Unapologetically Sensitive

Navigating Competing Needs in a Relationship

Jen & I talk about having competing needs while I was visiting her, and what came up for me, and how we navigated having uncomfortable feelings. We look at this through the lens of neurodivergence (Autism, HSP, ADHD and PDA). We also explore the difficulty I had as a neurodivergent person assessing if I had a good time on the trip or not. We also look at where we blended well and what we will do differently next time.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

Navigating shifts in relationships can be challenging, but there are strategies and tools that can help. By being proactive and intentional, we can build stronger, more resilient relationships that can weather the storms of change. Some specific strategies and tools for navigating shifts in relationships include: - Communication: Open and honest communication is key to navigating shifts in relationships.

This includes

· Active listening, expressing needs and boundaries, and being willing to compromise and negotiate.

· Self-reflection: Taking time to reflect on our own needs, values, and goals can help us navigate shifts in relationships more effectively. This includes identifying our own triggers and patterns, and being willing to take responsibility for our own actions and emotions.

· Seeking support: Building a support network of friends, family, or professionals can provide us with the resources and guidance we need to navigate shifts in relationships. This includes seeking out therapy, coaching, or other forms of support when needed.

· Practicing self-care: Taking care of ourselves physically, emotionally, and mentally can help us navigate shifts in relationships more effectively. This includes getting enough sleep, exercise, and healthy food, as well as engaging in activities that bring us joy and fulfillment.

· Cultivating gratitude: Focusing on the positive aspects of our relationships and expressing gratitude for the people in our lives can help us navigate shifts in relationships with a sense of perspective and appreciation.

Navigating shifts in relationships can be tough, and it's okay to feel overwhelmed or uncertain. It's important to recognize that these challenges are normal and can be overcome with the right tools and support. By acknowledging and addressing these difficulties, we can strengthen our relationships and build deeper connections with those we care about.

Some common challenges people face during times of change include

· Uncertainty and fear of the unknown

· Loss of trust or communication breakdowns

· Competing needs and priorities

· Differences in values or goals

· Resistance to change or difficulty adapting

· Emotional triggers or unresolved issues from the past

During times of change, it can be tempting to withdraw or put up walls to protect ourselves. However, by embracing transparency and vulnerability, we can create a deeper sense of connection and understanding with those around us. By sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences, we can build trust, encourage empathy, and foster growth and learning. This can help reduce conflict and misunderstandings, and create a sense of safety and security for ourselves and others. Ultimately, by being open and honest, we can strengthen our relationships and build deeper connections with those we care about.

· Building trust and intimacy: When we share our thoughts, feelings, and experiences with others, we create a deeper sense of connection and understanding.

· Encouraging empathy and compassion: By being vulnerable, we allow others to see our humanity and can inspire empathy and compassion in others.

· Fostering growth and learning: When we are transparent about our struggles and challenges, we create opportunities for growth and learning, both for ourselves and for others.

· Reducing conflict and misunderstandings: By being open and honest, we can avoid misunderstandings and conflicts that can arise from miscommunication or hidden agendas.

· Creating a sense of safety and security: When we are transparent and vulnerable, we create a safe space for ourselves and others to be authentic and true to ourselves.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

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When Your Stuff Bumps Up Against Your Friend's Stuff

How do you navigate feeling hurt in a relationship, and the other person doesn't understand (or realize) that you have been hurt? What do you do when the other person thinks you want space, but you feel hurt, and that's not what you need, but you think the other person is distancing from you? Is it ok to text or email someone when you feel hurt and a phone call or in-person conversation feels overwhelming? I also talk about my dislike of costumes and what that brings up for me.

HIGHLIGHTS

· The episode discusses what happens when our stuff bumps up against someone else's stuff and how to navigate those situations. •

· The author shares a personal experience of sharing an experience on the podcast and how the person being talked about felt about this.

· The importance of communication and being mindful of how our words and actions can affect others in our relationships is emphasized. •

· The episode is relatable and discusses how our past experiences and trauma can impact our interactions with others.

· The episode emphasizes the importance of communication skills in navigating difficult situations in relationships. •

· The author models emotional intelligence by sharing a personal experience and reflecting on how their actions impacted others. •

· The episode highlights the importance of being mindful of how our words and actions can affect others, and how to approach conversations with empathy and understanding. •

· The author encourages listeners to reflect on their own past experiences and how they may be impacting their current relationships. •

· The episode provides practical tips for how to approach difficult conversations, such as asking for permission before sharing personal information about others. •

· The author also models vulnerability by sharing their own fears and insecurities about their ability to communicate effectively.

