Unapologetically Sensitive

The Power of Speaking Up; Boundary-Setting in Therapy and Beyond

How do you navigate ruptures in therapy if the therapist overshares, or does not meet your needs? Rupture and repair are possible. Are there ways to self-disclose in appropriate ways that benefit the client? We share a vignette about therapeutic rupture. As a client, do you know how to bring up concerns to your therapist? As a therapist, are you creating safety for your clients, so they know that you welcome their feedback? If done skillfully, repair work can create a stronger therapeutic bond, and more intimacy.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

• Speak up if your therapist violates your boundaries or wastes your time. You have a right to use your voice and say that this behavior was not okay.
• Consider giving your therapist feedback if they make a mistake or have an off day. This can help repair any ruptures in the therapeutic relationship and strengthen the alliance.
• Remember that therapy is a partnership, and you have agency in the process. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need or express your feelings.
• If you're struggling to show up authentically, consider seeking out a therapist or coach who can help you feel safe and supported.
• If you're a therapist, practice skillful self-disclosure by sharing information in a measured, appropriate, and helpful way that helps your clients feel connected.
• Be open to discomfort and learning to tolerate it. The goal of therapy is not always to feel better, but to learn how to manage conflict and discomfort in a healthy way.

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

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Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

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Setting the Groundwork for the Holidays with the Emotionally Immature Person part 2

Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents explains why we repeatedly give in to an Emotionally Immature Person (EIP) even when you don't want to. She talks about how to stay in touch with your true self and how to plan your actions to support you. She also helps you understand when to confront and when to let go, as well as providing tools and mantras to remind you that you have needs, and a right to exist.

GUEST

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.

HIGHLIGHTS

5 Hallmarks of an Emotionally Immature Parent/Person (EIP)

1. Egocentric

2. Poor empathy

3. Not self-reflective

4. Look at reality through the lens of their own emotions

5. Avoids emotional intimacy

Here are some of the questions Dr. Gibson responds to:

How do Emotionally Immature Parents (EIPs) or Emotionally Immature Persons get you to knuckle under and let them do what they want (emotional coercion)?

What makes you repeatedly give in to an Emotionally Immature Parent (or Person) even when you don't want to?

Dr. Gibson talks about what makes you give in even when you have a bad feeling about it. Why don't you listen to your instincts when confronted with a pushy EIP?

How do you stay in touch with your true Self, and plan your actions according to what's healthy and less stressful for you?

What's the best overall approach, or the mantra to remember to get through a holiday visit without serious stress?

When do you let things go, and when do you confront?

GUEST BIO

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of four books. Her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller. The follow up to this book is Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the 2nd edition of her first book Who You Were Meant To Be has been recently released on Amazon. Her latest book, Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was just released in September 2021. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and she works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Dr, Gibson's links

Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents explains why it's harder to deal with Emotionally Immature People (EIPs) around get togethers, and the likely pitfalls. She talks about how to plan and prepare so the experience is healthy for you. She also explains why you may become paralyzed or feel like a small child around your family. Dr. Gibson talks about how to take care of yourself, and how to set boundaries.

GUEST

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.

HIGHLIGHTS

5 Hallmarks of an Emotionally Immature Parent/Person (EIP)

1. Egocentric

2. Poor empathy

3. Not self-reflective

4. Look at reality through the lens of their own emotions

5. Avoids emotional intimacy

Here are some of the questions Dr. Gibson responds to:

Recap of what is an Emotionally Immature Parent (EIP) (or Emotionally Immature Person)?

Is there something about holiday get togethers that makes it harder to deal with Emotionally Immature family members?

What are the steps in planning to make the holiday visit as healthy as possible?

What are the likely pitfalls to be ready for? How do you deal with them?

Why do you often become immobilized or silent like scared children, rather than standing up for yourself in the face of Emotionally Immature behavior?

How do you set your boundaries when someone is getting upset with you for saying no?

