Unhindered

One of the unavoidable costs associated with being ambitious is the disappointment, pain and perceived loss of not achieving what you set out to do.

Until you’ve achieved the enlightened state of the buddha, the Dali Lama or Jesus and have truly broken though into the realm of having no earthly attachments, you will suffer when things don’t happen the way you’d like them to. Having no expectations in an unenlightened state, is simply a form of fatalistic defeatism to protect yourself from pain.

To desire is human. To shut down desire is to dehumanise yourself.

Disappointment is actually a normal and healthy part of the human experience. Our responsibility is to reconcile it before it creates residual pain and reduced capacity for hope and future goal setting.

See how to reconcile your own disappointments before they diminish you in this week's episode of 10 minute Tuesday

Crunching the numbers of the insecurity problem.

An accurate cost assessment for your current situation versus the costs involved in the desired change is a critical part of the change process.
This allows to fully create threshold moments where the cost of change is actually far less than the cost of staying the same.

In addition, fully exploring the benefits of change versus the benefits of staying the same gives you a clear path to increase value and pleasure in your life.

My conservative estimate is that solving the insecurity problem instantly adds at least $100k of value across every area of your life.

Lasting personal change is harder than most people imagine. Here are the 3 conditions that create a beautiful sweet spot for deep and lasting transformation.

If you notice these themes present in your life already, you are primed for rapid and enduring change given the right tools, frameworks and processes.

If these 3 things are not present in your current experience, the great news is that each of them can be cultivated.

Either way there is always hope for change.

Stephen Covey (The 7 habits of highly effective people) says that the journey to maturity goes from dependance to independence to interdependence. This means that in order to fully become an adult, we each must discover how to separate ourselves from the adults we’ve been dependant on before we can develop adult to adult relationships with them.

In todays coaching session with Brayden, we cover this very vulnerable but crucial subject and specifically how it impacts the relationship with our parents.

It is a universal challenge that I’m sure you’ll relate to.

When it comes to creating lasting change, it turns out that anger is an incredibly important emotional resource. Anger is also a key indicator about how effectively you are applying essential practice number 3 - Stack the pain.

Today’s episode of 10 minute Tuesday is about how to use anger to it’s full potential while avoiding the traps and dangers along the way.

Listen in as Claire get’s to the bottom of why she’s great at acquiring lots of new knowledge but never applying it to her life. We also explore patterns of self sabotage and focusing on others instead of herself.

This is another great example of why it is essential to go back into your past and deconstruct old stories in order to move forward unhindered into your desired future.

The stories we live out of can described as the things we’ve consciously and unconsciously agreed to. These agreements shape the entire course of our life and affect every experience we have.

People who succeed in life do so largely based on the fact that they tell better stories than everyone else.

In order to make deep and lasting change, it is essential to review the agreements you’ve made and decide if they are still working for you.

Listen in as I coach Greg through what appears to be a health challenge entirely outside of his control. See what happens when he discovers what this is really about!

Everyone needs to feel as though they are a decent human being. However we all have different rules for what defines a good person and what a good person says and does.

What are your rules and how well are they working for you?

Developing a deep and loving relationship with yourself is an essential part of achieving true happiness and success. Here are 4 key ideas to strengthen or rebuild that relationship.