We Can Do Hard Things

Today we’re talking about how to build healthy relationships — with ourselves and others — after enduring toxic relationships with both.

1. Signs of emotional toxicity in romantic relationships – and what finally made Lily get out of her unhealthy relationship.

2. How to begin reprogramming your brain after leaving a toxic relationship in order to trust yourself and other people again.

3. The process that caused Lily to become the smallest, quietest version of herself – and how she recovered into her biggest, brightest self.

4. What healthy conflict looks and feels like – and Lily’s new script for communicating when her old triggers arise.

CW: eating disorders, emotionally toxic relationships

About Lily: 

Lily Collins is a Golden Globe nominated actress, author of the international bestselling book “Unfiltered: No Shame, No Regrets Just Me”, and a philanthropist. Collins can currently be seen in the Netflix series “Emily in Paris,” for which she received her second Golden Globe nomination.Lily launched Case Study Films alongside her husband Charlie McDowell. Lily's philanthropic endeavors extend to participating in various “We Day” events and the GO Campaign. Born in West Sussex, England Collins moved to the United States at age six and currently resides in Los Angeles.

TW: @lilycollins

IG: @lilyjcollins

380. Abby’s Greatest Fear & the One Gift that Freed Her

In the midst of the LA Fires, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda take a moment to pause and reflect on a cozier time. They discuss the holiday gift that Abby received that changed her life and shifted her story. 

-The powerful gift that helped Abby release her fear of hell and reconnect with her brother

-The importance of naming and rewriting the stories we tell ourselves in order to change our lives

-The role of religious trauma in shaping our worldview—and how to choose a more liberating path.

-How to rethink the “either/or” mindset and open up to bigger possibilities.

In the conversation that’s meant the most to Glennon, Abby, and Amanda – poet and spoken word artist, Andrea Gibson makes the bravest announcement we’ve ever heard. Andrea shares how to boundlessly, relentlessly love our lives by: paying attention to the only thing we can control; letting go of living in fear; and feeling less alone and terrified through it all.

CW: Discussion of suicidal ideation

About Andrea: 

Andrea Gibson is one of the most celebrated and influential spoken word artists of our time. Best known for their live performances, Gibson has changed the landscape of what it means to attend a “poetry show”. Gibson’s poems center around LGBTQ issues, spirituality, feminism, mental health and the dismantling of oppressive social systems. Andrea is the author of seven books, most recently “You Better Be Lightning”. 

TW: @andreagibson

IG: @andreagibson

379. Post-Inauguration Family Meeting: How We Will Get Through with Brittney Cooper & Rebecca Traister 

Activists, writers, and organizers – Brittney Cooper and Rebecca Traister – join us to talk about the inauguration and what’s next. They share their thoughts, feelings, and advice on how to survive the next four years. 

-The historical playbook for what’s happening now and how we can utilize the wisdom of the past 

-Why you may need to have an adult temper tantrum right now (and how to safely do that) 

-The surprising reason it’s important to not resist the victory and accept defeat

On Brittney and Rebecca: 

Brittney Cooper is Professor of Gender Studies and Africana Studies at Rutgers University and author of the New York Times bestseller Eloquent Rage. 

Rebecca Traister is writer at large for New York Magazine and the author of New York Times bestsellers All the Single Ladies and Good and Mad, as well as the award winning Big Girls Don't Cry, about gender race and class in the 2008 elections.

1. Tig and Stephanie’s highly effective and hilarious ways to diffuse their marital feuds.

2. Stephanie’s experience figuring out her sexuality (years after she married Tig)–and how Tig knew Stephanie was the one.