· The importance of consent and clear communication asking for permission to share personal experiences is discussed.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is autistic helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

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Navigating Change: How to Stay True to Yourself While Traveling

Travelling and being a guest in someone's home can be challenging due to change: adjusting to new routines, and being out of your routine. I spend a week with Jen, and we talk about checking in with each other, and my need for structure, and Jen's lack of structure. We talk about structure vs. flexibility, and as an autistic, how do I honor how I'm wired and still go with the flow? We focus heavily on self-care and compassion. I also offer tips for travelling and packing that help me.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

Travel tips and trips when visiting

· Create a master travel list on your computer to help you stay organized

· Adapt your travel list for each trip to ensure you bring everything you need

· Keep a post-it note nearby (if your travel list isn't handy) to jot down things you think of later

· Pack a carry-on suitcase to make traveling easier

· Bring a little bag with all your toiletries to save time and space

· Allow yourself to have objections to new places and experiences, and be willing to consider the possibilities of how a new experience might be amazing

· Recognize that change and novelty can be difficult for people who like sameness. This doesn't mean that those people won't enjoy new experiences though

· Try to focus on the positive aspects of new experiences, like the possibility of having an amazing time

· Be aware that plane rides can be difficult for some autistics

· Find ways to make plane rides more comfortable, like bringing a comfort item, downloaded movies, books, and noise-cancelling headphones

· Consider traveling with a partner or friend who understands your needs

· Research your destination ahead of time to find out what accommodations are available

· Be open to trying new things, like taking a day trip to explore your destination - Remember to check your schedule and make sure you don't have any appointments or commitments you've forgotten about

· Be patient with yourself and others, and recognize that everyone's feelings and needs matter

Overall themes discussed in this episode

· People who are autistic may become familiar with their behaviors and not have any idea that others may have judgements about them

· Checking in with yourself and being able to recognize your own feelings is important

· Nonviolent communication is a useful tool for problem-solving and understanding others' needs

· Many behaviors that are considered unusual or abnormal are actually quite normal. This is due to norms set by allistics (non-autstics).

· It's important to talk about these behaviors so that people don't feel isolated or ashamed

· Some autistics may have a hard time figuring out certain things

· Coaching and support can be helpful for autistics

· It's important to recognize that no behavior is inherently good or bad

· Everyone's feelings and needs matter

· Autistics can craft a lifestyle that meets their needs

· Having a partner who understands your needs can be helpful

Balancing the Need for Structure and Flexibility: Tips and Strategies –

· Start by acknowledging that both structure and flexibility are important for your well-being and productivity. While structure provides a sense of stability and predictability, flexibility allows you to adapt to changing circumstances and explore new opportunities. –

· Identify your core values and priorities, and use them as a guide for creating a flexible yet structured routine. For example, if you value creativity and learning, you may want to set aside some time each day for reading, writing, or experimenting with new ideas. - Experiment with different time-management techniques and tools, such as time blocking, Pomodoro technique, or task batching. These methods can help you stay focused and organized while also allowing for some flexibility and spontaneity. –

· Practice mindfulness and self-awareness to tune into your body and mind's needs. If you feel overwhelmed or stressed, take a break, go for a walk, or do some deep breathing exercises. If you feel energized and inspired, use that momentum to tackle more challenging tasks or try something new. –

· Be open to feedback and adjust your routine as needed. If you find that a particular strategy or tool is not working for you, don't be afraid to try something else. Remember that flexibility is not about being wishy-washy or indecisive, but about being adaptable and resilient. –

· Finally, be kind and compassionate to yourself. Balancing structure and flexibility is not always easy, and it's okay to make mistakes or have setbacks. Celebrate your successes, learn from your failures, and keep moving forward with a growth mindset.

· By following these tips and strategies, you can create a routine that honors your need for structure and flexibility while also optimizing your productivity and well-being. Remember, it's not about finding the perfect balance, but about finding what works best for you in the moment.

Tips for Showing Up Authentically Without Overperforming: -

· Start by defining what authenticity means to you. What are your core values, beliefs, and passions? What makes you unique and special? Use these insights to guide your actions and decisions. –

· Set realistic expectations for yourself and others. Don't try to be perfect or please everyone. Instead, focus on doing your best and being true to yourself. –

· Practice self-compassion and self-care. Take breaks when you need them, prioritize your well-being, and avoid comparing yourself to others. –

· Be honest and transparent in your communication. Speak your truth with kindness and respect, and listen actively to others' perspectives. - Set boundaries and say no when necessary.

· Don't overcommit or take on more than you can handle. Learn to prioritize your time and energy based on your needs and goals. –

· Embrace your imperfections and mistakes. Remember that failure is a natural part of growth and learning. Use setbacks as opportunities to reflect, learn, and improve. –

· Finally, surround yourself with supportive and accepting people who appreciate you for who you are. Seek out communities and relationships that align with your values and interests.

