One of the most painful parts of relational trauma is not having your feelings seen and empathized with. This episode touches on this and how you can begin to heal in healthy and safe relationships with others. *SUPPORT this podcast buymeacoffee.com/healingtrauma

When They Can’t Empathize.

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The Healing Trauma Podcast brings you conversations around trauma healing. This season features a new "Faith" edition where conversations around trauma healing and emotionally healthy spirituality meet. Disclaimer: The information is not intended as a replacement for medical and mental health advice. Follow the advice of your licensed mental health professional.

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Mental Health

In this conversation, Monique Koven and Alison Cook discuss the importance of acknowledging and embracing our emotions rather than brushing them aside or numbing them. They explore the concept of naming our emotions as a way to bring order and relief to our inner world. They emphasize the need for self-compassion and curiosity when it comes to our emotions, and the importance of pausing and reflecting before taking action. The conversation also touches on the healing journey of trauma survivors and the role of framing our emotions in a healthy way. Overall, the conversation highlights the practices of naming, awareness, framing, and braving as essential tools for emotional well-being.
Key words emotions, naming, order, relief, self-compassion, curiosity, pausing, reflecting, trauma, healing, framing, braving, emotional. The conversation is based on themes in Alision’s new book “ I Shouldn’t Feel This Way.” 
Takeaways

 Acknowledging and embracing our emotions is important for our emotional well-being.
 Naming our emotions brings order and relief to our inner world.
 Self-compassion and curiosity are key in dealing with our emotions.
  Pausing and reflecting before taking action allows for wiser decision-making.
  The healing journey of trauma survivors involves learning to name and honor their emotions.
  Framing our emotions in a healthy way helps us understand and respond to them effectively.
  Braving involves taking action based on our emotional awareness and understanding.


  Embracing Our Emotions: The Key to Emotional Well-being
  Healing Trauma: Learning to Name and Honor Our Emotions


  "I shouldn't feel this way has become for me a little bit of a, oh, I feel something. I feel something I don't want to feel."
  "The truth sets us free. This is what I feel. I'm not gaslighting myself. I'm not trying to dupe myself into not feeling what I really feel."
  "Numbing is to try to keep those emotions outside of our conscious awareness. Naming is bringing them up into the surface and looking at them."

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Emotional Maturity Through Learning How to Name What You Feel -With Dr. Alison Cook

With Mother's Day approaching I'm re-releasing a special episode with psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Arielle Schwartz.

In this episode, Monique Koven and Dr. Arielle Schwartz discuss the complexities of Mother's Day and the impact it can have on individuals with trauma. They explore the range of emotions that can arise, including happiness, sadness, guilt, and shame. They emphasize the importance of self-compassion and attending to the sacred wounds of the past. They also discuss the role of attachment and how our experiences with our mothers shape our sense of self. The conversation highlights the healing potential of acknowledging and validating our feelings and offering love and compassion to ourselves.
Keywords
Mother's Day, trauma, emotions, self-compassion, attachment 

 Mother's Day can bring up a range of complex emotions for individuals with trauma, including happiness, sadness, guilt, and shame.
 It is important to practice self-compassion and attend to the sacred wounds of the past.
 Our experiences with our mothers shape our sense of self and can lead to feelings of responsibility and confusion.
 Acknowledging and validating our feelings is essential for healing and creating space for self-love and compassion.
 Attachment plays a significant role in our relationship with our mothers and our ability to offer love and compassion to ourselves.


 The Range of Emotions on Mother's Day
 Practicing Self-Compassion and Healing Sacred Wounds


 "Mother's Day is approaching, we start to feel this almost as countdown of a complexity of feelings."

 "We learn to push down our authentic feelings because somebody else gave us this message that they couldn't handle our feelings."

 "What is true for you is welcome here now."

Grateful for Dr. Arielle Schwartz enormous contribution to the work of Trauma Recovery and Healing. 
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Mother's Day ~ Attending To Our Sacred Wounds With Dr. Arielle Schwartz

interview with out intro alison cook and I

Today's conversation I am joined with author and psychologist Dr. Alison Cook. We talk about healing trauma, spiritual bypassing and the need for holistic and emotionally safe trauma informed care and education in our faith communities.
Many who have experienced trauma as children have learned to adapt by disconnecting from their emotions & feelings. Faith communities need to be emotionally healthy places where compassion and empathy is extended to those suffering not only spiritually but emotionally as well. Alison shares the importance of not denying one’s emotional experience, and instead to begin to gently turn towards them with curiosity and compassion. 
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“Dr. Alison Cook is a psychologist and the author of two books, including her new book, The Best of You (Thomas Nelson 2022) and Boundaries for Your Soul (Thomas Nelson 2018). For 20 years, Alison has helped women, ministry leaders, couples, and families learn how to heal painful emotions, develop confidence from the inside out, forge healthy relationships, and fully live out their God-given potential.”
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Emotionally Healthy Faith & Healing with Dr. Alison Cook

This episode is a recent recording from psychologist Dr. Alison Cook's podcast "The Best Of You' where I was a guest. 


Taken from her podcast description
'Today’s episode is just so special and so deeply personal. If you’ve experienced trauma, please listen. If you love someone, please listen. Trauma touches so many lives, and it’s so often misunderstood. In today’s episode, Monique Koven, host of The Healing Trauma podcast, shares her powerful story of healing from trauma. There is absolute gold in this episode for everyone."


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