We Can Do Hard Things

Today, Glennon shares about her recent eating disorder relapse.

If talk about eating disorders and mental illness helps: Listen today.  

If it triggers: Skip today.  

CW // eating disorders

1. Glennon explains her “soundaries”—and why a lack of audiorial yield in public places is her biggest peeve.

2. Abby’s struggle, as a bonus parent, adjusting to a kid-filled life with zero personal space and personal property boundaries.

3. Why Amanda is allergic to the word “fine”—and why she’s stopped saying “I didn’t have time.”

1. Glennon reenacts her first emotional and hilarious email exchange with Sarah Paulson about the Untamed TV show.   

2. Sarah contemplates how she will prepare for the role of Glennon–and why she’s “never been more excited about anything truly ever. ”

3. Glennon, Sarah and Abby discuss who will play Abby–and how they will recreate the “There She Is” moment. 

About Sarah: 

Sarah Paulson’s acting work includes lead roles in FX’s anthology series "American Horror Story,” and playing Marcia Clark in "The People v. O. J. Simpson,” for which she won an Emmy Award, a Golden Globe Award, a Screen Actors Guild Award, a Critics’ Choice Award, and a Television Critics Association Award. 

Her film credits include the Academy Award-winning "12 Years a Slave,” as well as “Carol,” "Ocean’s 8,” and many others. 

She can be seen in the FX miniseries "Mrs. America,” Lionsgate’s "Run,” in the title role in the Netflix series "Ratched,” which she executive produces, and most recently in the third installment of American Crime Story: Impeachment as Linda Tripp. 

IG:@misssarahcatherinepaulson

TW: @MsSarahPaulson

1. Why it’s important to prioritize our own needs, wants, and feelings–and how that creates freedom and peace for those we love.

2. What Glennon says was the hardest thing about telling her kids that Craig and she were getting a divorce–and how truth telling frees us all.

3. Martha’s helpful strategy for how to choose freedom over fear when we’re faced with a tough decision.

About Martha:

Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her newest book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller.

Book: The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self

Instagram: @themarthabeck

Twitter: @marthabeck

1. How do we tap back into living by our inner compass after living by consensus and following outer voices for so long? 

2. What Martha said to Glennon and Abby when they told her they were in love but scared to move forward—and how that advice changed their lives. 

3. How to make a plan to cultivate joy when it feels like you are army-crawling through life.  

About Martha:

Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her newest book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller.

Book: The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self

Instagram: @themarthabeck

Twitter: @marthabeck

1. How chronic social isolation throughout the pandemic has impacted our friendships–and why that’s affecting our mental health and cravings for connection.

2. Glennon, Amanda, and Abby each make a Next Right Thing plan for prioritizing friendship in their lives.

3. How we grieve a friendship ending when there’s no cultural template or ritual to acknowledge that deep loss.

1. Why the connection of friendship is emerging as the single best thing for your wellness—and three things that define a healthy friendship.

2. How friendship has changed for Abby since retiring from soccer—and why Glennon fears commitment in friendships more than other relationships.

3. How to recognize ambivalent relationships—and why they can be just as bad for us as toxic ones.

CW // eating disorders

1. The simple exercises Laurie conducts with her students at Yale to help them reset their brains and restructure their days in order to access happiness.  

2. Why being “time famished” is one of the most common obstacles to happiness, the signals our bodies give us that we are starved of unstructured time, and what we can do to build more of it.  

3. How understanding that our brains are wired as “comparison machines” incompatible with happiness can lead to improved wellbeing.  

About Laurie: 

Dr. Laurie Santos is Professor of Psychology and Head of Silliman College at Yale University. Dr. Santos is an expert on human cognition and the cognitive biases that impede better choices. Her course, “Psychology and the Good Life,” teaches students what the science of psychology says about how to make wiser choices and live a life that’s happier and more fulfilling. The class is Yale’s most popular course in over 300 years and has been adapted into a free Coursera program that has been taken by over 3.3 million people to date. Dr. Santos has been featured in numerous news outlets including the New York Times, NBC Nightly News, The Today Show, CBS This Morning, NPR, GQ Magazine, Slate, CNN and O, The Oprah Magazine. Dr. Santos is a winner of numerous awards both for her science and teaching from institutions such as Yale and the American Psychological Association. She has been featured as one of Popular Science’s “Brilliant 10” young minds and was named TIME's “Leading Campus Celebrity.” Her podcast, The Happiness Lab, launched in 2019 has over 48 million downloads.

Instagram: @lauriesantosofficial

Twitter: @lauriesantos

1. One easy thing we can do to increase our happiness by 1% when we’re feeling tired and overwhelmed.

2. Our misconception that happiness is about our circumstances–the next promotion, the new relationship–and the reality that often people with fantastic circumstances are miserable.

3. Why our emotions flow directly from our thoughts–and how we can improve our wellbeing by changing our mind’s interpretation of events.

About Laurie:

Dr. Laurie Santos is Professor of Psychology and Head of Silliman College at Yale University. Dr. Santos is an expert on human cognition and the cognitive biases that impede better choices. Her course, “Psychology and the Good Life,” teaches students what the science of psychology says about how to make wiser choices and live a life that’s happier and more fulfilling. The class is Yale’s most popular course in over 300 years and has been adapted into a free Coursera program that has been taken by over 3.3 million people to date. Dr. Santos has been featured in numerous news outlets including the New York Times, NBC Nightly News, The Today Show, CBS This Morning, NPR, GQ Magazine, Slate, CNN and O, The Oprah Magazine. Dr. Santos is a winner of numerous awards both for her science and teaching from institutions such as Yale and the American Psychological Association. She has been featured as one of Popular Science’s “Brilliant 10” young minds and was named TIME's “Leading Campus Celebrity.” Her podcast, The Happiness Lab, launched in 2019 has over 48 million downloads.

Instagram: @lauriesantosofficial

Twitter: @lauriesantos

1. How do we build a squad of friends–people we can trust our truth and imperfection with, and who take responsibility for one another’s care?

2. How to know when it’s time to let a friendship go–and how we release one another without the hard feelings.  

3. Why when we have a problem trusting others, it sometimes has to do with a lack of trust in ourselves.   

4. Why Luvvie says her friends have rewired her brain, and answers the question: Can Black and white women really be friends?

About Luvvie:

Luvvie Ajayi Jones is a two-time New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and sought-after speaker who thrives at the intersection of humor, media, and justice. Her critically acclaimed books Professional Troublemaker: The Fear-Fighter Manual and I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual were instant bestsellers and established her as a literary force with a powerful pen. Professional Troublemaker was just released in paperback. 

She’s an internationally recognized speaker who takes on dozens of stages every year around the globe and has spoken at some of the world's most innovative companies and conferences, including Google, Facebook, Amazon, and Twitter. She is also co-creator of the #SharetheMicNow global movement and hosts her podcast, Professional Troublemaker.

Instagram: @luvvie

Twitter: @Luvvie