I Wish You Knew

What Makes an Avoidant Man Feel Safe Enough to Stay


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What does it take for an Avoidant Man to finally feel safe enough to stay in love? 

In this episode, Kimmi returns to share his journey from emotional shutdown to engagement. Once known as “Kimmi the Avoidant,” he opens up about what helped him finally connect, feel secure, and build lasting love. 

Topics Covered: 

👉 How avoidant attachment distorts emotional connection
👉 Why emotional safety—not pressure—creates commitment
👉 The surprising impact of oxytocin, magnesium, and sleep
👉 How routines and rituals help avoidant men feel secure
👉 The “emotional baby” stage and how to move through it
👉 Avoidant men’s biggest fear: dying alone and unremembered
👉 How to spot emotional bids and respond like a secure partner
👉 The CEO analogy for leading your relationship well
👉 How to continuously grow closer in long-term love

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Why She Doesn’t Want You (Even If She Loves You) '. Watch here:  https://youtu.be/aUMUEbwcVuo

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com 

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