Are you an “overcaretaker” and focus all of your energy taking care of the emotional needs of others rather than yourself?  You might find yourself exhausted by your relationships because in the end you feel depleted and attract the “takers.”  This week on a live Coaching with Kimmy episode, Kimmy focuses on how it's time to get a little selfish! Being selfish can improve your relationship with yourself, and can actually help build your relationships with other people! You'll hear Kimmy coach Spike, a guy who's on a quest to find a healthy relationship. He's had a hard time putting his needs first and not defaulting to old behavior patterns that only serve the needs of others, sometimes at his own expense.    EPISODE 164 of The Charisma Quotient Podcast is titled:  Time To Get Selfish:  Coaching With Kimmy    Spike opens up immediately and shares how he grew up, the abuse he suffered as a child, and his struggle with addiction. If you find yourself always bending over backward to take care of other people's needs before your own, listen up! Kimmy zeros in on the telltale signs of being a people pleaser, and how that generosity and altruism can leak into your dating life which causes lopsided relationships. This conversation addresses how societal expectations around gender affect everyone from women to men in different ways. If you've ever felt like you didn't fit into societal expectations of your gender, this conversation will speak to you. Spike shares several examples of how some of his fears around dating and relationships have showed up in his life recently. This session zones in on tips on how to better express your needs and trust that your needs are valid -- especially if this is a new practice for you. If you find your confidence in what you can do for others, take a chance to get a little selfish and be open to receiving more!    If you've questioned whether you're too needy or you analyze how you can provide for others over you in relationships, sign up for a coaching call with Kimmy and talk it out here: meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. Maybe it's time for you to try putting you first!    EPISODE 164 of The Charisma Quotient Podcast is titled:  Time To Get Selfish:  Coaching With Kimmy.  The Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ⁣    ************************************************⁣  The Charisma Quotient Podcast: Building Confidence, Making Connections, and Finding Love from the Outside In is hosted by Kimmy Seltzer. ⁣    ************************************************⁣  Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣    ************************************************⁣  Sharing a wide array of relational topics, The Charisma Quotient Podcast focuses on the themes of building confidence, making connections, and finding love from the outside in.⁣    ************************************************⁣  This Podcast is available on:⁣  Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/Charisma_Quotient ⁣  Libsyn: https://charismaquotient.libsyn.com/⁣  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2mLh5AwLC0xryeKzKyph2g  And many other podcast sites.    ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/kimmyseltzer/ ⁣ Facebook:  https://facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/ Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/group