If you are still in a world of coercive control even after separation or you’ve left a coercive controlling relationship and you are still having difficulty with your ex then this episode is for you. Join us as we shed light on 12 signs that coercive control is still happening even after separation from your ex. Learn about the emotional trenches often dug by abusers post-separation and learn some strategies and gain some knowledge on how to navigate this rough terrain whilst going through the legal process of property settlement and children’s custody battles. Learn how coercive control is often only discussed as a thing that occurs whilst living in a relationship with someone, but it can very much continue afterwards in a different but similar way.

We look at accusations of parental alienation, ways you can continue to be controlled and ways to protect yourself from the continuing abuse but also to act smart when it comes to the family law system. With a strapping blend of empathy and practical legal education, Laura and Lyn guide listeners on this liberating quest towards regaining control, breaking free from the abuser's influence and forging a path towards a life abundant with autonomy and peace.

Part 2 

Trigger Warning: this episode discusses Coercive Control if you are triggered please call 1800 Respect or Life Line on 13 11 14

Remember, it's important to seek legal advice from a qualified lawyer for your specific situation. While this podcast provides general information pertaining to Australian law, it does not replace personalised legal counsel.

 

Don’t miss out on hearing the answers to the following questions

• What does the court think about it if someone tells their child negative things about the other parent?

• How do you prove parental alienation, and what happens if the court doesn't like the evidence?

• What are the outcomes if the court determines that a person is not child-focused?

• How does the court handle cases where parental alienation is used as a tactic in a coercive control situation?

• Are there ways to protect oneself from accusations of parental alienation?

• What signs of coercive control relate to health and body issues after separation?

• What protections are in place for individuals concerned about the privacy of their mental health records during legal proceedings?

• How can someone overcome the guilt and psychological impact of self-care, especially in the context of accusations from the ex-partner?

• Do jealous accusations continue into the legal post-separation phase, and how do they manifest?

• How can someone deal with the ongoing interference and accusations related to their dating life post-separation?

• Have you left a coercive, controlling relationship but found that it followed you?

• What are the Twelve Signs of Coercive Control after separation?

• How does coercive control of money continue after separation?

• What are the ways in which direct control over money can be exerted after separation?

• How does manipulating child support payments contribute to coercive control after separation?

• Is nondisclosure and hiding of money recognized by the family court?

• What are the penalties for non-disclosure or non-compliance with court-ordered steps in financial matters?

• How does delaying disclosure serve an abuser in coercive control situations?

• What are the potential consequences for someone hiding assets during a divorce or separation?

• How can laypeople address issues of nondisclosure and hiding of assets in court?

• Should individuals proceed with mediation if the other party hasn't completed proper disclosure?

• How do traditional gender roles contribute to coercive control after separation?

• How can the court address the issue of unequal responsibility in co-parenting arrangements?

• What steps can be taken to avoid being held accountable for administrative tasks post-separation?

• How can one handle requests for detailed reports and updates from the other parent after separation?

• What are the potential consequences of turning kids against one parent in a coercive control situation?

• How can a parent protect their children from negative influence during a separation?

• What actions can be taken to counter attempts to turn kids against one parent in a divorce or separation?

• What happens if someone accuses you of parental alienation

• Is parental alienation a real thing?

• Examples of how the family court can view dating online  

Sources Mentioned 

Psychology Today 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/invisible-chains/202311/7-tips-to-un-gaslight-yourself-after-domestic-abuse

 

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Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

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• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

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• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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