Unapologetically Sensitive

The Art of Boundary-Setting: Nurturing Authentic Relationships

Establishing boundaries can foster deeper connections by allowing us to remain authentic and present. You might feel dysregulated, and/or guilty when you set a boundary. Not all relationships will be close, and not all relationships are meant to last for years. There are also seasons in relationships. When we're genuine in our interactions, we create a space for trust and openness to grow. However, it's essential to remember that creating these connections requires vulnerability.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

In this episode, you will be able to:

· Unravel the essence of implementing boundaries for nurtuing connections.

· Learn the delicate act of intertwining relational bonds with necessary self-preservation.

· Discern the fine line separating deep relationships from passing acquaintances.

· Reap the rewards of asserting oneself while setting and upholding personal boundaries.

· Understand that some relationships are transient and that's ok.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

· Consider exploring boundary work to learn how to set healthy boundaries in all areas of your life.

· If you are neurodivergent, seek out therapists who specialize in working with HSPs and other neurodivergent folks.

· Reflect on the different circles in your life and how to differentiate who belongs in each one to better manage expectations.

· Remember that setting boundaries is natural and can create safety and intimacy in relationships, since you most likely seek to honor and respect others' boundaries as well.

· Practice checking in with yourself to identify your limitations and needs in order to show up fully in your relationships and with yourself.

· If you are feeling lonely or disconnected, consider reaching out to connect with others through Marco Polo, texting, or other forms of communication.

· Explore the concept of contemplating death as a way to live more fully in the present moment.

· Reflect on your attachment wounds and how they may be impacting your relationships, seeking support and resources as needed.

· Consider the importance of nurturing yourself through alone time while also avoiding understimulation.

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is neurodivergent helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

Jen's Links

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Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Words Matter: Claiming Identity Through Inclusive Language

Co-regulation does not mean that you will feel calm. It's about attunement and being present with you in the moment. We challenge negative biases and stereotypes about neurodivergence, such as the idea that being pedantic is always negative. We discuss the importance of using non-judgmental language when speaking to someone about their experiences, especially when it comes to gender identity and pronouns. We also talk about the difficulty some may have differentiating the different types of friendships.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

· Strengthen your connections by learning about co-regulation and attunement in relationships.

· Recognize and increase awareness of linguistic biases to build healthier, more empathetic partnerships.

· Embrace authenticity and vulnerability in conversations for deeper understanding and bonding.

· Break down barriers in communication to foster effective and meaningful exchanges with others.

· Discover the significance of neurodiversity in the continued development and growth of human interactions.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

· Practice co-regulation by being present and attuned to someone's emotions without trying to fix or change them.

· Use non-judgmental language when speaking to someone about their experiences, especially when it comes to gender identity and pronouns.

· Consider collaborating and communicating with other disciplines and research teams to gain more insight and information.

· Embrace neurodivergence and recognize the strengths and gifts that come with it.

· Challenge negative biases and stereotypes about neurodivergence, such as the idea that being pedantic is always negative.

· Keep an open mind and be willing to evolve and adapt as we learn more about ourselves and the world around us.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is neurodivergent helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

Jen's Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

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Neurodivergent Considerations when Nurturing Authentic Relationships

Are you struggling with self-monitoring and communication? We dive into some of the challenges faced by neurodivergent folks. Discover the power of authenticity and direct communication for neurodivergents. Explore practical strategies to navigate challenges, set boundaries and forge meaningful relationships. Learn practical tools for practicing self-care, and deeper connections. Embrace vulnerability and create genuine connections.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

• Embrace authenticity to be present with resistance, anxiety, and finding your voice.
• Recognize the vital role of consent, autonomy, and communication within relationships.
• Understand patterns of communication when one is neurodivergent as it relates to communication, unmasking and self-monitoring.
• Forge deeper connections through vulnerability and genuine self-expression.
• Establish healthy boundaries and practice self-care in relationships for lasting, positive connections.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Practice being authentic and showing up even when feeling resistant.
• Give yourself permission to lower the bar and be good enough.
• Stay open and curious about your feelings and experiences, without attaching meaning or creating stories.
• Find your people and seek out connections with those who understand your experiences.
• Be direct and speak your truth, even if it's scary or uncomfortable.
• Prioritize tending to your lived experience and attending to others in a way that honors their experiences.
• Value directness and authenticity in your interactions with others, even if it goes against societal norms of politeness.
• Look for ways to center yourself and be authentic, even if it goes against how you were raised.