3. Why Tig’s deep in “Towanda-ing” right now–and how that affects their marriage.

4. The power of knowing what you DON’T want in your life.

5. Tig, Stephanie, Abby, and Glennon each share something they’ve discovered they don’t want.

About Stephanie: 

Stephanie Allynne is a writer, actor, producer, and director. Her acting credits include THE L WORD: GENERATION Q, ONE MISSISSIPPI, ROOM 104, DREAM CORP LLC, LOVE, and TWIN PEAKS. Stephanie also starred in the Sundance hits PEOPLE PLACES THINGS and Lake Bell’s IN A WORLD. Stephanie wrote on the critically acclaimed Amazon series ONE MISSISSIPPI, and co-directed the 2022 Sundance film AM I OK? starring Dakota Johnson and Sonoya Mizuno. Stephanie is currently set to write and direct the feature film TIME AND SPACE that will star Tig Notaro. She will produce alongside Notaro and Judd Apatow. 

IG: @stephanieallynne

About Tig: 

Tig Notaro is an Emmy and Grammy nominated stand-up comedian, writer, and actor. Rolling Stone named her one of the "50 best stand-up comics of all time." Notaro appears in "Army of the Dead" and “Star Trek: Discovery”; wrote and starred in the groundbreaking TV show “One Mississippi”. and recently released her second HBO stand-up special, "Tig Notaro: Drawn." In 2021, Tig co-directed, with wife Stephanie Allynne, the feature film 'Am I OK?', available later this year. She hosts the advice podcast "Don't Ask Tig", and cohosts the documentary film podcast "Tig and Cheryl: True Story."

IG: @therealfluffnotaro

378. Are Old Women Really Irrelevant? 

Glennon, Abby and Amanda are talking with you, Pod Squad, about questions around women and aging and wtf “processing emotions” really means in action. 

-How becoming useless to the culture will set you free 

-The truth about how to stop people pleasing once and for all

-Personal tips for moving through an emotional wave. 

AND! If you would like some solicited advice, please reach out: 

If you have a problem you want to write about, email us at [email protected] with a subject line, SOLICITED ADVICE. 

If you want to share how a guest or an idea from the podcast has changed your life, email us at [email protected] with the subject line, MADE ME DO IT.

If you want to call in, give us a call and use the word, “ADVICE” at the top of your voice mail at 747-200-5307.

We can’t wait to hear from you!

1. How to make the first friendship move – and how to move on from a friendship with kindness and clarity. 

2. The advice Reese passes down to her kids about the three types of people you meet in life. 

3. Reese’s Hollywood experience as a young woman – and the solidarity she found in the Time’s Up movement.

4. How Elle Woods – in all her iconic glory – hilariously showed up while Reese was on real-life jury duty. 

5. Where Reese, Abby, and Glennon come down on Glennon’s take that most women feel they are either too much or not enough. 

About Reese

Reese Witherspoon, is an award-winning actress, entrepreneur, producer, and New York Times bestselling author. She won an Academy Award® for her portrayal of June Carter Cash in Walk the Line and was later nominated in that same category for Wild in 2014, which she also produced. Witherspoon also starred in beloved films Sweet Home Alabama, Legally Blonde, and Election, as well as award-winning television series’ “Big Little Lies,” “Little Fires Everywhere,” and “The Morning Show.” Other film credits include Disney’s A Wrinkle in Time, Universal Pictures’ animated musical comedy Sing and Sing 2. In addition to her acting and producer roles, Witherspoon is an author and entrepreneur. In 2016, she established Hello Sunshine, a media brand and content company dedicated to female authorship and storytelling across all platforms. Hello Sunshine is also home to Reese’s Book Club and Reese’s YA Book Club, which focuses on storytelling with women at the center. Witherspoon recently sold Hello Sunshine to Blackstone in September 2021. Now Hello Sunshine is the cornerstone of a larger media company called Candle Media. Witherspoon is an advocate and activist for women’s issues across the globe.

TW: @ReeseW

IG: @reesewitherspoon

377. What Is Intuitive Eating? Evelyn Tribole on Trusting Your Body 

Glennon and Abby talk to renowned expert, Evelyn Tribole, about the principles of intuitive eating, the roots of diet culture, and the importance of self-trust in eating habits and overall well-being. 

