To Succeed... Just Let Go

There's no point in being persistent if you don't believe. This episode explains exactly what I mean.

There's no point in being persistent if you're not being shown the signposts that synchronicity provides.

Indeed, if you're not experiencing synchronicity, you need to alter your course.

These are the key themes of this practical episode, one where we cover the exact steps that we all need to take to do what we need to do to the best of our ability to get to where is best for us, one day at a time.

Aha... there it all is in one single sentence.

So - don't fret about your plans, don't worry about how to do this, that or the other, don't concern yourself with normal crazy ideas like "deserving" and "realistic", come along on this little adventure in today's episode and put your best foot forward effortlessly.

When you realise or become aware of the fact that your gut instinct is nudging you in a particular direction, there is an inevitability, sooner or later, that you will move in that direction. Your task is to do the inevitable sooner rather than later.

That "short circuiting" of the process comes from presence of mind. And, in order to appreciate what can and does happen when we have that presence of mind, we take a detour, in this episode, into the world of my inevitable, the move to France, tennis and tennis stars!

I can assure you, the detours are worth it!

Ultimately, I attempt to bring everything back down to the fundamentals of life in this episode - there's a sentence that I repeat twice because of it's importance: when we effortlessly do the inevitable, we will inevitably get what's best for us... or words to that effect!!

The key thing is that, as good grace and the flow of life would have it, all this is completely in your own hands. What wonderful news that is!

And, if you might be fearful of the potential within as a result of that realisation, don't worry - as this episode explains, you don't need to be brave or courageous to do the inevitable... it feels like it just happens because... it is effortless.

We're stepping through everything that you need to do to change anything or, indeed, everything in your life.

You want peace of mind? Perhaps it's financial freedom you're looking for. Or maybe you want to lose weight and get fit. Perhaps you want to build a successful business or move up a few gears in your career.

Yes - all that is covered in this one episode. And, as you'll discover, bringing about change in your life is inevitable and effortless once you do the things that we step through in the episode.

I've over 27yrs experience in helping people do this - and I've over 27yrs of evidence that this is how to do it, step-by-step, in practice... regardless of where you're starting from.

And, as you'll know if you've ever listened to even one of my podcast episodes, everything here is backed up by the very brightest and best in cognitive psychology and modern neuroscience.

So, are you ready to change your life? Are you ready to start right here, right now?

You need to divest yourself of the thoughts that have held you back... that's pretty much a direct quote from this week's Episode.

That said, that suggests that there is some "heavy lifting" involved in liberating yourself. There isn't.

In this Episode we explore how to "Just Let Go" - to allow ourselves receive all the good things in life to which we are entitled (yes, we deal with the issue of "I don't deserve" in this Episode too!).

In doing so, we shake off the constraints of how we think not just about ourselves and how the world works but even how we think about what we think constitutes or should constitute happiness and success. (Too much thinking in that last sentence!)

The process - yes, it is a process that we must follow daily - is simple to the point of effortless when we understand and realise that we can only take one little step at a time because our lives are lived in one little moment at a time.

When we do that, we experience a reality that will forever escape the thinking mind - that, right now, you're living the life that is best for you.

Yes, some further explanation is inevitably required - but that's what the podcast is for!!

When we find ourselves concerned about the opinions of others, we need to understand and realise that these concerns are a mirror of the inner misgivings that we have about ourselves.

If we were completely at ease with ourselves, aware of our true nature, wondering about what other people think of us would never even cross our minds.

So, in this week's episode, we explore apparently unrelated things like: making the right impression, have impressions being thrust upon ourselves in our formative years, self-confidence, self-awareness, fear, friendship, selfishness, random thought, relationships and presence.

And, yes, all of these things are related!

The key message from this episode is something that we all discover, beyond the cares of the normal mind, when we become acquainted with the nature of who and what we are... an eye-opener that will change your life and how you live it, moment-to-moment.

We explore gratitude, appreciation, flow and effortlessness in this episode. But most of all, we explore "following the process"... and trusting it.