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and then learning she is neurodivergent helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergents know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently can have some amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with therapists, and others, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us.

LINKS

Jen's Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

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Unlocking Your Voice: Strategies for Assertiveness and Connection

We explore managing expectations, and the innate need for feeling seen and heard. You'll learn techniques to regulate expectations, express personal requirements, and foster authentic connections. We emphasize the importance of vulnerability, empathetic listening, and setting healthy boundaries. We also provide insights into the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals and offer strategies to overcome them.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

In this episode, you will be able to:

· Learn techniques to regulate expectations and verbalize personal requirements in relationships.

· Uncover the significance of tuning in and genuinely paying attention during conversations.

· Learn to effectively traverse the landscape of complex emotions and express them positively.

· Foster a sense of equilibrium between openness and personal power during interactions.

· Embrace the courage to stand up for your needs and set healthy boundaries in various circumstances.

• Understand the significance of feeling seen and heard, fostering authentic connections and emotional intimacy.
• Learn Techniques to navigate complex emotions and express them positively.
• Find a balance between openness and personal power during interactions.
• Embrace the courage to stand up for one's needs and establish healthy boundaries.
• Understand the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in assertiveness and decision-making.
• Learn practical tools and strategies for healthier relationships and personal well-being.

Resources

· Don't hesitate to ask for what you want and need in a relationship.

· Practice attunement and actively listen for others' preferences and needs.

· Create personal books for holidays and special occasions to write notes and messages to loved ones.

· Be mindful of triggers during holidays and sensitive occasions.

· Remember that you matter and are important, even if your needs aren't always met in the way you expect.

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about neurodivergence (and initially the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and having a brain that is wired differently, means you have amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Jen's Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

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Embracing Neurodiversity: My Journey Continues to Unfold

I may have dropped a bombshell in episode 191. I apologize and I provide more information in this episode. My understanding about neurodivergence has really expanded, and I'm recognizing myself in some new and unexpected ways. I share some insight, education, and how this expands my work with neurodivergent people with new understanding. I also talk about how I see this impacting the podcast and my work with clients.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Learn to have more conversations about neurodiversity and inclusivity, rejecting finite labels and embracing different ways of showing up in the world.
• Understand the relief and acceptance upon receiving a diagnosis or deeper understand of how you're wired
• Acknowledging the diversity within autism and reject stereotypes. Instead learn about the importance of understanding the lived experiences of autistic individuals.
• Explore the intersection between highly sensitive people and autism, suggesting similarities and possible overlaps.
• Learn more about masking and support needs, highlighting their own experience as a high masker with low support needs.
• Acknowlege the controversy and differing opinions within the autistic community and HSP community about the origins and the intersection (if there is one).
• Understand a personal anecdote about social awkwardness and sensory issues during a breakfast gathering, emphasizing the need for self-advocacy and self-care strategies.
• Identify the personal challenges, feelings of not being understood, and the importance of compassion and support from others.
• Appreciate the connections made with other autistic individuals and therapists, highlighting the support and shared experiences within the neurodivergent community.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Resources

UPDATED AUTISM RESOURCES

YouTube

Could you be Autistic (and not know) Video Yo Samdy Sam

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ot46-YGUF4Y...