· By following these tips, you can show up authentically without feeling the pressure to overperform or conform to others' expectations. Remember that authenticity is not about being perfect or flawless, but about being true to yourself and living a meaningful and fulfilling life.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA Profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

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Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

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Navigating Executive Dysfunction: Managing Busy Minds

Managing appointments, schedules and life can be challenging when you've got ADHD, AuDHD, or simply challenges with executive functioning. Jen and I talk about our struggles and the things that work for us. We talk about what may be more neuroaffirming. We also talk about the challenges of getting advice, or working with someone who doesn't understand neurodiversity. For example: being told to try silent meditation, but that may not work when you've got a busy brain. Moving meditation may be a better fit.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

Main points:

· Challenges with executive functioning, including difficulty focusing on one thing and keeping track of appointments.

· Using timers and reminders on your phone to help manage your schedule.

· Valuing giving and receiving grace in personal and professional relationships

· Learning to be more flexible and go with the flow in your work and personal life.

· Recognizing the importance of understanding one's own needs and working styles.

· Experimenting with different approaches to managing emotions and challenges,

· The importance of self-compassion and being patient with oneself.

· Normalizing challenges and struggles, helping individuals feel less alone.

· Providing practical tips for managing appointments and reminders.

· Modeling empathy and understanding, promoting connection and reducing isolation.

· The conversation offers hope and inspiration to individuals who may be struggling.

· The conversation raises awareness about executive functioning challenges and neurodivergence.

· The speaker encourages individuals to prioritize their mental health and find strategies that work for them.

· The speaker emphasizes the importance of communication and asking for support when needed.

· The conversation touches on the importance of authenticity and mutual care in friendships.

· The speaker encourages individuals to be honest about what they can and can't handle.

· The conversation models self-reflection and encourages individuals to reflect on their own needs and challenges.

· The speaker recognizes that different strategies work for different people and encourages individuals to find what works best for them.

· The conversation emphasizes the importance of being realistic and not overcommitting oneself.

· The speaker encourages individuals to use visual aids and get support when needed.

Here are some strategies that individuals can use to manage their emotions and challenges:

· Identify and name your needs: Recognize what you need to work best and feel supported. This includes understanding your own learning styles, communication preferences, and executive functioning challenges.

· Use different tools and approaches: Consider using a combination of tools and approaches to manage your schedule and tasks. For example, you might use a paper calendar in addition to online tools because you need to visually see your schedule.

· Communicate with others: Talk openly with others about your needs and challenges. Be honest about what you can and can't handle, and ask for support when needed.

· Practice self-compassion: Show empathy and understanding for yourself. Acknowledge that it's okay to struggle with certain things, and be kind to yourself when facing challenges.

· Find strategies that work for you: Experiment with different approaches to find what works best for you. Don't rely on a one-size-fits-all approach, and be open to trying new things.

· Consider your mental health: Recognize that different strategies work for different people, and that some mental health advice may not be applicable to everyone. For example, if you have a very busy mind, a moving meditation might be more helpful than a silent meditation.

· Be patient with yourself: Remember that managing emotions and challenges is a process, and it's okay to make mistakes or have setbacks. Be patient with yourself and keep working towards your goals.

Here are some ways that this conversation might be helpful for others who experience similar feelings or difficulties:

· Normalizes challenges: Hearing others talk about their struggles can help individuals feel less alone and more normal in their experiences.

· Provides validation: When individuals hear others talk about similar challenges, it can help them feel validated and understood.

· Offers practical tips: The conversation includes specific strategies for managing emotions and challenges, which can be helpful for individuals looking for new approaches to try.

· Encourages self-reflection: Listening to others talk about their experiences can encourage individuals to reflect on their own needs and challenges, and consider new ways of approaching them.

· Promotes empathy: The conversation models empathy and understanding, which can help individuals feel more connected to others and less isolated in their experiences.

· Offers hope: Hearing about others' successes and positive experiences can offer hope and inspiration to individuals who may be struggling.

· Raises awareness: The conversation touches on topics like executive functioning challenges and neurodivergence, which can help raise awareness and reduce stigma around these issues.

Here are some practical tips for managing appointments and reminders:

Use a calendar:

· Whether it's a paper calendar or an online tool, having a calendar can help you keep track of your appointments and deadlines.

· Set reminders: Use reminders on your phone or computer to alert you when an appointment is coming up or a deadline is approaching.

· Set multiple reminders: If you tend to forget things easily, consider setting multiple reminders for each appointment or deadline.

· Use a timer: Set a timer for yourself to help you stay on track during appointments or when working on a task.

· Prioritize your schedule: If you have a lot of appointments or tasks to manage, prioritize them based on their importance and urgency.

· Schedule buffer time: Leave some extra time between appointments or tasks to give yourself a break and avoid feeling overwhelmed.

· Be realistic: Don't overcommit yourself by scheduling too many appointments or tasks in one day. Be realistic about what you can handle.

· Use visual aids: If you're a visual learner, consider using color-coding or other visual aids to help you keep track of your schedule.

· Get support: If you're struggling to manage your appointments and reminders, consider reaching out to a friend, family member, or mental health professional for support.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

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Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

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Friendships Can Be Bleeping Hard!