As always, I'm encouraging you to practice - yes, we cover (lack of) discipline and impatience in this episode - both apparent inflictions of the human condition! (They're not, of course, you just think they are!).

But, more importantly, we talk about encouragement and how much easier it is to be encouraged, disciplined and patient when you have even some little shred of evidence to suggest that all will work out for the best if you do just "follow the process".

So that's what I'm about - we have evidence aplenty in this episode - real experiences that encourage us all to not just keep practicing, keep turning up but keep gently nudging ourselves a little further forward all the time.

Because there's so much more to you and your life than your normal way of thinking could ever even begin to imagine.

Oh and Freddy Mercury gets a look in too!

You'll know exactly what I mean if you listen through to, towards the end, the key point of this week's episode.

But there are other really important points along the way... how we can interrogate our mind (in the gentlest possible way of course, we're not talking about strapping ourselves to a chair and shining searchlights in our eyes!) to provide us with insights and "Aha Moments"... when we want them.

That's so important because, in the normal run of life (and we know that normal's not good!) we might have the odd "Aha Moment" at random. Why would you fumble around waiting for inspiration when you can inspire yourself at absolutely any appropriate moment?

And that's why, in this week's episode, before we get to the punchline, we talk about asking ourselves open questions, allowing ourselves be guided by the part of us that actually, simply and effortlessly, knows best and allowing ourselves do the right things and avoid the rest.

Makes not just for an effortless experience of the here and now, today. It enables is move effortlessly forward to the life that's best for us too. Because, if the inner you knows best and you let it, it will lead you to what and where is best in... the best possible way.

Simple when you... do it.

People get overwrought thinking about... thinking! The number of times I've been told "I'm a great over-thinker", as if it were something to be proud of, is so far from amazing... because it's normal!

Your mental agility, right here, today, will enable you do and say the right things. Muddled-mindedness will cloud everything today.

But that's only the start of it because, if you don't adopt a mental fitness regime, you're also damaging your longterm mental health.

So, in this episode we veer off the straight and narrow and explore an exercise that enables us review the past! I said review not relive! And the past that I'm talking about is the day in question, reviewed as the day draws to a close.

A highly effective mental exercise for getting a good, deep, cleansing night's sleep sits at the heart of this week's episode. But... it's only part of regime that lasts and must last all day, everyday. Because that's when we live our life.

I spend half my life talking about stuff that doesn't actually exist... annoyance, frustration, worry, anxiety, stress, panic - all a figment of God knows whose imagination (this episode explains exactly what I mean by that).

In this episode we explore how we make "sense" of our daily lives (we actually make complete and utter nonsense of them), we explore the process known to psychology as cognitive appraisal.

You'll discover that your mood "enables" you choose your thoughts which, in turn, create your mood! Yes, if you need to read that sentence again, off you go - the essence of madness.

But there is so much more to this episode than just that. Understanding the function of cognitive appraisal makes what we have to do to break the automatic cycle all the more effortless.

As you might imagine, it all comes down to choice. As you might not imagine, it's a simple little choice - get this choice right and everything else begins to effortlessly fall into place. And, you know what, you discover how to enjoy life.

Or should the title of this week's podcast episode be Apparently Random Events...?

We're exploring the difference between normal crazy daily wading through the muck in our own heads and the alternative - living the kind of life you'd love, in flow. Or, even for starters, just turning up to your own life.

When you turn up, amazing things happen (or, at least they're amazing to the numbskull normal mind!) - they're called opportunities and synchronicities and they change our lives, moment-to-moment.

But there's much more to this episode than that. We talk about how our growing awareness enables us become fully aware of our own innate madness; how the journey we're taking is singular and what we must do to put our best foot forward on that journey, not every day but every now.

Every now counts. There's no such thing as a random now, a random person or a random event. These "coincidences", when we meet the "next most important stranger in our lives" are opportunities. But are they all your opportunities, opportunities for you? Not at all... only a normal crazy numbskull would think that!