In this episode, we dive into the quiet, tormenting force of unresolved guilt—and how it can entrap us in relationships long after they've ended. Through the lens of one man’s struggle to say no to an ex he no longer loves but still feels tethered to, we explore how guilt becomes more than remorse—it becomes identity. What begins as an effort to repair harm quietly reveals a deeper conflict: the belief that having needs, choosing oneself, or pursuing autonomy makes you fundamentally unloving. This episode isn’t just about setting boundaries—it’s about healing the parts of ourselves we fear make us unworthy of love, and learning to hold both care for others and care for ourselves in the same breath. 

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