GUEST BIO

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of four books. Her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller. The follow up to this book is Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the 2nd edition of her first book Who You Were Meant To Be has been recently released on Amazon. Her latest book, Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was just released in September 2021. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and she works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Dr, Gibson's links

Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

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Setting Boundaries with Emotionally Immature People

Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents provides a 5-part process outlining how to set boundaries with an Emotionally Immature Person (EIP). She also talks about how to reinforce and reset those boundaries when they aren't honored. Dr. Gibson talks about how to determine the optimal physical and psychological distance with EIPs, including examples. Dr. Gibson states what you can say when an EIP says something hurtful.

GUEST

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.

HIGHLIGHTS

5-Part process in talking to an emotionally immature person:

1. Ask if you can have some time (10 minutes) for the person to listen to you

2. Set ground rules

a. There are some things I need to tell you

b. I'm going to tell you how I'm feeling, and I'd like for you to just listen and understand. You don' have to do anything

c. Are you willing to do this?

3. Tell them what you need to say following this format:

a. When you ­­­(example), I feel (share feeling)

4. Follow up immediately with what you would like from them

a. Would you be willing to promise me that

i. You won't use these words (examples)

ii. You will talk to me in private instead of publicly.

iii. You will say this (example) instead of that (example)

5. Would you be willing to try this for me?

GUEST BIO

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of four books. Her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller. The follow up to this book is Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the 2nd edition of her first book Who You Were Meant To Be has been recently released on Amazon. Her latest book, Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was just released in September 2021. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and she works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Dr, Gibson's links

Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

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Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents talks about self-care regarding self-confidence, security, self-connection, self-awareness and emotional self-protection. She talks about how being an adult child impacts a person's choices and behaviors in relationships. She also talks about how sensitivity can affect a person's functioning in these areas.

GUEST

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.

HIGHLIGHTS

Here are some of the questions Dr. Gibson responds to:

· Tell us about your most recent book Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. Why did you write this book?

· The book has three main sections: what are they, and what can readers expect to get from each topic? Why might adult children of emotionally immature parents (ACEIPs )find these topics especially meaningful?

· How do you see sensitivity as a trait possibly affecting a person's functioning in these areas?

· Do you see a connection between sensitivity and an ACEIPs feelings of security and self-confidence?

· You've mentioned that ACEIPs have been taught not to trust themselves or their self-awareness. Could you talk about this a bit more?

· In the book you've talked about the importance of emotional self-protection. Can you explain what that means exactly?

· You talk about the crucial importance of a person's inner self-connection. Why do you make that idea such a central focus?

· How do these issues affect a person's choices and behaviors in relationship?

GUEST BIO

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of four books. Her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller. The follow up to this book is Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the 2nd edition of her first book Who You Were Meant To Be has been recently released on Amazon. Her latest book, Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was just released in September 2021. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and she works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Dr, Gibson's links

Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

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How to Identify a Healthy Relationship

GUEST

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents describes healthy relationships look like, and she identifies characteristics of a person who is capable of having a healthy relationship. She talks about what to look for at the beginning of a relationship. She also talks about deal breakers and red flags, and why people who had unhappy childhoods tend to get involved with difficult partners. She explains why it can be hard to end a relationship that isn't working.

HIGHLIGHTS

· Emotional Immaturity—These people respond like young children or adolescents. They lack empathy and are not able to see things from another's point of view. They lack the ability to self-regulate and they are NOT self-reflective. They have a strong sense of self, but not of others. There may be attachment injuries, and a secure attachment is essential to develop a healthy sense of self.

· What are elements of a healthy relationship?

· The relationship supports and builds the energy and individuality of each person

· One has the ability to be empathic—you can imagine your internal experience and the internal experience of the other

· One is interested in their partner, their well-being, they enjoy their partner's success and are supportive

· One is willing to learn

· One keeps it interesting

· What are some personality characteristics of a person who is capable of a healthy relationship?