Friendship struggles are real! How does being neurodivergent or specifically autistic impact friendships? Common themes of being misunderstood in spite having good intentions, and allowing others to see you in ways that are not how you see yourself. I talk about navigating breakups, not being able to do repair after a rupture, and using these painful experiences to clarify your values and what you want in your friendships. I also talk about coping strategies, support and self-care.

HIGHLIGHTS

Some common struggles in friendships if you're neurodivergent:

· Friendship struggles, relationships, friendships are hard

· Struggling with communication and self-expression

· Feeling misunderstood or not accepted by others

· Difficulty with maintaining friendships over time

· Struggling with boundaries and expressing needs

· Feeling pressure to conform to societal expectations or norms

· Struggling with self-doubt or imposter syndrome in social situations

· Difficulty with finding supportive and inclusive communities

· Difficulty with social cues and nonverbal communication

· Sensory sensitivities that can make certain social situations overwhelming or uncomfortable

· Difficulty with small talk or maintaining conversations on topics that are not of interest

· Difficulty with understanding and navigating social hierarchies or power dynamics

· Difficulty with understanding and expressing emotions in a way that is easily understood by others

Tips for cultivating resilience and adaptability in the face of friendship struggles: -

· Acknowledge and validate your emotions: It's okay to feel hurt, disappointed, or angry when a friendship goes through a rough patch.

· Take time to process your emotions and give yourself permission to feel them without judgment.

· Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a friend who is going through a tough time. Remember that you are doing the best you can with the resources you have. –

· Seek support: Reach out to other friends, family members, or a therapist or coach for support and perspective. Talking through your feelings with someone you trust can help you gain clarity and feel less alone. –

· Practice forgiveness: Forgiveness doesn't mean condoning hurtful behavior or pretending everything is okay. It means letting go of resentment and choosing to focus on healing and growth instead.

· Set boundaries: If a friendship is consistently causing you stress or pain, it may be time to set boundaries or even end the friendship. Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. –

· Cultivate gratitude: Focus on the positive aspects of your life and relationships, even in the midst of struggles. Gratitude can help shift your perspective and increase your resilience.

Common misconceptions about personal growth and how to reframe our expectations: Misconceptions: -

· Personal growth is a linear process with a clear endpoint –

· Personal growth means always being happy and positive –

· Personal growth is a solitary journey that doesn't involve others –

· Personal growth is a one-size-fits-all process

Reframing expectations: -

· Personal growth is a lifelong journey with ups and downs, setbacks and progress –

· Personal growth involves a range of emotions, including discomfort and pain, that can lead to greater self-awareness and resilience –

· Personal growth involves connecting with others, seeking support, and learning from different perspectives –

· Personal growth is a unique process that looks different for everyone, and involves finding what works best for you and your individual needs

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is autistic helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Neurodivergence & Autism: Navigating Challenges in Relationships

We explore the challenges of maintaining friendships for people who are neurodivergent (AuDHD, autistic, HSP etc.) We emphasize the importance of emotional intelligence, empathy, active listening, open communication, patience, setting boundaries, and forgiveness in building and maintaining meaningful relationships.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

· An autism diagnosis means that sometimes one may have challenges in maintaining friendships –

· Some people may struggle with making friends, while others may struggle with maintaining relationships (or people may struggle with both).

· Experiencing feelings of hurt, disappointment, and exclusion in relationships is not uncommon –

· It can be painful to navigate situations where you feel left out or excluded

· Having a strong sense of justice and fairness, can make it harder to deal with exclusion in groups or relationships–

· Despite these challenges, it is possible to navigate friendships with emotional intelligence and empathy.

Navigating the challenges of friendship in daily life can be difficult, but there are ways to approach it with emotional intelligence and empathy. Here are some tips: -

· Practice active listening: Listen to your friends and try to understand their perspective. This can help you build stronger relationships and avoid misunderstandings.

· Communicate openly and honestly: Be honest with your friends about your feelings and needs. This can help you avoid conflicts and build trust.

· Show empathy: Try to understand your friends' emotions and be supportive. This can help you build deeper connections and show that you care.

· Be patient: Friendships take time and effort to maintain.

· Be patient and understanding when your friends are going through difficult times.

· Set boundaries: It's important to set boundaries in friendships to protect your emotional well-being. Communicate your boundaries clearly and respectfully.

· Practice forgiveness: No one is perfect, and conflicts can arise in friendships.

· Practice forgiveness and try to move past conflicts with empathy and understanding.

· Most important: Be sure that your relationships are reciprocal, and that the other person is also utilizing these skills.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD (autistic and ADHD) with a PDA profile, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

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Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

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AFAB Autism Assessment: PDA, and other Common Questions Answered

Dr. Jessica Myszak, who provides autism assessments for late-diagnosed, high masking women answers the following questions: What is PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Persistent/Pervasive Drive for Autonomy)? What does PDA look like? What is important to ask if someone wants to pursue a formal autism diagnosis? What are common comorbidities (as well as misdiagnoses) if one is autistic? Is it possible to manipulate or cheat an autism assessment or fool the assessor? What happens after one is diagnosed as autistic?

