about the "3 second rule" is terrifying! For a lot of us, our partners could only have sex with us BECAUSE they had an image of someone else in their mind OR it was someone that he saw that made him want to have sex with his partner ONLY because she's the only physical option at the time &\or didn't have the opportunity to go masturbate at the time. So after seeing an attractive woman, even if it's hours later, we're wondering if it's REALLY me he wants to be with or is he just fantasizing about her. & if we don't have sex, we're thinking it's because, after seeing her, he just isn't aroused with "settling" for me! It's a huge double edged sword for some of us. How in the world are we supposed to get past that?"

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Tyler Patrick | "The Wandering Therapist": Tyler is a co-founder Love Strong (lovestrong.com). Check out the Love Strong YouTube Channel for more therapy tips and skills and videos about WHOLEHEARTED living and Christian Based Recovery. Instagram: @love.strong.organization

Brannon Patrick | "The Expert": Follow Brannon on instagram @brannon_patrick. For more info, find him at brannonpatrick.com. Check out Brannon's Boundary Bootcamp on his website.

?I don't feel like i have a really clear question to ask, i've just been in limbo for 3 years. Knowing God will bring me and my spouse back together and it happening feel like two alien forces working against each other. As my counselor says, "i am the only one who can determine how long I can live this way."  After 3 years of separation, i would say he is still doing things for recovery, but he doesn’t know why he’s not safe, why I don’t trust him, and I’m not convinced he believes he needs “recovery.” He had 3 affairs, 20+ years, does Bible study, has accountability partner I don’t think is helping, has counselors that seem to think I need to forgive him, and he says if he moves into the house he would be able to be emotionally intimate. I completely agree with your comments about him never trusting me, and I don’t think he can trust me yet. I do wonder if I should take the leap, trust God, let him move in, trust he will move towards me, etc? I believe in a God of miracles, but He also blessed me with a brain and values me as His child, He wants me to be in a relationship where I am cherished and loved. I am patient, obviously, and I’m one of those that doesn’t want to pull the trigger, but I want to honor God and where He wants me. Am I crazy?"

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Tyler Patrick | "The Wandering Therapist": Tyler is a co-founder Love Strong (lovestrong.com). Check out the Love Strong YouTube Channel for more therapy tips and skills and videos about WHOLEHEARTED living and Christian Based Recovery. Instagram: @love.strong.organization

Brannon Patrick | "The Expert": Follow Brannon on instagram @brannon_patrick. For more info, find him at brannonpatrick.com. Check out Brannon's Boundary Bootcamp on his website.