10 Autism Signs you need to know Paige Layle (content starts at 1:45) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfKH7-GM3aM

Autistic MASKING: how do we do it and should we stop? Yo Samdy Sam

https://youtu.be/t9COmZ2HwXY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6uTEoBHHF4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OvZVOlVnQW0

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzske-KMAJYQn84rz6oD_yA

https://www.youtube.com/@autismfromtheInside

Online Tests and Quizzes

https://embraceasd.com/tests/

Pre-diagnostic/Self-assessment quiz for autism

https://www.aspietests.org/raads/...

Pre-diagnostic/Self-assessment quiz for autism

https://rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php...

Adult autism assessment for people socialized as women

https://taniaannmarshall.wordpress.com/.../adult.../...

Females & Asperger's: A Checklist - https://the-art-of-autism.com/females-and-aspergers-a.../

Steve Asbell's Autistic Masking Quiz

https://misslunarose.home.blog/.../25/steve-asbell-aq-r/...

Collection of Tests Related to Autism & Asperger's: https://aspietests.org/...

A Neurodiversity Paradigm Breakdown of the DSM-5 Criteria for Autism

https://autietraumageek.medium.com/a-neurodiversity...

Should you seek an autism diagnosis or not?

Trauma Geek Facebook Post from Nov. 4, 2020 (with a couple added links):

Let's talk about adult diagnosis of Autism and ADHD.

What's the point?

1. Educational accommodations

2. Disability benefits

3. Specialized support

4. Finding your NeuroTribe

5. All of the above

If you're looking for 1 or 2, medical diagnosis is necessary.

If you're looking for 3 or 4, self-diagnosis is completely valid.

Many neurodivergent people do both - There is a self-discovery process first, and then they seek medical diagnosis.

Medical diagnosis is a privilege. It is not accessible to all neurodivergent people. It is expensive and emotionally taxing under the best of circumstances.

If you pursue medical diagnosis, there is a high chance that your doctor will not be informed about the neurodiversity paradigm or masking. They may not see you as autistic or ADHD because their training involved a very narrow stereotype of these neurotypes. You may need to ask if your doctor is willing to look at the newest research and learn along with you, or you may want to refer them to a neurodiversity advocate who can explain the research to them.

(I'm writing from the United States, so this info may not apply to all countries, but I have read that Australia and the UK are very similar with professionals tending to have a biased concept of autism based on outdated research studies of men and boys. This trend is gradually changing for the better, but we have a long way to go to reach full autism and ADHD acceptance in the medical field.)

If you don't need government benefits or educational support, self-identification is enough. Like gender identity, neurotype is a social construct. Self-diagnosis matters because it allows us to reframe our story about ourselves, seek supports that actually work for us, understand our own health and neurology, and find belonging in a group that thinks and feels and expresses themselves like we do.

The importance of finding belonging after a lifetime of feeling othered cannot be overstated.

How to talk about Autism respectfully - https://coda.io/@mykola-bilokonsky/public-neurodiversity-support-center/how-to-talk-about-autism-respectfully-84

@audhdfeelings: This is the best assessment ever https://1drv.ms/x/s!AqQsNLv44oHwc-z-kYxYTbJ9BxQ?e=yENNbJ

Sally Cat checklist http://www.sallycatpda.co.uk/?m=1

Casey Ehrlich PDA at Peace Parents https://www.atpeaceparents.com/

Autism is a spectrum doesn't mean what you think https://neuroclastic.com/its-a-spectrum-doesnt-mean-what-you-think/?fbclid=IwAR3-mYBE9aa6OrZLW6t7cN4kFymr_gXtHuDhimKOSHq7AAa9-NqvXsGXb38&mibextid=Zxz2cZ

ND communication styles https://neuroclastic.com/weavers-and-concluders-two-communication-styles-no-one-knows-exist/?amp&fbclid=IwAR0dDqS_0TxJxzDyQOkuMyBBqTf5mqb_bs2R0osDgI_sEC5-3FdGONI91K4&mibextid=Zxz2cZ

