Therapy Brothers

Rahul's Question: "I'm listening to your episode right now about how to rebuild trust and I'm really struggling with that issue. I have a specific question about that topic, and I would also love a chance to talk to you more about the situation I'm in.  My question is: how do I trust my wife when she wants time to herself and refuses to provide any information about where she's going, who she's going to see or when she's coming back?"

Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up.

Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Amanda's Question: "I am a betrayed wife by a porn addict who crossed over into child porn about three or four years ago. He shared with me many years that he had an addiction problem as a teen but never let on and I never noticed anything questionable until the FBI raided our home and thru an interview told me what was going on. My husband is currently showing me adequate effort in therapy and group therapy that I am giving him a second chance even though it will greatly impact the lives of both me and my children. Especially when he ends up serving his jail time which could be 5 or 10 or even 20 years in prison. About three years ago our marriage was practically done with, and I let myself cross too many lines and into a full-blown online fling with a guy I grew up with. At that time I still had no idea about the porn issue. After waking up from the “wrongfulness” of my online affair, I did tell my husband and eventually confessed to my bishop. How do we start to reconcile both issues fairly?"

Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up.

Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Crystal's Question: "My partner and I are 6-ish months into treatment for porn addiction and betrayal trauma. I know very little about his triggers and preferences with his porn addiction. I haven't asked and he hasn't shared. I think I like not knowing. But I wonder if I'm in denial and avoidance or if I'm wise to protect myself from developing more of my own triggers. Are there things I need to know or can I do my recovery work without certain knowledge? When do I know I need a question answered to help me move forward vs how can I identify if it's really not necessary for me to move forward?"

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up.

Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Caller Courtney: "Is there such a thing as being to informed? I’ve been doing recovery work for a year….. listening to countless podcasts, reading books, part of a betrayal trauma 12 step recovery group, personal counselling, couples counseling. I’ve been doing all the things and because my husband is a “bare minimum” kind of person I’ve been accused by him and our couples counsellor that I’m “acting like an expert”. I definitely don’t think I’m an expert, I’m trying to thoroughly educate myself for my own recovery and to know what to look for when it comes or false recovery. Just wondering if there is such a thing as knowing to much?"

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up.

Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Caller Susan: "I had never heard of Betrayal Trauma before listening to your podcasts. Four months ago I discovered my partner was in an emotional affair with a single female lady from our dance class group. Even though l stopped it continuing and I believe and have been assured that NOTHING physically sexual happened, I am stuck because this person is still in our dance class and very much involved with our social circle of friends and just seeing her triggers me. My Partner has disclosed all the messages from messenger to me as he believed he did nothing wrong. However there are several lengthy (hour and half) late-night video calls where l found out they were in bed chatting (we don’t live together) they have both told me the content of those conversations was nothing, just this and that and work-related. I am struggling to believe this and am obsessed with the content of those video calls. My partner has since realized what he did was wrong and hurtful. Please, can you help?"

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up.

Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

The 2 Brothers dive into the dialectic of masculinity and where many people get hung up.

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up.

Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Byran's Question: "After listening to the "How do I break my walls down and trust him again" episode I would like to ask a question... In mine and my wife's situation I am the one who broke trust with her, obviously, but I would like some "pointers" on how to remain empathetic and steady. I am not very good with handling "rejection", and I know that I can come off really douchie toward her when, for example, I ask her to be intimate and she says no... then I ask her "why" and she gets upset because I'm not respecting her boundary... I do love my wife very much and I want to make sure that I am doing everything in my power to make her feel loved and respected but I am having a hard time with this aspect. I would love to speak with you guys if you can help in any way..."

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up.

Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Caller Question: "My question is about intimacy avoidance. My husband and I have been separated for 16 months now and 12 months of that has been in separate countries with the inability to see each other due to Covid. We have a now 2-year-old. He has been sober for 5 months now. He is still unable to say if he wants the marriage or not. I have been accepting, patient, and hopeful but I feel in the last week I have reached apathy. He is due to come over to Australia in 2 weeks and I don't know how I feel anymore. I have been so excited and hopeful but he is so resistant and avoidant I am starting to feel frustrated and angry that he can’t make a decision. Is this normal and acceptable and a part of the process, or is it him just waiting to see if he wants to fall back to his addiction and that he hasn’t truly accepted recovery? I feel miles ahead in my recovery and scared to be pulled back by him I want to let go but I don’t want to be unreasonable with time frames and regret it."

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up.

Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events 

Caller Question: "How do you move forward in your relationship when the SA tries to compare their addiction to your mental health struggles and make you equal perpetrators? I am so done and fed up with this relationship, but it is not feasible for me to be able to leave for probably a year or two. What am I supposed to do in the meantime?"

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon.

Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course.

Caller Question: "I just listened to your latest episode, and I was left with a question. My husband had a pretty in-depth emotional affair. To the point that he and this woman had fantasized about leaving their families and running away together. We have been in recovery for 8 months now and our marriage has seen amazing improvement in all areas. We are working really hard to be vulnerable and boundaried and to do our own work. My question is this- my husband leans far to the feminine side but he is big and strong and looks very manly. He has the combination of all the feminine feels and thoughtfulness in addition to being very attractive. My question is how do I open up fully and trust him in finding this new masculinity without him losing those feminine things that I appreciate so much? I would love for him to be more of a protector for me and to basically have none of his wonderful feminine traits be displayed for other women. It is such a problem that women hit on him even when he is with me."

We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events

Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon.

Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course.