Relationship Advice

What To Do When Your Partner is Still Defensive


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In this episode, the hosts explore the emotional complexity of being vulnerable in relationships and not receiving the supportive response we hope for. When partners often respond in protective ways—like shutting down or snapping back—can feel frustrating and disheartening—especially when you’re trying to be vulnerable and connect. Understanding what’s happening under the surface of that defensiveness and learning how to respond can completely shift the dynamic between you and your partner. Listen to today’s show to learn how to stay grounded, break negative cycles, and build true emotional safety—even when your partner is still reactive.


In this episode of Relationship Advice, we discuss relationship topics such as:

  • Protective Responses
  • How To Avoid Being “Baited” Into Reactivity
  • Tools To Stay In Vulnerability/Curiosity When You Partner Shuts Down
  • Internal vs. External Control
  • Tuning Into Your Window of Tolerance
  • How To Build Lasting Safety In Relationships
  • and much more!


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