Time to Lean

By Laura Danger and Crystal Britt

On the Time to Lean podcast with Laura Danger and Crystal Britt, we dig into the often-overlooked realities of domestic labor, care work, and household inequity. Through sharp cultural cri

... more

4.7

8282 ratings

Download on the App Store

Download on the App Store

Get it on Google Play

FAQs about Time to Lean:

How many episodes does Time to Lean have?

The podcast currently has 132 episodes available.

Time to Lean episodes:

April 10, 2026 what can we learn when we revisit couples therapy classics?
Have you heard of the Gottman Institute? The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is a wildly popular relationship book and it has plenty of fantastic insights. However, some of the research and case studies could use some updating. In this episode, we take a close look at conflict while keeping in mind the weight of emotional labor and the impacts of patriarchy.

Mentioned:
The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD
The Autism Partner Handbook: How to Love an Autistic Person by Joe Biel, Dr. Faith G. Harper and Elly Blue
The Autism Relationships Handbook: How to Thrive in Friendships, Dating, and Love by Joe Biel and Dr. Faith G. Harper
Study:
Check out the https://www.lightenlab.com/

In this episode:
Relationship conflict patterns and Gottman's research
Gendered communication and systemic issues
Neurodivergence and emotional regulation in relationships

Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.com
Order No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More
Follow Laura: @thatdarnchat | thatdarnchat.substack.com
Follow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt | itscrystalbritt.substack.com
Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show
If you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 800-799-7233

Themes: relationship dynamics, conflict resolution, Gottman Institute, gender theory, neurodivergence, communication, mental load, emotional labor, systemic gender issues, relationship advice

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
...more
51min
January 14, 2026 when does teasing turn toxic?
In this episode, we share a "candid" video from a couple who are having a serious convo in a #couplescomedy tone. We unpack emotional attunement, family dynamics and the impact of social media on all of us.

Mentioned in this episode:
No More Mediocre by Laura Danger is in stores on January 6, 2026! Enter here for a chance to win an early copy!
Don’t miss Crystal’s upcoming groups! More info here!

----------
Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.com
Order No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More
Follow Laura: @thatdarnchat | thatdarnchat.substack.com
Follow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt | itscrystalbritt.substack.com
Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show
If you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 800-799-7233
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
...more
51min
November 26, 2025 when does modeling better balance become capitalizing on the issue of inequity?
In this episode, we explore the line between sharing personal growth and capitalizing on the widespread normalization of inequity. When does modeling a more equitable division of labor go from influencing a cultural shift to patting yourself on the back?

Mentioned in this episode:
No More Mediocre by Laura Danger is in stores on January 6, 2026! Enter here for a chance to win an early copy!
Don’t miss Crystal’s Autism Self-Diagnosis Group, starting Dec 1st! More info here!

----------
Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.com
Preorder No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More
Follow Laura: @thatdarnchat | thatdarnchat.substack.com
Follow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt | itscrystalbritt.substack.com
Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show
If you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 800-799-7233
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
...more
1h 3min
October 08, 2025 what if men were tricked into going to therapy?
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss an IG reel sent to us from a listener. Do men need to be tricked into going to therapy? What are some things that keep them from going? How do you even go about picking a therapist that’s right for you?
Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.com
Preorder No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More
Follow Laura: @thatdarnchat | thatdarnchat.substack.com
Follow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt | itscrystalbritt.substack.com
Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show
If you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 800-799-7233
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
...more
49min
September 24, 2025 if i have to ask you to invite me, is it REALLY an invitation?
In this episode, Laura and Crystal chat about a clip from the movie Knocked Up where Leslie Mann confronts Paul Rudd about his dishonesty around how he's been using his time. We cover invisible labor, insidious inequity, subtle betrayals and so much more.

Here's the link to the original video!

Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.com
Preorder No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More
Follow Laura: @thatdarnchat | thatdarnchat.substack.com
Follow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt | itscrystalbritt.substack.com
Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show
If you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 800-799-7233
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
...more
1h 1min
September 10, 2025 i asked for two, but he got me one—am i supposed to be okay with less... everyday... for the rest of my life?
In this episode, we discuss a viral thread where a woman describes a metaphor for her entire relationship: a situation where she asked for more and was expected to be satisfied with less. We talk: self-sacrifice, relationship dynamics, small moments that really reflect big issues.

Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.com
Preorder No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More
Follow Laura: @thatdarnchat | thatdarnchat.substack.com
Follow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt | itscrystalbritt.substack.com
Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show
If you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 800-799-7233
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
...more
47min
August 13, 2025 is it funny to have to be begged to do the dishes?
In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about a viral video that makes light of the dynamic of "nagging". Join us as we consider not just what happens when you "ask a man to do the dishes", but what the jokes of the #couplescomedy genre actually teach us to laugh off.

Mentioned:
Revolution at Point Zero
The original video
Paris Paloma - Labour

Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.com
Preorder No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More
Follow Laura: @thatdarnchat | thatdarnchat.substack.com
Follow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt | itscrystalbritt.substack.com
Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show
If you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 800-799-7233
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
...more
52min
August 06, 2025was 'marriage story' cis-het propaganda?
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the 2019 Netflix film, ‘Marriage Story,’ which starred Adam Driver and Scarlett Johansson. A popular clip is circulating on social media again and made us wonder: with all the passing of responsibility and finger-pointing and tantruming—was it all just cis-het propaganda??
Mentioned in this Episode:
Pre-Order Laura’s Book! – No More Mediocre
Laura’s Substack Article from Last Episode
Scarlett Longstreet's Instagram Post: “Five Things I Wish I Knew Before Getting Divorced”

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
...more
35min
July 30, 2025 would you leave someone on read for being too available?
This week, we’re digging into a few clips from @leftonread_show that had us feeling things! We talk about what it means to be “cool" and whether or not the host's advice to play hard to get is ACTUALLY good advice. A lighthearted one today. <3

Let’s get into it.

—
Find more at timetoleanpod.substack.com for resources, ad-free episodes, and more.
Follow Laura @thatdarnchat → thatdarnchat.substack.com
Follow Crystal @itscrystalbritt → itscrystalbritt.substack.com
Subscribe, rate, and share if you love the show.
Preorder No More Mediocre now.
If you or someone you know needs support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
...more
35min
July 23, 2025 can an unfinished painting cause you to question everything?
This is a weird one. Crystal has been slammed and Laura couldn't get a painting out of her head, so she decided to write(and read) about it. In this episode, Laura reads something she wrote about an unfinished painting of a mother.

PLEASE PARDON LAURA'S FRENCH. :)

Check out the painting here!
Madame de Pastoret and Her Son, 1791–92
Artist: Jacques-Louis David (French, 1748–1825)

Here's her husband.

Here's her son.

Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.com
Preorder No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More
Follow Laura: @thatdarnchat | thatdarnchat.substack.com
Follow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt | itscrystalbritt.substack.com
Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show
If you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 800-799-7233
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
...more
17min

FAQs about Time to Lean:

How many episodes does Time to Lean have?

The podcast currently has 132 episodes available.

More shows like Time to Lean

You're Wrong About by Sarah Marshall

You're Wrong About

21,991 Listeners

You Are Good by Alex Steed

You Are Good

2,738 Listeners

Maintenance Phase by Aubrey Gordon & Michael Hobbes

Maintenance Phase

16,970 Listeners

Under the Influence with Jo Piazza by Jo Piazza

Under the Influence with Jo Piazza

812 Listeners

Sounds Like A Cult by Studio71

Sounds Like A Cult

4,163 Listeners

The Burnt Toast Podcast by Virginia Sole-Smith

The Burnt Toast Podcast

420 Listeners

Struggle Care by KC Davis

Struggle Care

738 Listeners

If Books Could Kill by Michael Hobbes & Peter Shamshiri

If Books Could Kill

9,438 Listeners

Buckle Up Babes by ftheniceguypodcast

Buckle Up Babes

134 Listeners

In Bed With The Right by Adrian Daub and Moira Donegan

In Bed With The Right

575 Listeners

Culture Study Podcast by Anne Helen Petersen

Culture Study Podcast

714 Listeners

Mr. Pick Me & The Manhater by Mr. Pick Me & The Manhater

Mr. Pick Me & The Manhater

228 Listeners

Magical Overthinkers by Amanda Montell & Studio71

Magical Overthinkers

601 Listeners

Diabolical Lies by Katie Gatti Tassin & Caro Claire Burke

Diabolical Lies

1,014 Listeners

Bad Therapist by Ash Compton & Rachel Monroe

Bad Therapist

93 Listeners