· One is sensitive and can tune in to the other person

· One's personality is complex enough to support individuality (the partner doesn't have to think, believe, act, do things exactly like the other person to make them feel secure)

· One automatically takes the other person into account

· One is able to take turns with problem-solving, compromise

· One is creative and resilient

· One knows their own needs and preference and can voice them

· One can tolerate conflict

· One can be vulnerable

· One can manage having competing needs

· Mature coping mechanisms like humor, or asking for support

· Why are some people aware of their unhappy childhoods, yet they find themselves involved with difficult people in their adult relationships?

· HSPs have great insight and great memories

· HSPs are altruistic and function at a high level

· If a person doesn't do the emotional work to heal from childhood, they recognize the patterns, but continue to engage in relationships/patterns that don't work

· You must have the emotional experience of what happened to you in childhood

· When one hasn't done the emotional work, one doesn't have the gut feeling or instinct that informs one that this isn't healthy

· What signs should a person look for at the beginning of a relationship in order to assess its potential for becoming a healthy relationship?

· One feels fully seen

· One is even tempered

· One is able to own and accept their mistakes

· One has the ability to apologize and make amends

· One has the capacity to receive

· One is enjoyable, playful, has a sense of humor

· There is a realistic and reliable foundation

· One can work with reality and they try and understand what's going on

· One can think and feel at the same time (one's brain doesn't get hijacked with emotion)

· One can be reasoned with

· One is respectful of boundaries—if you set a boundary, one might be curious about it (but not defensive or try and push the boundary)

· One doesn't psychoanalyze or label or call names (sensitive, overreacting, emotional, unreliable, etc.)

· One can talk from a feeling place

· One won't tell you how you should be feelings

· One can wait and be patient

· One can handle stress well (if you see impatience and irritability in the beginning BEWARE!)

· What are the biggest red flags that indicate that you might be getting involved with an Emotionally Immature Person?

· You feel like you can't completely be yourself

· Not opening up, not completely at ease, watching yourself

· Your thoughts are scrambled

· You don't think as clearly or concisely

· The person has a history of conflictual relationships, and tends to see themselves as a victim or a rescuer

· What are deal breakers in any close relationship?

· If you're doing a lot of the work, and you can't communicate your feelings, and you don't feel safe or confident with the other person

· The other person is constantly telling you that you're the problem

· Why is it difficult to end a difficult relationship?

· We bond with others for a sense of survival.

· It's familiar and there is emotional intensity (this isn't necessarily a positive attribute)

· The more emotional stimulation (even if it's negative—fighting, abuse), the tighter the bonding

GUEST BIO

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of four books. Her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller. The follow up to this book is Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the 2nd edition of her first book Who You Were Meant To Be has been recently released on Amazon. Her latest book, Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was just released in September 2021. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Dr, Gibson's links

Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

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What is an Emotionally Immature Parent, and how to Identify a Healthy Relationship

Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, & Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents explains what an emotionally immature parent is, and how this impacts their adult children. I talk about crying when I got overwhelmed when my kids were young, and Lindsay comments on this. We talk about how to establish good emotional ties with our children, and what constitutes good enough parenting, Lindsay provides nineteen qualities to identify what a healthy relationship looks like.

GUEST

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.

HIGHLIGHTS

· What is emotionally immaturity?

· Why is it important to understand it?

· What are the main characteristics of an emotionally immature parent?

· How do relationships with emotionally immature parents affect their children's lives?

· What are the main things to remember when dealing with emotionally immature parents?

· If you're dating, how do you pick a person who is emotionally mature?

· How do you identify what a healthy relationship looks like?

· What is our human Bill of Rights?

· We talk about repair work when parenting

· I share that I'd get really frustrated with my boys when they were young, and I'd cry because I didn't know what else to do

· Lindsay talks about how she views this

· We talk about the pressures of parenting

· Lindsay explains what good enough parenting is—which should be very reassuring to parents!

· I share about having a tantrum when my son had a tantrum and how it felt lousy afterward

· We'd do good repair work, but I eventually learned to stay calm

· I would also let my boys know when I was edgy and close to losing it. I would let them know what they could do to help me.