Discover: 

-What intuitive eating is and three practical steps you can take to begin;

-The true origin of fat phobia & how it may be playing out in your life;

-How to re-discover your inner-compass; and 

-Why understanding your ‘body lineage' can heal your relationship with eating.

About Evelyn:

Evelyn Tribole, MS, RDN, CEDRD-S is the author of 10 books, including co-author of the

best-selling Intuitive Eating, a mind-body self-care eating framework, which has given rise

to over 200 studies to date. Her newest book is Intuitive Eating for Every Day: 365

Inspirations and Practices.

IG: @evelyntribole

For their first (of hopefully many) podcast double dates, Abby and Glennon sit down with the icons, activists, and Olympians Megan Rapinoe and Sue Bird. In this honest and hilarious conversation, we find out:

1. The delightfully awkward moment Megan and Sue first met;

2. What’s hard for each of them right now;

3. The boundaries they’re working on together;

4. How they communicate and deal with jealousy; and 

5. How they help each other show up in the world as champions for change.  

About Sue: 

Regarded as the world’s premier point guard, Sue Bird is the WNBA’s All-Time Leader in Assists and known for being selfless, driven, encouraging, funny and smart. Bird is a seasoned veteran and a born leader who has dominated at every level. She is one of only seven women to win an Olympic Gold Medal (she’s won five), a World Championship Gold Medal (she’s won four) an NCAA Championship (she’s won two), and a WNBA Championship (she’s won four – the last just weeks before her 40th birthday). Sue is also a five-time Euroleague Champion, a twelve- time WNBA All-Star, was voted by the fans as one of the WNBA’s Top 15 Players of All Time. Off the court, Sue spends time as a basketball analyst for ESPN and as an outspoken and visible activist advocating for Black Lives, equality, health and wellness and expanding opportunities for girls and all marginalized people.

TW: @S10Bird

IG: @suebird10

About Megan: 

Two-time World Cup Champion and Olympic Gold Medalist, Megan Rapinoe is a fan favorite and one of the team’s most technical and craftiest players. A vocal leader on and off the pitch, Megan helped lead the USWNT to the 2019 Women’s World Cup Championship scoring some of the biggest goals of the tournament. Megan took home the tournament’s two top honors – the Golden Boot for top scorer, and the Golden Ball for the best player in the tournament. Megan is an advocate for equality for all and has been able to intersect her passion for humanity and authenticity. 

TW: @mPinoe

IG: @mrapinoe

376. LA Fires: Jessica Yellin Reports From Glennon’s Home

Jessica Yellin was forced to evacuate the LA Fires, and is sheltering at Glennon and Abby’s home. She sits down with Glennon and Amanda to report what is really going on with the wildfires raging across Los Angeles.  

-Why there wasn’t enough water to fight the Palisades Fire 

-How to decide what to put in your “go bag” and how Jessica packed up her house to evacuate 

-Misinformation and lapses of leadership and what LA needs right now from its leaders

-The connection between the fire and climate change

-Reputable places you can put your resources to help the people of Los Angeles

Also, please email us to let us know whether you’d like us to do a recurring News Not Noise segment on the pod with Jessica. Write to us at [email protected]. 

Ways to Help: 

LA Fire Foundation: https://supportlafd.org/

Help Altadena Families: spreadsheet curated by @mspackyetti: HERE

Jessica Yellin is the founder of News Not Noise, a pioneering Webby award-winning independent news brand. Over 1M+ subscribers and followers across Instagram and other digital media rely on Jessica and News Not Noise to understand what matters, which experts to trust, and to manage their “information overload.” She is the former chief White House correspondent for CNN and an Emmy and Gracie Award-winning political correspondent for ABC, MSNBC and CNN. Follow her on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @JessicaYellin. You can also find the News Not Noise Newsletter on Substack HERE.