Unhindered

Today's guest is Filipa Bellette. She is just about to finish the 6 month Unhindered experience with me and wanted to share what has happened in her life as a result.

Filly was already a highly successful, highly motivated, multi award-winning business woman who didn't really know that there was hidden insecurity capping her performance before we started working together.

On this episode Filly shares very openly about what happened when she uncovered a deep fear of being weak and incapable that was actually impacting every area of her life.

You'll hear her unpack how she journeyed through each of the 7 essential practices for overcoming insecurity until coming out the other side with a beautiful new narrative about who she really was instead.

Filly also shares some of the amazing results since resolving this limiting belief for good including the fact that she has consistently been making an extra $8-$10k a month since starting the Unhindered experience!

Like thousands of others in Australia this week, I was lucky enough to get to hear Jordan Peterson speak live in Melbourne.

It gave me a fresh take on the importance of his voice in the world today and why feminists seem to hate him so much.

On today's episode I'll unpack my favourite insights from his lecture.

I'll also show you a simple model for getting unstuck I've just developed around the 3 levels of awareness. While it is straight forward, I'll explain why most people will never move beyond levels 1 and 2

And finally there's a story about how in an attempt to earn father of the year points I accidentally hurt my son so bad he almost passed out...

On today’s podcast episode:

Why Matthew Perry's brand new autobiography should be on your must read list - even though it is definitely one of the worst books I’ve ever read.

The very best thing about being a victim, but why the moment you use it, you lose the game for good. (This was so important to share that I had to pause the music to make sure you heard it straight.)

The greatest advice you’ll ever hear from Harvard university.

Why I'm never using the word interesting again thanks to a group of 93 year olds.

And a reminder about why the middle of your life is the best time to do your most important personal development work.

Here is the final live coaching session for 2022.

Penny has courageously allowed me to share our coaching conversation with you all knowing that her problem is very typical of almost every ambitious adult in the mid-life season.

Some of the issued covered in this session are:

Reconciling the desire to be seen and heard with the costs involved

How to genuinely add value to those around you

The challenge of feeling dependant on family for support even as an adult

Why courage is overrated

Why it is essential to understand what games you are playing

How to build a robust relationship with your unconscious mind

Why success must also be safe

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same areas, I’m sure you’ll find the session super useful.

If you’d like to test yourself against the 4 safety check issues I mentioned to Penny, you can do so at www.jaeminfrazer.com/lifecoaching

This episode is a little longer than normal. Instead of the usual 10 minute Tuesday or my long form interviews and coaching sessions, today I want to talk about my own experience with Christianity and how it relates to overcoming insecurity - specifically I’m talking about how the bible addresses the dilemma of feeling like part of you is not good or that your core nature is not to be trusted.

Jesus’ statement "Blessed are the pure in heart for they shall see God." has been rolling around in my head for the last few months to great affect, and I thought it was time to share what I believe it means and explain why this quote is good news for everyone.

I'll share my own experiences inside christianity as a pastor and explain why I am no longer a christian even though I never thought that would be the case.

I'll also give you some history, psychology and philosophy and do my best to help you understand why this is such an important topic for us all to explore together.

Today’s podcast episode is a live coaching session.

These sessions are always rare, raw and very special, simply because they require such a high level of vulnerability from the person willing to share their coaching experience. They also demonstrate how simple and hard transformation really is.

In the conversation we examine these themes among others:

The challenge of making good decisions in the future when there are a bunch of poor decisions and failures from the past

The need to responsibly provide for family rather than continuing to purse risky dreams

How to know what you actually believe about yourself rather than what you should believe

Working backwards to the origin moment of where limiting beliefs are formed

How to genuinely trust yourself

As you listen in, I’m sure you’ll find yourself in the patterns of Jonny’s story and appreciate the gift he is giving by allowing you to observe his journey.

This week's podcast episode is all about what to do when then way forward is literally impossible.

In addressing this important dilemma, I'll show you the interplay between what is impossible and state management, the hero's journey and secondary gain.

I'll also tell you about the time I got felt up by the smartest girl in school, why my testosterone levels are back on track and how my speaking fee just got out of hand.

And, as promised, here’s the link to episode 204 and to the Leverage Audiobook and Paperback

This episode goes out to all the dreamers who are living in the tension of knowing what they truly desire, but not yet seeing the fulfilment of these dreams in their life.

I know that feeling well. I often experience the suffering that comes from this kind of separation myself and have compiled a bunch of wisdom from the greats who've gone before us to help manage the disappointment of unrealised goals without this disappointment settling in your bones

Wisdom from the likes of:

Mark Manson, Jim Carey, Bill Bryson, Peter Drucker, Jesus and George Bernard Shaw.

This episode also address how to know if your ambitions are delusional and the physical anguish experienced at finals time if your beloved footy team loses.

I sometimes travel with my podcast mic so that I am able to capture moments of inspiration as they happen. This episode is the result of one such occasion while I was in Canberra last week. I instantly knew I had some important content to share, so stopped the car and hit record - and even though I was interrupted by some clown mocking the size of my microphone, I still managed to capture the essence of what I wanted to say.

In this episode you'll find out:

- What Tyler Durden has in common with her majesty the queen

- When it's ok to tell lies

- How I resolved 7 days of anxiety in 20 minutes while riding my bike, and

- The 5 most surprising qualities of genuinely good humans.

The golden thread.

The history of this term dates back to ancient Greek mythology, and it's a concept that I found myself drawing from at a coaching retreat this past weekend. In my darkest hours, I have always been able to find my way back to the source through this timeless wisdom. In this episode, I'll show you what this golden thread is and how you can use it in your life to great effect in your own hero’s journey.