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In 2023, we (Greg & Stacey) took part in a marriage intensive with a therapist who had been highly recommended to us. That therapist was KELLY BOURQUE, the founder of Red Therapy Group in Franklin TN. Kelly is a certified Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) therapist and supervisor. 

EFT is a modality based in attachment theory, and is helpful in allowing couples to identify unhealthy patterns in their relationships. Patterns such as the "push/pull" or "pursuer/withdrawer" dynamic, or with anxious/avoidant attachment styles.

Kelly talks about how EFT has been invaluable in helping couples see that despite the surface conflict, they usually desire the same things. And the practice gives them a language to help them get out of old cycles and find their way back to each other more healthily and authentically.

Episode 44 | Kelly Bourque: Finding Your Way Back will be available Tuesday, August 19th!

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People walking through the wilderness of addiction can have a hard time finding places that feel truly safe to open up. Yet authentic connection is the key to freedom from addiction. One of the things that gives the safety people seek is a person who chooses to be open about their own "limp," not hiding from their personal failures. 

John Steakley is that kind of person. Since walking through his own addictive struggle with alcohol, John has been using that experience to help hundreds of others find hope as they seek to walk out of that same wilderness. John is the founder and Executive Director of Unbound Grace Ministries, a support & counseling ministry helping people who have found themselves trapped in unhealthy relationships with alcohol and other substances.  

John talks about the importance of providing safe healing space by how we are vulnerable with our own struggles (pointing to our limp). Pointing to our own limp also helps us and others remember that it's not about us or what we can do... our limp also points to God, the "Power greater than ourselves," who desires to restore us to the lives we were meant to live. 

John has written a book, also titled Unbound Grace. He lives in Birmingham AL with his family.

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Since walking through his own addictive struggle with alcohol, JOHN STEAKLEY has been using that experience to help hundreds of others walking through the same wilderness. John is the founder and Executive Director of Unbound Grace Ministries, a support & counseling ministry helping people who have found themselves trapped in unhealthy relationships with alcohol and other substances.  

John talks about the importance of providing safe healing space by how we are vulnerable with our own struggles (pointing to our limp). He has written a book, also titled Unbound Grace. He lives in Birmingham AL with his family.

Episode 43 | John Steakley: You Point to Your Limp will be available Tuesday, August 5th!

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For people in the Birmingham AL area, or who are part of the PCA denomination, BOB FLAYHART is probably a name you've heard. In 1989 Bob was the founding pastor of Oak Mountain Presbyterian Church, and served as lead pastor there until 2024. Bob has remained a consistent advocate for the pure message of God's unconditional love, grace, and transforming power through the gospel. 

Both Greg and Bobby benefitted from Bob's (and OMPC's) openness to provide a welcoming space for recovering people to meet for support. In our conversation we talk about how obvious it is that pastors should be open to supporting people in recovery, and why for some ministry leaders it doesn't seem so obvious.

We also talk about a concept he's been preaching for years, called "The Gospel Waltz," and how understanding it can help Christian believers who struggle to recover from addiction.

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For people in the Birmingham AL area, or who are part of the PCA denomination, BOB FLAYHART is probably a name you've heard. In 1989 Bob was the founding pastor of Oak Mountain Presbyterian Church, and served as lead pastor there until 2024. Bob has remained a consistent advocate for the pure message of God's unconditional love, grace, and transforming power through the gospel. 

We talk about how his concept of "The Gospel Waltz" can help Christian believers who struggle to recover from addiction.

Episode 42 | Bob Flayhart: Living the Gospel Waltz will be available Tuesday, July 22nd!

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When Stacey and I talked with Corinne Vance for Episode 41, we started recording early and the conversation got really interesting really quickly (at least for us). We got to know a lot about Corinne: how she came to faith, her early experiences with Christianity, and how that has impacted her as a therapist.

We thought you might enjoy a little extra helping of our talk with Corinne, so here it is! Please keep listening in...we'll be giving you new conversations every other Tuesday. Also, please support us by writing  a positive review and giving us 5 stars where you get your podcasts.

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There are certain experiences that are excruciatingly hard to talk about, and from which healing is incredibly difficult. Sexual abuse is far more common than most people realize, yet survivors often feel isolated and carry shame over their abuse. They need kind, caring people to support their healing.

Corinne Vance is that kind of person. She has worked therapeutically with men, women, and adolescents for over 20 years. She has provided training and consultation (globally and in the U.S.) in the areas of aftercare for survivors of sex trafficking and domestic violence. She recently served as Director of Trauma Therapy at The WellHouse, a safe haven for victims of human trafficking in Alabama, and continues to provide clinical supervision for staff there.

Corinne describes sexual trauma as something "that affects every family." In our conversation we unpack some of the intricacies of sexual trauma & abuse, talk about its impact on all relationships, and discuss how wrestling with God is a good thing.

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One of the most frightening types of abuse to think or talk about is sexual abuse. So many survivors keep their stories silent, hiding in shame and never experiencing true healing. CORINNE VANCE is a trauma-trained therapist who specializes in helping clients identify, name, and explore healing from sexual trauma and abuse. She is also the Senior Trauma Therapist at The Well House, a residential facility in Alabama that provides safety for sex trafficking survivors.

Corinne says ALL families have some story of sexual abuse, and understanding what it is and how it affects us is key to healing.

Episode 41 | Corinne Vance: Putting the Pieces Together will be available Tuesday, July 8th!

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What do you do when your spouse tells you she wants a divorce and is in love with another man?

That was a question Harrison Scott Key never thought he'd have to answer. But it's exactly what happened. Over the course of several years he navigated an excruciating saga of fighting for his marriage and for his sanity. He tells the story in his New York Times bestselling book How to Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told.

In our conversation with Harrison, we talked about what it was like living it, writing about it, and the unexpected impact of book tour promotion about such a personal experience. We talked about family healing, and how his friends and his church helped him find the capacity for forgiveness.

It's a rare talent who can take such a heartbreaking story and also make it so funny; but that's exactly what Harrison does - in the book and in our conversation. Harrison is a professor at Savannah College of Art & Design, has written three books, and lives in Savannah with his wife Lauren and their kids. (He's also the drummer in a cover band called The Love Handles.)

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Stacey and I got to visit with HARRISON SCOTT KEY, a college professor, world-renowned speaker, and best-selling author of three books, including How To Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told." It's a humorous and heartbreaking memoir, recounting some of the most excruciating years in the life of Harrison and his wife. It's a beautiful story of a marriage facing adultery and the journey towards healing and redemption. 

It's a raw, honest, wide-open conversation where we talked about the pain of infidelity and the frightening process of forgiveness. 

Episode 40 | Harrison Scott Key: Do You Want to Be Married to Me? will be available Tuesday, June 24th!

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