GUEST

Dr. Jessica Myszak, Licensed Psychologist

HIGHLIGHTS

What is PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy?

• PDA stands for Pathological Demand Avoidance, a subtype of autism that involves significant anxiety and demand avoidance.
• Many people with PDA prefer to call it Persistent or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy.
• PDA is a newly identified subtype of autism that can result in meltdowns or explicit behavior or just avoidance of everyday tasks.
• People with PDA often have a desire to have control in order to preserve their autonomy.
• PDA can be challenging to diagnose, and many people with PDA struggle to get a diagnosis.
• Strategies for managing PDA symptoms include recognizing triggers, reducing demands, and providing choices.
• People with PDA often work best in jobs where they have minimal oversight or control over their work.
• PDA is not a personal choice or behavior but rather a way that the brain works. It's a nervous system disorder/disability.
• Understanding PDA can help people with the condition and their loved ones cope with the challenges it presents.
• PDA is a complex condition that requires individualized treatment and support.

What does PDA looks like?

• Everyday tasks can often result in meltdowns or explicit behavior or just avoidance of these types of demands in a variety of ways.
• PDA can be misdiagnosed as oppositional defiant disorder because people don't know what autism looks like.
• PDA is often characterized by a need for things to be in a certain order for a sense of stability.
• Children with PDA may have meltdowns, and PDA is often misdiagnosed as oppositional defiant disorder.
• Adults with PDA may struggle with social interactions, have difficulty with authority figures, and may have trouble with employment.
• PDA can present differently in different people, and there is no one-size-fits-all description of what it looks like.
• People with PDA may have a unique set of triggers and coping mechanisms that are specific to their individual experience.
• Understanding what PDA looks like can help people with the condition and their loved ones cope with the challenges it presents.
• Having another human to co-regulate with, can be instrumental for someone who is PDA.

What is important to ask if someone wants to pursue a formal autism diagnosis?

• It's important to find a qualified professional who has experience diagnosing autism in high masking, late diagnosed adults.
• Ask how many AFAB (if relevant) the person has assessed. How do they assess for high masking and internalizing behaviors.
• Ask about the diagnostic process and what it entails, including any assessments or evaluations that will be used.
• Ask about the criteria for an autism diagnosis and what the professional will be looking for during the assessment.
• Inquire about the professional's experience working with adults or children with autism, depending on the age of the person seeking a diagnosis.
• Ask about the cost of the assessment and whether insurance will cover it.
• Inquire about any additional support or resources that the professional can provide after the diagnosis, such as referrals to therapists or support groups.
• Ask about the timeline for the assessment and when the results will be available.
• Inquire about any additional information or documentation that may be needed for the assessment, such as medical records or school reports.
• Ask about any potential barriers to getting a diagnosis, such as the need for a parent interview or other assessments that may be required.
• Inquire about the professional's approach to diagnosing autism and whether they take a person-centered approach that considers the individual's unique experiences and needs.

Is it possible to manipulate the results of the autism assessments or fool the assessor?

• Dr. Myzak acknowledges that people with autism are often very good at masking their symptoms and may be able to manipulate an assessment to some extent. - However, she notes that many assessments have embedded validity measures that can help detect when someone is being overly negative or positive in their responses.
• Dr. Myzak emphasizes the importance of being authentic and honest during the assessment process, as this is the best way to get an accurate diagnosis and receive appropriate support.
• She also suggests that people who are concerned about being able to remember early signs of autism can do their own detective work by asking family members or friends for information.
• Dr. Myzak believes that it is important to trust her clients and take a person-centered approach to diagnosis, rather than relying solely on standardized assessments.

Common comorbidities if one is autistic:

• Anxiety disorders, such as generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), are common comorbidities of autism.
• Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is also frequently seen in individuals with autism.
• Depression and other mood disorders are more prevalent in people with autism than in the general population.
• Sensory processing disorder (SPD) is a common comorbidity of autism, as many people with autism have difficulty processing sensory information.
• Sleep disorders, such as insomnia and sleep apnea, are more common in individuals with autism than in the general population.
• Gastrointestinal (GI) problems, such as constipation, diarrhea, and gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD), are more common in people with autism.
• Epilepsy and other seizure disorders are more prevalent in individuals with autism than in the general population.
• Tourette syndrome and other tic disorders are more common in people with autism.
• Intellectual disability is a common comorbidity of autism, although not all individuals with autism have intellectual disability.
• Other conditions that may co-occur with autism include allergies, asthma, and autoimmune disorders.

What happens after an autism diagnosis?