Books: «Unmasking Autism» (Devon Price) «Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate» (Cynthia Kim) «Drama Queen: One Autistic Woman and a Life of Unhelpful Labels» (Sara Gibbs) «Odd girl out: An Autistic Woman in a Neurotypical World» (Laura James) «I Overcame My Autism and All I Got Was This Lousy Anxiety Disorder — A Memoir» (Sarah Kurchak) «Invisible Differences: A Story of Aspergers, Adulting, and Living a Life in Full Color» (Julie Dachez) Podcasts: - the Neurodivergent Woman - SquarePeg - the Autistic Culture - Neuroqueering - the neurodiverging podcast - Neurodivergent moments Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfKH7-GM3aM https://youtu.be/t9COmZ2HwXY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6uTEoBHHF4 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OvZVOlVnQW0 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzske-KMAJYQn84rz6oD_yA https://www.youtube.com/@autismfromtheInside

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Healing & Connection: Finding Your People Amidst the Storm

We talk about honoring your neurodivergence, and bringing in self-compassion when you're having a hard time connecting with your strengths and gifts. We talk about having unrealistic expectations in friendships, and the fear of rejection if you ask for what you want. How do you recognize where you do have control of yourself, and how do you learn to embrace uncertainty? We talk about the challenges with setting boundaries, and identifying who honors your boundaries.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

· Unravel the significance of self-compassion and mindfulness in working with stress and anxiety.

· Appreciate your unique perspective to enrich your connections in relationships.

· Attain equilibrium by letting go of the uncontrollable and harnessing personal power.

· Elevate your communication skills with meta-awareness to focus on the spirit of connection.

· Discover the impactful role of self-compassion and mindfulness in minimizing stress and anxiety.

· Embrace your individuality to strengthen connections and bonds in relationships.

· Establish boundaries to foster a sense of safety and stability in your life.

· Achieve inner peace by releasing control over uncontrollable situations and embracing personal agency.

· Enhance your conversations through meta-awareness, emphasizing the essence of connection while you speak.

Resources

· Consider working with a coach or therapist that is knowledgeable in neurodivergence and can provide a safe space for you to talk about your challenges and find healing.

· Practice self-compassion by taking a self-compassion break, which includes mindfulness of the present moment, connecting with the universality of suffering, and wishing gentleness and fullness for oneself and others.

· Focus on what is possible rather than an impossible task by redirecting energy towards simple acts such as taking a sip of water or a deep breath.

· Recognize that different mindfulness and meditation techniques work for different people and find a repertoire of techniques that work for you to manage stress and regulate emotions.

· Review your friendships and relationships, recognize patterns, and communicate your needs clearly to foster safe and supportive connections.

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Kristen Neff Self-Compassion Break-- https://self-compassion.org/exercise-2-self-compassion-break/

Jen's Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Distorted Self-Image; Internalizing How You are Positively Reflected

How can you internalize the positive ways others see you in order to shift your distorted self-perception? How do you nurture secure attachments? What prevents you from having intimate relationships with others? Jen and I talk about what it was like for her to come to CA, and for us to meet in person for the first time in our 5-year friendship. We explore our fears, & how this shifted our relationship. We also explore ways to savor connection.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

• Listen to episode 193 to hear about Jen's surprise visit to San Diego.
• Take the time to check in with your needs and feelings in relationships, and communicate them clearly to your partner or friend.
• Practice nonviolent communication by separating needs from strategies and avoiding making assumptions or personalizing situations.
• Reflect on the positive parts of yourself that you experience through others, and work on empowering yourself to see those qualities through your own eyes.
• Embrace your personal living style without seeking reassurance or approval from others.
• Consider using Marco Polo or FaceTime to build deep, meaningful relationships with long-distance friends.
• Remember to factor in the impact of ADHD on maintaining friendships and take steps to mitigate those challenges.
• Take the risk to be vulnerable with friends and loved ones, and cultivate a vocabulary that allows you to talk about

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Jen's Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Embracing Vulnerability and Setting Boundaries for Deeper Connection

Vulnerability can be an uncomfortable but empowering experience, resulting in stronger connections with others and increased emotional resilience. If you crave meaningful connections, you must allow yourself to be vulnerable, even when it feels uncomfortable. When setting boundaries, we often deal with a part that feels very young and disempowered. We forget we are grown *ss adults. We talk about specific tools and ways to regulate uncomfortable feelings and practice speaking your truth.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

· Reach out for support when feeling overwhelmed, lonely, or scared.

