To Succeed... Just Let Go

Wherever you are in life right now, however you feel about your life or any part of it... it's all of your own making.

Too many people blame someone else for their current perceived predicament: my parents, my siblings, the way I was bullied at school, how I was abused, my boss, "the system".

No! If you feel stuck, stressed, frustrated, fat, thin, an under-achiever... you're to blame, it's your fault.

But, as you'll discover in listening to this week's Episode, actually we're neither talking about fault nor blame, we're talking about responsibility. Responsibility for yourself and your own state of mind.

So, this Episode explores things like: cognitive appraisal, snapshot learning (psychological snapshots), perceived inadequacies and how we make sense (nonsense actually!) of what is going on in the here and now and... react accordingly.

Let's put all that another way: you create your own reality.

With that in mind, we explore how to create the reality that you would love to have - not "want" because want is a construction of the self-same thoughts that create the stagnation that most people experience in their lives.

And we finish with a BIG question. If you create your own reality, which would you prefer: the mayhem created by thought or the reality that you would love to experience? Difficult decision!!

Even though we explore bullying, parenting, peace of mind and success in this episode, all these things (and your ability to do and achieve effortlessly) all boil down to whether or not you are in Flow.

We could put that in a variety of different ways, all of which will give you, for startes, some insight into what we're talking about in this episode.

Are you clear and present now? Are you enthusiastic right now? Are you motivated? Are you turned on (we talked about this over the last couple of episodes too - and what I actually mean by that)?

This episode explores and explains Flow - what athletes call being "in the zone". I tell you how to develop your innate ability to experience it and we explore how to deepen the experience and maintain it.

After all, once again - I mentioned him last week, we could simply look to one of my Online Program Owners who explains that he's "in Flow most of the time every day".

Actually, this episode should be entitled "How and Why to Meditate Properly and What to Expect"... because this conversation covers all that and more.

We lay to rest some of the nonsense around meditation - that there's one right way to do it - so many traditions have their "one right way" you could become not just totally confused but disillusioned with the whole notion!

I provide practical tips in how to sit, what to focus on, how long you should meditate for and when to do it.

More importantly, we pick up on this Podcast's previous episode when I alluded to energy. It is what you are - and meditation allows you experience this or, in plain English, to feel it.

All the science in the world - and there's an abundance of it at this stage - will tell you what meditation does for the mind and the very structure of the brain (we cover that too!) but what really matters is what you experience. And this episode is designed to help you do just that.

The answer to that is an obvious "No"... you change your life yourself.

But, as people who have worked with me over the last (almost) 28yrs will know, I can provide the signposts! And, if you're ready to follow the signposts, you're going to go on an amazing adventure - one your thinking mind couldn't even begin to imagine.

So, as we get together again, in Episode 146 - after a short break - we're exploring what changing your life actually means, what you need to do and how you will feel.

Yes, we explore the experience of being present and, obviously, its importance. After all, if you don't turn up to the present, where life is lived, how are you going to live it? Like a "normal crazy person", you'll only exist and your life will pass you by. How sad is that.

Of course, as always, everything that we explore in this episode, from effortlessness to Flow, from focus to energy, is all backed up by a body of science that is, not in itself life-changing... as we said at the beginning, you're going to have to change your life yourself.

And my aim in life is to make that as effortless for you as is humanly possible. And that's effortless indeed.

Success is effortless when you know how. That's a fact borne out by every single client or Online Program owner with whom I've worked who (to quote many a Program Owner) has "followed the process".

When we follow the process, when we make the right choices, we completely alter our experience of the here and now. When we get into the habit of making the right choices, it doesn't just "grow on us", as someone said to me recently, it grows in us. Because the neural pathways we use when making the right choices, themselves, grow and restructure.

Effortless success doesn't become second nature, it is our natural way of being, of living, of appreciating and enjoying a life where, at this moment in time, all is well.

That is not to say that life doesn't have its challenges - and we deal with these head on in this episode - I can tell you exactly how to deal with these, head on, from my own personal experience.

So, in this episode, as I say at the end, you have everything you need for the perfect life (and no more!) "in a nutshell".

In this episode, we race through a variety of different strategies that people use to make themselves "sound more interesting" and feel more important... from labels, to stories, to lies - to lies that normal crazy people actually end up believing!

There's obviously a grand purpose to this because, as you'll hear, there's a grand purpose to your life... your purpose in life is to be you. Because you are grand.

And your grandeur changes your life, your world. The moment you feel it, the moment you know, everything changes. And that means that you are a force for good, a force for change in a world that so badly needs both of those ingredients which are currently in otherwise short supply.

And, once you've realised this, you'll be perfectly placed not just to live the kind of life you'd love to live in an ideal world, you'll be able to carry those who matter most to you along with you too.

Worth getting out of bed for!!

In this episode, we're talking about fear - because it's hardwired into us!

Fear of failure - weird one, really, because normal crazy people are serial failures; fear of being different; fear of change and, indeed, being afraid of your own shadow (you should be!).

But, most interestingly, we explore fear of success. I'll say no more, I don't want to steal my own thunder but... there are strong evolutionary reasons for this one!

And, even more interestingly, we explore how there is no fear. It's just like stress, a figment of the shadow's sad imagination.

Now, if there is no such thing as fear, you can afford to be effortlessly "brave" and "courageous" (you'll understand why both that words are in ""!).

And, then, you'll be free to realise the greatness that is your calling.

I was going to call this episode "Great Expectations" - and, when we delve into the psychology of it all, you'll understand why. But let's cut to the chase: you live and experience your life according to your beliefs. What you believe colours and filters everything.

That means, until we take the piece of equipment between our two ears and remake it, what passes for our life will be coloured, filtered and poisoned by beliefs that hold us back, what we commonly call "self-limiting beliefs".

Because our moment-to-moment experience is dictated by our beliefs, wouldn't it make sense to believe things that we want to believe, beliefs that will move us forward and make our lives effortlessly wonderful?

That's what this episode is all about. Better than that, this episode explains, step-by-step, as the title suggests, how to believe.

"Ah sure I'm only human" as a client said to me a short while ago. "I still react to situations, but not in the way I used to".

What had happened in the meantime? He had embarked on the adventure of self-awareness and self-discovery and, in the process, discovered that, at times, he is super-human.

In a world where our brain developed in a lowest-common-denominator way, we need to rise above the madness - you don't have to look far to come to the same conclusion as I have - we live in a world gone mad or, perhaps, it always was mad (we explore that a little in this episode).

If you're going to experience flow and, as a result, do what you need to do with little effort; if you're going to live the kind of life you'd love to live and, as a result, "spread the joy" (a quote from an Online Program Owner) to those around you, you're going to have to become super-human.

But it's a lot easier than you think - all you have to do is choose to allow yourself to be that super-human that is already within, the part of you that is ready, willing and able not just to step out into the light, but to actually be the light.

We're unpicking the real-life client story from our last episode to ensure that we understand and can act on the two key take-aways that, together, ensure that you can effortlessly allow your life move forward towards your ideal life, encountering many perfect moments along the way, by doing what it takes to follow the signposts offered to you by opportunity and synchronicity.

The key take-away from this week's episode is that your life is entirely of your own making.

This is true regardless of whether you're a normal crazy person or following a process of developing your awareness and presence. Obviously, these two alternative journeys lead to completely different destinations or, should I say, offer us entirely different paths - one an adventure, the other, well, precious little.

In this episode, I also touch on personal relationships - your "nearest and dearest" if you like - and how the interpersonal dynamic effortlessly shifts as one embarks on this adventure of a lifetime.

The one thing that you must remember most is that your life is up to you.