· They've told me as young adults how helpful this was to them

· We talk about emotional intimacy with our children

· How do we let ourselves be known by our children when we are having difficult feelings

· How to establish good emotional ties with our kids in a good way

· Winnicut talks about good enough parenting

· Research shows that it just takes 30% of being a good enough parent in order to have a favorable outcome

· Lindsay gives an example of how an adult child could set a limit with their emotionally immature parent if they decided not to spend Thanksgiving with the family

· When adult children set limits with their emotionally immature parents, the parent feels rejected; unloved or they have a strong defensive reaction

· When setting a boundary, you want to stay present to your own heart

· You want to be able to have empathy and acknowledge what it is like for the other person

· You want to remember what your goal is for the interaction, so your intention is clear for yourself

· You also have an opportunity to observe how the other person is reacting, and the defenses that they use

· Emotionally Healthy Relationships

· Is the person generally realistic and reliable?

· Do they work with reality rather than fighting it?

· Are they finding ways to solve problems or are they complaining about how they've been victimized?

· Do they have a consistent and reliable nature about them?

· Do they take things personally?

· When they get upset, can they still think? Do they lose the ability to be rational?

· Signs of temper, impatience or impulsivity should be a red flag—those are cardinal signs of immaturity

· Another red flag is when a person gets very upset, then tells you it's just because they love you

· You want your partner to be reciprocal; you do something for them and they do something for you

· You set a boundary, and they say OK

· If you set a boundary, and your partner tries to talk you out of it, or walk you out of it, that is two red flags

· Boundaries at the beginning of the relationship will tell you almost everything you want to know about that person

· Being flexible and able to compromise is a sign of maturity

· You want someone who is basically truthful; that you can trust who they are

· Does the person respond to you in a manner that you feel safe, and seen and heard?

· Do they reflect on their mistakes and try and change, or do they make excuses?

· Do they reflect when you tell them you're mad at them, or do they say, "Why do you keep bringing that up? What's wrong with you?"

· If they can't accept when you're angry and they get defensive, that's about having a major lack of empathy

· Your partner is thin skinned meaning they do not allow other's reactions to happen, because that person gets so reactive

· Nobody is more intrinsically important as an adult than anybody else

· They way that emotionally immature people react with guilt, shame, fear and self-doubt, can make the other person start to doubt their reality

· This is where you have to remember that "There's good stuff in me!"

GUEST BIO

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of four books. Her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller. The follow up to this book is Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the 2nd edition of her first book Who You Were Meant To Be has been recently released on Amazon. Her latest book, Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was just released in September 2021. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

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The Healing Power of Grief: Pet Loss, Self-Care and Support

It is possible to heal as you grieve. You can be supported, & find meaningful ways to honor the memories your pet. There are so many ways to support someone who is grieving the loss of a pet. I discuss ways to honor your needs during what can be a tearful, and vulnerable time. I talk about ways to assess they types of comfort and support you need, and what things may need to wait. I also talk about competing needs and a bit of a rupture I experienced, and how to navigate this.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

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Managing Uncertainty, Anxiety and Potential Loss with Family and Pets

Do you have rules to quell your anxiety in order to feel safe? I believed (HAHA) that if my kids lived close, I could keep them safe. One son is joining the Navy, and I am having an opportunity reframe what safety means, and to rumble with uncertainty and loss. In this episode, I talk about how to manage uncertainty, & to create strategies for managing life transitions. This episode also addresses potential pet loss, and honoring all of the feelings and getting support through a challenging time.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Jen's Links

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Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

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Self-Advocacy and Needing Help

Why is it taboo to talk about certain subjects? Our shared experiences need to be normalized and validated. Jen and I discuss some health issues we're experiencing, and how it can be difficult to ask for help, especially when we've been let down or shamed in the past. We also discussed the importance of advocating for ourselves in the medical system. Finally, we discussed that even though it can be scary to talk about things, it is important to recognize our needs and make sure we have the support we need.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

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Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

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HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

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