· Practice setting boundaries in relationships and honoring your own needs.

· Recognize and validate the emotions you are experiencing, even if they seem conflicting.

· Practice self-compassion when dealing with life's challenges and be gentle with yourself when anticipating potential issues.

· Reflect on past experiences and how you've grown through them, using those lessons to navigate current situations.

· Consider your relationship with your body and how you can take care of it as you age.

· Embrace your finely-tuned nervous system and its reactions.

· Counter perfectionism by accepting imperfections and embracing life's messiness.

· Stay connected with others, even when life gets busy or challenging.

· Practice mindfulness and being present in each moment, rather than getting caught up in past or future worries.

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Jen's Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Managing Stress Reactions through Self-Care

How do you manage stress reactions—especially when you struggle to set boundaries? Sometimes it can be difficult to assert your needs. I share a story of risking looking like that person in my own home. We talk about the importance of understanding what you are willing to tolerate in relationships and what might come up if you struggle to set boundaries. We also talk about the intimacy that develop when we are able to risk and be vulnerable with those we love.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

· Fortify your personal boundaries and enhance your well-being as a highly sensitive individual.

· Master the art of self-care to manage stress reactions and maintain balance in life.

· Foster empathy and understanding to strengthen relationships and foster meaningful connections.

· Embark on a journey of personal growth and self-awareness, discovering ways to cope with emotional triggers.

· Bolster your emotional regulation by embracing support from loved ones and building a nurturing circle.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

· Consider reading Emily Nagoski's book, Burnout, to learn more about handling stress and setting boundaries.

· Take time for self-care by scheduling specific days or moments in a month for doing something nice for yourself.

· Practice asserting yourself and setting boundaries in different situations, even if it feels uncomfortable.

· Communicate openly with family members or friends about your struggles with setting boundaries and ask for their support.

· Reflect on where you feel a no in your body and honor that feeling when setting boundaries.

· Be mindful of rules and social etiquette in public spaces, and assert yourself when needed.

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski PhD, & Amelia Nagoski DMA

Jen's Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

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4. choose "ratings and reviews"
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click "write a review"

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Managing Dysregulation with Compassion & Mindfulness

In this episode, you will be able to: 1. Learn the importance of honoring your personal needs and setting boundaries to maintain your emotional well-being. 2. Recognize the impact of differentiating past traumas from present experiences to feel more empowered. 3. The importance of cultivating authentic connections through vulnerability and empathetic listening. 4. Uncover some tools for healing through journaling, meditation, and IFS.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Practice self-awareness and tune into your feelings and needs, especially during moments of dysregulation.
• Honor your emotions and personal boundaries by taking breaks, resting, and setting limits as needed.
• Use cognitive tools, such as present moment focus, to help manage dysregulation and negative thought patterns.
• Find a supportive group or community where you feel comfortable and understood, and avoiding situations that make you feel othered.
• Invest in helpful tools, like noise-cancelling earplugs, to make sensory experiences more manageable.
• Educate yourself about your own neurodivergence, such as autism, to better understand your needs and experiences.
• Communicate your needs to friends and loved ones, and allow them to support you during difficult moments.
• Recognize and challenge unhealthy attachment patterns or expectations in relationships.
• Practice self-compassion and avoid self-judgment, recognizing that taking care of yourself is not quitting or failing.
• Seek therapy or support from a mental health professional if needed to help navigate challenges related to being a highly sensitive person.

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Why haven't I healed or awakened yet with Jeff Foster-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRLKZN1LRFM

Jen's Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4

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1. click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
2. select "listen on Apple Podcasts"
3. chose "open in itunes"
4. choose "ratings and reviews"
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click "write a review"

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

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Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com