• After an autism diagnosis, individuals and their families may work with healthcare providers to develop a treatment plan that addresses their specific needs and challenges.
• Treatment for autism may include a combination of therapies, such as behavioral therapy, speech therapy, occupational therapy, and social skills training.
• Medications may also be prescribed to help manage symptoms of autism, such as anxiety, depression, or hyperactivity.
• Individuals with autism may also benefit from support groups, educational programs, and other resources that can help them and their families better understand the condition and navigate daily life.
• It is important for individuals with autism to receive ongoing support and care, as their needs may change over time and new challenges may arise.
• Some individuals with autism may also be eligible for special education services or accommodations in school or the workplace.
• Families may also need to navigate insurance coverage and other financial considerations related to autism treatment and support.
• Ultimately, the goal of post-diagnosis care is to help individuals with autism lead fulfilling and meaningful lives, with the support and resources they need to thrive.

GUEST BIO

Dr. Jessica Myszak is a Chicago-area psychologist who specializes in autism assessment for both children and adults. Doing both in-person and telehealth evaluations in many states across the US, she has developed a niche in less-typical presentations of autism--autism in women, high-masking adults, and pathological demand avoidance (PDA). She also provides educational content on Tiktok about these topics. She is also the founder of the Autistic Support Network, a free private online community for members to share information and connect with other autistic adults.

LINKS

Dr. Myszak's Links

Website—https://helpandhealingcenter.com/

LInkedin—www.linkedin.com/in/jessicamyszak

Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@drjessicamyszak

Facebook—https://www.facebook.com/helpandhealingcenter/

Autistic Support Network-- https://autisticsupportnetwork.com/

Patricia's Links

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Autism, Relationships & PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy

The challenges people have maintaining relationships can be related to relational trauma, PDA, the desire for consistency and/or adherence to high or unrealistic expectations. PDA is a profile of autism, and people with PDA may have no problem making friends, but they may have difficulty keeping them. Can someone who is autistic become more flexible and lower their expectations if they want to? What elements are needed in relationships to accommodate for neurodivergence?

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

· The challenges faced in maintaining consistency and connection in friendship.

· Autism and neurodiversity, and the importance of being aware of different types of neurodiversity.

· The importance of consistency and pattern in the lives of neurodivergent people, and how it can relate to your emotional state.

· The evolving nature of human experience and how things get put in and taken out of official stances.

· TikToks that poke fun at the DSM and how it's revised.

· The experience with ADHD and HSP, and how it relates to your emotional state. The importance of being aware of the current thought on certain topics, such as autism.

· The challenges of being well-educated enough about certain topics, such as autism.

· The importance of being intimate with different types of neurodiversity.

· The importance of being fascinated by how we collectively as a culture and field talk about things.

· The challenge of sharing your process without disenfranchising anyone or alienating anyone especially when talking about sensitive topics.

· The challenges of studying and understanding neurodivergent experiences.

· The importance of being aware of different types of neurodiversity, such as autism and HSP.

· The importance of including autistic listeners in the conversation.

· The importance of being aware of the imperfection of the process of studying and understanding neurodivergent experiences.

· The importance of being aware of the evolving nature of human experience and how things are constantly changing.

· How their autism shows up in their life.

· The importance of being fascinated by how we collectively as a culture and field talk about things, while being aware of the challenges of studying and understanding neurodivergent experiences.

Personal insights about autism

· Historically, they (Patricia) could be very self-centered and talk about her interests incessantly without realizing that not everyone is as fascinated by those things.

· Patricia can have high and unrealistic expectations of how people should behave and how the world should be, which can lead to disappointment.

· Patricia learned that she can change her rigid patterns of thinking and behavior with the help of a support system and feedback.

Insights about how consistency and patterns show up in relationships

· Relationships have an ebb and flow to them, with periods of high contact and periods of low contact.

· The amount of contact in a relationship can be influenced by external factors, such as custody schedules or work demands.

· Consistency and patterns in relationships can be important for some people, but not for others.

· It's important to communicate with your partner about your needs and expectations for consistency and patterns in the relationship.

· Consistency and patterns in relationships can change over time, and it's important to be flexible and adaptable.

· It's important to have a support system outside of the relationship to help manage expectations and provide perspective.

Information about PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy

· PDA is a clinical term that stands for pathological demand avoidance.

· The term "pathological" is not liked by some people, as it implies that there is something wrong with the person.

· PDA is characterized by a pervasive drive for autonomy, which means that the person needs to feel that they have a sense of efficacy over their life.

· Demands can be either external or internal, and can cause stress and anxiety for people with PDA.

· PDA can come up around internal demands, such as taking a shower or getting work done.

· People with PDA may have a different experience of it depending on whether they are an internalizer or externalizer.

· PDA is a profile of autism.

· The clinical term for PDA is not liked by some people, as it implies that there is something wrong with the person.

· People with PDA may have experienced relational trauma, which can make it difficult for them to feel safe and secure in relationships.

· People with PDA may have difficulty with demands and expectations, and may need to have a sense of control over their environment to feel safe.

· PDA is a complex condition that requires a nuanced understanding of the individual's experience.

