We Need To Talk: In this thought-provoking episode, relationship expert and coach Sadia Khan openly shares her own perspectives on modern dating, masculinity, and the evolving nature of intimate relationships.

Paul and Sadia dive deep into the impact of the sexual revolution, which Sadia believes has led to a decline in masculinity among men and an enhancement of masculinity in women. 

They also examine how adult media platforms like Only Fans are eroding intimacy, while fuelling infidelity in modern relationships.

Sadia shares her beliefs on the importance of being a 'high-value man’ and offers her perspective on whether non-monogamous relationships can truly work within the structures of marriage.

By the end of this conversation, listeners can expect to gain a deeper understanding of the struggles in modern dating, the challenges young men face, and the reasons why many modern relationships are failing, all while exploring the conflict between traditional values and today’s evolving dating culture.

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00:00 - Introduction

01:59 - The First Time You Felt Love

03:07 - Are You A Feminist Or Misogynist? Discover Your True Self

03:37 - Sadia's Journey Through Love And Relationships

05:18 - Why Infidelity Is A Major Fear In Relationships

08:37 - How The Sexual Revolution Transformed Modern Dating

11:10 - Defining Masculinity: What It Means Today

13:06 - Do Men Really Only Want Sex?

14:50 - Exploring Paul's Love Life And Intimacy

18:47 - How Feedback Can Strengthen A Marriage

21:19 - The Dangers Of Pornography On Relationships

23:36 - Are There Any Benefits To Watching Porn?

26:09 - Are Polyamorous Relationships Destroying Dating Norms?

27:20 - Is Marriage The Right Choice For Everyone?

32:42 - Is OnlyFans Changing The Face Of Modern Dating?

36:52 - Perspectives On OnlyFans: Empowerment Or Exploitation?

43:54 - What Is The Narcissistic Movement? A Deep Dive

45:11 - How Ethnicity Affects Your Dating Preferences

46:17 - Are Women Becoming More Narcissistic?

48:06 - Does Racial Preference In Dating Make You Racist?

49:59 - Colonialism's Impact On Modern Dating Preferences

50:49 - The Two Types Of Men According To Sadia

53:11 - Dating Advice For Single Men Looking For Love

55:12 - The Biggest Red Flags Men Should Avoid

58:12 - What Makes A Woman Truly Attractive?

01:03:01 - How Wellbeing Influences Partner Choices

01:07:26 - Why Men React Negatively To Attractive Women

01:07:53 - How Jealousy Affects Self-Worth In Relationships

01:10:12 - How Sadia Handles Negative Comments Online

01:12:01 - Paul's Biggest Takeaways From The Conversation

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We Need to Talk: In this episode, Paul dives into the critical role status plays in our relationships. He explores why couples engage in "status games" and how our evolutionary drive for status impacts our pursuit for sexual partners.

His guest this week is Will Storr, award-winning journalist and Sunday Times bestselling author of The Status Game, The Heretics, Selfie, and The Science of Storytelling.

Together, they unpack how understanding status can help us build stronger, long-lasting relationships.

Learn more about Will Storr's work here: https://g2ul0.app.link/lV7aQOFvTMb

(00:00) Introduction

(1:30) What Is Status and How Do We Define It?

(2:23) Why Is Status So Important in Modern Society?

(2:58) 1st PTC

(3:22) How Status and Connection Impact Happiness

(4:15) The Role of High Status in Tribal Societies

(5:52) How Status Shapes Our Identity

(6:56) The Difference Between Superficial and Meaningful Connections

(10:20) 2nd PTC

(11:44) Are We Doomed to a Culture of Doom and Gloom?

(13:30) How to Handle the Loss of Celebrity Status

(16:17) Navigating Multiple Status Games in Life

(18:32) Sponsor - Tinder

(19:33) The Link Between Status and Suicide: What You Need to Know

(21:31) How to Support Someone Losing Their Status

(22:24) 3rd PTC

(22:54) Is Modern Dating Being Destroyed by Dating Apps?

(24:41) Does Social Media Affect How We Behave in Real Life?

(26:16) How Status Displays Differ in Hookups vs. Serious Relationships

(30:23) 4th PTC

(31:41) What Is 'Detect and Protect' Mode in Relationships?

(34:44) Why We Crave Connection with the Same People

(38:18) Why My Partner and I Decided Not to Have Children

(42:51) How Childhood Unhappiness Can Lead to Adult Success

(44:22) How to Overcome Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships

(45:48) Why Loving Yourself Is Key to a Healthy Relationship

(48:56) The Most Meaningful Conversation I’ve Ever Had

(51:42) My Biggest Takeaways From This Discussion

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We Need To Talk: In this episode, we uncover the untold truth behind TV superstar Lauren Goodger. Lauren, a TV icon, entrepreneur, and mother, rose to fame on The Only Way is Essex (TOWIE) from 2010 to 2012 and made a much-anticipated return in 2024.

For the first time, Lauren opens up about her personal journey—reflecting on her relationships, the intense scrutiny of high-profile romances, and how she found self-love through life's many evolutions.

In her own words, Lauren reveals her path to healing and growth, offering listeners a candid look at her struggles and triumphs. We hope her story not only brings healing to Lauren but inspires others to talk more openly about mental health and overcoming tragedy.

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(00:00) Intro

(02:07) When Was The First Time You Fell In Love?

(05:36) Your First Serious Relationship Revealed

(09:04) The Most Challenging Moment In Your Relationship With Mark

(11:05) The Beginning Of TOWIE: How It All Started

(12:12) A Turning Point In Your Journey

(13:12) How TOWIE And Fame Affected Your Relationship With Mark

(17:36) Why People Are So Intrigued By You

(18:24) The Real Reason You Broke Up With Mark

(21:42) Lauren And Mark: Why They Stopped Speaking

(22:49) Reflecting On Major Life Events

(23:39) Your Second Relationship With Jake After Mark

(26:35) How To Pick The Right Partner

(27:17) Breaking Up With Jake, What Really Happened

(31:12) Your Relationship With Joey

(34:13) What Attracts You To Bad Boys?

(36:44) How You Earned Thousands From A Photoshoot

(39:01) Why You Started OnlyFans And What It Meant To You

(42:36) Your Relationship With Charles: The Truth

(45:26) The Emotional Impact Of Having An Abortion

(47:07) The Journey Of Becoming A Mother

(47:59) Why It Takes So Long To Get To Know Someone

(53:40) The Tragic Loss Of Your Unborn Child

(59:30) Feeling Lonely, How You Handled It

(01:00:58) Steps To Recover From Trauma

(01:03:17) The Three Essential Groups We Need In Life

(01:07:43) What You Did To Change Your Life For The Better

(01:13:12) What You Would Tell Your 12-Year-Old Self

(01:13:51) The Most Impactful Conversation Of Your Life

(01:16:07) Why You Want People To Know The Real You?

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Paul C Brunson, the world’s most influential matchmaker and TV star, brings his insightful commentary on how to create and sustain successful relationships through vulnerability, connection and understanding. From weekly conversations with industry experts and familiar faces, Paul promises to support your personal growth, provide practical insights, and deliver actionable advice that will add value to your relationships.

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