Are you capable of forgiving?   In this episode of The Darin Olien Show, I chat with Danielle Laporte about what it is to love, to forgive, and how they both impact a relationship. Many of us tend to lead in our relationships from our wounds and not from a state of consciousness that is equivalent to love, which is the reason why so many relationships these days go sideways at some point.   Danielle also shares the role that karma plays in our lives and how we can recognize it in the relationships we are a part of.   Danielle Laporte is a best-selling Canadian author, motivational speaker, entrepreneur, and blogger. Her book, The Fire Starter Sessions (Harmony, 2014), is a best-seller and focuses on finding your passion in life and work – inside the system and out.      What we discuss:   02:01: Why does Danielle approach goal setting the way she does? 04:51: Is loving a feeling? 07:51: What is forgiveness? 20:02: Is karma a weapon? 23:54:What is powerfully you? 27:13: Are relationships really about love? 30:53: How do you know your boundaries are crossed? 43:51: Are we programmed by society? 45:24: Why you can’t lead from your wound 47:49: What can you do right now?     Key takeaways:  

• We often fail to realize that some of our behavior in relationships is due to some unhealed wounds we have within us. These wounds speak for us and they may make us sound and act irrationally. The first step to healing these wounds is acknowledging them. Then, it’s communicating them to those we share a relationship with so they can better understand where we’re coming from. While it may feel tempting to forever act and speak from this place of hurt, we must do the inner work to heal these wounds. We can’t blame these wounds forever.

 

• Love is a state of consciousness that allows us to think beyond just ourselves. But the ego wants us to believe love is just an emotion or a feeling because the ego always wants you to be in a state where you’re constantly searching to “earn” and feel the satisfaction of accomplishing such a thing. This means you’re constantly looking for ways for which you can earn someone’s love or that you can feed someone your love, so they can earn it too. Therefore, to be in a happy and loving relationship, you must make the switch from ego to consciousness. 

 

• We are programmed by society to perceive ourselves in certain ways. We see ourselves as a certain astrological sign, introverts, extroverts, and all types of other boxes they try to put us in. But the reality is that we aren’t to be told who we are - we are to look within and find out for ourselves who we are.

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