· People with PDA may benefit from support and understanding from others, as well as strategies for managing demands and expectations.

· PDA is just one aspect of the neurodiversity spectrum, and it is important to be aware of the different types of neurodiversity and how they can affect people's lives.

· People with PDA may have unique strengths and abilities, and it is important to recognize and celebrate these strengths.

· PDA is a complex condition that requires a nuanced understanding of the individual's experience, and it is important to be aware of the challenges and opportunities that come with it.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD (ADHD and autistic) helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

Jen's Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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AFAB Autism Assessment: Common Questions Answered

Dr. Jessica Myszak, who provides autism assessments for late-diagnosed, high masking women answers the following questions: How does autism present differently in women? Is self-diagnosis valid? Why haven't the lived experiences of women been included in the diagnostic criteria? What might social differences, repetitive and stimming behaviors look like in someone who is AFAB? We explore thoughts about HSP vs. autism? What is Pathological Demand Avoidance PDA (also known as Pervasive Drive for Autonomy)?

GUEST

Dr. Jessica Myszak, Licensed Psychologist

HIGHLIGHTS

Questions asked in this episode

· Why are so many assigned female at birth AFAB being diagnosed with autism?

· Is it a fad? People say you watch Tik Tok and think you're autistic

· Is self-diagnosis valid?

· Why haven't women and their experience and presentation of autism been included in the DSM criteria?

· How does autism present differently for women?

· Why is there a gap between the written criteria for autism and the lived experience for those who are AFAB?

· If someone is an internalizer, what might stimming and repetitive behaviors look like?

· What are your thoughts about HSP vs. autisim?

· Do you think that HSP is a subtype of autism, or is there a profile of autism where deep feeling, deep thinking and empathy are present?

· What is Pathological Demand Avoidance PDA, also knows as Persistent/Pervasive Drive for Autonomy?

Common misconceptions about autism in females

• The assumption that autistic females are not interested in socializing, when in fact they may be on the fringes of social groups but never feel like they truly belong. –
• The assumption that autistics do not have feelings, nor do they have empathy is grossly false. Many autistics feel so much, that it is overwhelming
• The assumption that autistics don't or can't make eye-contact.
• The assumption that autistics will stim in apparent ways like rocking, hand-flapping etc. vs. thinking/processing, hair twirling, sucking cheeks in, using thumb to gently stroke hand, rubbing feet together, counting things.
• The assumption that autism only affects males, and as a result, assessment tools and education are often skewed towards recognizing autism in males. –
• Many psychologists and neurologists still rely on outdated information about autism that was learned many years ago in graduate school, which can lead to misdiagnosis or missed diagnosis in females. –
• There is a gap between healthcare professionals who are following updated information about autism in females and those who are not.

Some characteristics of autistic females

• Autistic females may be on the fringes of social groups but never feel like they truly belong. –
• Autistic females may have a strong desire to socialize and make friends, but may struggle with social cues and maintaining friendships. –
• Autistic females may have a tendency to mask their symptoms in social situations, which can lead to exhaustion and burnout. –
• Autistic females may have a strong interest in certain topics or activities, but these interests may be more socially acceptable than stereotypical "male" interests like trains or vacuum cleaners. –Interests may include relationships, personal growth, hobbies and crafts, medical information, being an avid reader, parenting, etc.
• Autistic females may be more likely to experience anxiety or depression than their neurotypical peers. –
• Autistic females may be more likely to receive a misdiagnosis or missed diagnosis due to the fact that assessment tools and education are often skewed towards recognizing autism in males.

Examples of repetitive or stimming behavior in women

· Deep thinking and processing. –

· Using weighted blankets or heavy blankets for comfort. –

· Hair twirling, pursing lips, having tongue against the roof of the mouth, sucking on the inside of cheeks.

· Rubbing fingers or toes together, using fidget toys, doing cricket feet (rubbing feet together). –

· Doing a figure eight or pattern with fingers or thumbs on clothes. –

· Watching shows on repeat, listening to music on repeat, rereading books.

· It's worth noting that these are just a few examples, and that repetitive or stimming behavior can take many different forms and vary widely between individuals.

Ways healthcare professionals can better recognize and diagnose autism in females: -

· Healthcare professionals should be aware that autism looks different in autistic females than it does in males, and should not rely solely on assessment tools and education that are skewed towards recognizing autism in males. –

· Healthcare professionals should be aware of the common misconceptions about autism in autistic females, such as the assumption that they are not interested in socializing or that autism only affects males. –

· Healthcare professionals should be aware that autistic females may mask their symptoms in social situations, which can make it more difficult to recognize their autism. –

· Healthcare professionals should ask questions about the individual's social experiences and interests, and should not assume that their interests are stereotypical "male" interests.

