Time to Lean

By Laura Danger and Crystal Britt

On the Time to Lean podcast with Laura Danger and Crystal Britt, we dig into the often-overlooked realities of domestic labor, care work, and household inequity. Through sharp cultural cri

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August 13, 2025 is it funny to have to be begged to do the dishes?
In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about a viral video that makes light of the dynamic of "nagging". Join us as we consider not just what happens when you "ask a man to do the dishes", but what the jokes of the #couplescomedy genre actually teach us to laugh off.

Mentioned:
Revolution at Point Zero
The original video
Paris Paloma - Labour

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52min
August 06, 2025was 'marriage story' cis-het propaganda?
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the 2019 Netflix film, ‘Marriage Story,’ which starred Adam Driver and Scarlett Johansson. A popular clip is circulating on social media again and made us wonder: with all the passing of responsibility and finger-pointing and tantruming—was it all just cis-het propaganda??
Mentioned in this Episode:
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Laura’s Substack Article from Last Episode
Scarlett Longstreet's Instagram Post: “Five Things I Wish I Knew Before Getting Divorced”

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35min
July 30, 2025 would you leave someone on read for being too available?
This week, we’re digging into a few clips from @leftonread_show that had us feeling things! We talk about what it means to be “cool" and whether or not the host's advice to play hard to get is ACTUALLY good advice. A lighthearted one today. <3

Let’s get into it.

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35min
July 23, 2025 can an unfinished painting cause you to question everything?
This is a weird one. Crystal has been slammed and Laura couldn't get a painting out of her head, so she decided to write(and read) about it. In this episode, Laura reads something she wrote about an unfinished painting of a mother.

PLEASE PARDON LAURA'S FRENCH. :)

Check out the painting here!
Madame de Pastoret and Her Son, 1791–92
Artist: Jacques-Louis David (French, 1748–1825)

Here's her husband.

Here's her son.

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17min
July 16, 2025 is it fair to feel upset if i ask for help and your response isn't eager?
In this episode, we talk about how vulnerable it can feel to name a need, the weight of perceived pushback, and how quickly it can spiral. We dig into what we call the nag paradox—that toxic loop of asking, resisting, escalating, and shutting down—and how it traps so many of us in a cycle of sacrifice, resentment, and disconnection.

Mentioned:
Wages For Housework by Emily Callaci

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July 10, 2025 what happens if they ask how they can help, then don't like my answer?
A listener sent us a video that hit a nerve: a husband asks his overwhelmed wife how he can help, then resists the very thing she asks for. In this episode, we unpack what’s really going on in moments like these. We talk about the emotional weight of asking for help, the nuances of saying no, and what it costs when a partner responds with resistance(even subtly). Emotional labor, the mental load, relationship dynamics, viral couples videos... it's all here!

Mentioned in this episode:
Rage Becomes Her
Wages For Housework
No More Mediocre
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54min
July 02, 2025 if i step back, let him “rise” to leadership, and comment HUBBY on this post, will my partner finally make his own damn list?
This week, we look at a viral influencer’s take on why men don’t step up at home. He's just one of many creators who exist in the genre of “relationship advice” whose content insidiously blames women for their partner’s lack of initiative. Apparently, the problem with a lack of effort isn't... the lack of effort... It's that you must be smothering his divine masculine spark.

Mentioned in this episode:
Rage Becomes Her by Soraya Chemaly
BoyMom by Ruth Whippman
Erased by Anna Malaika Tubbs
The Future Is Disabled by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna Samarasinha
Care Work by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna Samarasinha

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1h 13min
June 25, 2025 am i the a-hole for making us late when i was doing all the housework?
This week Crystal and Laura discuss the challenges of care work, societal expectations of default partners, and the internet's attempts at poking fun at these dynamics. Spoiler alert: we don't think it's funny. We analyze a viral video that pokes fun at a woman managing her family's needs while being late, highlighting the unfairness of couples comedy posts. Instead of trying to punch down, shouldn't we be trying to emphasize the importance of recognizing the value of care work, questioning societal norms, and teaching children about responsibility and empathy?

Mentioned in This Episode:
Our Home by Lori Sugarman-Li, a childrens book on domestic equity!

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52min
June 18, 2025 what if i know you're going to mess it up?
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss planning ahead when one partner takes on a new task--should you make contingency plans just in case they mess it up?

Mentioned in This Episode:
Fight Right by the Gottmans

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45min
June 12, 2025 what if we went to couples therapy?
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss a clip from the popular Showtime show, “Couples Therapy,” where a pair of clients discuss incompetence, ability, and blame.

Disclaimer:
Time to Lean is an educational and conversational podcast intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views expressed by the hosts and guests are their own and do not constitute therapeutic advice, clinical guidance, or a substitute for professional mental health care. While we speak from lived experience and professional backgrounds, we’re not your therapists—and this podcast is not therapy.
Please consult a qualified mental health provider if you’re experiencing distress or need individualized support. And remember: systemic change takes all of us, but you don’t have to do it all alone.
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