In today’s episode, we cover small talk with AJ, Johnny, and Michael.

Getting on the question train is one of the most common mistakes people make in conversations without realizing it, but what is it, why does it kill conversations, and how do you avoid getting on it?

What to Listen For

Asking questions is a critical part of engaging conversations. But asking too many questions can kill a conversation. A conversation should be a balance between asking questions, listening, and relating. That means after you ask a question, you should be listening to what the other person says, and then responding with a statement that shows you were listening and that you understand what the other person was trying to say. You ask a question, they share, you share, then you can ask another question or preferably, they ask the next question.

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Resources from this Episode

Toolbox: Biggest Myth With Small Talk & 3 Mistakes to Avoid

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Self-Disclosure: An Experimental Analysis of the Transparent Self

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