· Healthcare professionals should be aware that autistic females may be more likely to experience anxiety or depression than their neurotypical peers, and should take this into account when making a diagnosis. –

· Healthcare professionals should stay up-to-date on the latest research about autism in autistic females, and should seek out training and education on how to recognize and diagnose autism in this population.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is autistic helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with clients, therapists, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

GUEST BIO

Dr. Jessica Myszak is a Chicago-area psychologist who specializes in autism assessment for both children and adults. Doing both in-person and telehealth evaluations in many states across the US, she has developed a niche in less-typical presentations of autism--autism in women, high-masking adults, and pathological demand avoidance (PDA). She also provides educational content on Tiktok about these topics. She is also the founder of the Autistic Support Network, a free private online community for members to share information and connect with other autistic adults.

LINKS

Dr. Myszak's Links

Website—https://helpandhealingcenter.com/

LInkedin—www.linkedin.com/in/jessicamyszak

Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@drjessicamyszak

Facebook—https://www.facebook.com/helpandhealingcenter/

Autistic Support Network-- https://autisticsupportnetwork.com/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Emotional Intelligence in Relationships: Honoring Neurodivergent Needs and Communication Styles

How do you center yourself in relationships when you're being told you're difficult to be around, or people stop communicating with you? How do you navigate ambiguous communication? I go on a rant because I was feeling frustrated. I talk about neurodivergence and my experience being autistic. I also explore the following: Is self-diagnosis for autism valid? What are misconceptions about autism? What is hurtful to say to someone who is autistic?

HIGHLIGHTS

Common misconceptions about autism

• Autism is often portrayed as a "male" condition, with diagnostic criteria based on white boys who externalize. –
• Girls and women with autism may not fit the stereotypical image of someone with the condition, as they may be socialized to be polite and take care of others' needs and feelings. –
• There is a misconception that self-diagnosis is not valid or reliable, but it is. For those who self-diagnose, it can be very empowering.
• Some people believe that autism is a "disease" or something that needs to be "cured," I believe I AM autistic. It's how I'm wired. I don't have autism—there's nothing wrong with me.–
• There is a stereotype that all autistic individuals lack empathy or emotional intelligence, but this is not true and is a harmful stereotype. –
• Many people assume that autistic individuals are not interested in socializing or making friends, but this is not always the case and is another harmful stereotype.

What are harmful hurtful things one can say to someone who discloses they're autistic

• "You don't look autistic," or "You don't act autistic." This statement invalidates the person's experiences and reinforces stereotypes about how autism should appear. It also indicates that the person really has no idea what autism looks like.
• "Just try harder to fit in." This disregards the challenges that autistic individuals face in social situations and implies that they are not making enough effort.
• "You're overreacting." Dismissing or minimizing the person's sensory sensitivities or emotional responses can be invalidating and hurtful.
• "You're being too sensitive." This statement undermines the person's experiences and feelings, disregarding their unique sensory experiences and emotional responses.
• "You should act more normal." Pressuring someone to conform to neurotypical standards disregards their authentic self and can lead to masking or suppressing their true identity.
• "You're not trying hard enough to communicate." This places blame on the autistic individual for communication difficulties, disregarding the fact that communication styles may differ for autistic individuals. Allistics (non autistics) set the "norms" for communication, which is also invalidating for how autistic brains are wired.
• "You're just seeking attention." Accusing someone of seeking attention can be dismissive and hurtful. Invalidating the challenges autistics experience and blaming the autistic is ableist.
• "You're not capable of doing that." Underestimating someone's abilities based on their autism can be demeaning and limit their opportunities for growth and success.
• "You need to be fixed." Implying that autism is a flaw or something that needs to be cured can be deeply hurtful and perpetuates harmful ableist attitudes.
• "You're not normal." Labeling someone as "abnormal" or "not normal" can be stigmatizing and contribute to feelings of isolation and low self-worth. It is important to approach conversations with empathy, respect, and understanding, focusing on acceptance and supporting the individual's unique needs and experiences.

Neurodiversity Explained

• Neurodiversity is the concept that neurological differences are natural variations in human neurology, rather than disorders or deficits. –
• This perspective recognizes that every individual has unique strengths and challenges, and that these differences should be celebrated and accommodated rather than pathologized or stigmatized. –
• In the context of autism, the idea that autism is a "disease" or something that needs to be "cured." –
• It's important to understand and honor how autistic individuals are wired, rather than trying to make them conform to neurotypical standards. –
• There is a lack of diversity in the diagnostic criteria for autism, which are often based on white boys who externalize. - This can lead to a narrow understanding of what autism looks like and can result in many autistic individuals, particularly girls and women, being overlooked or misdiagnosed. –
• The paradigm needs to be changed, so we are embracing neurodiversity and celebrating differences, finding one's own community of like-minded individuals, and rejecting the notion that there is a "normal" or "correct" way to be. –
• By understanding and respecting neurodiversity, we can create a more inclusive and accepting society that values and accommodates all individuals, regardless of their neurological differences.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is autistic helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with clients, therapists, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

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