The Mental Healness Podcast

Why is it so hard to leave a narcissist?


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In this episode, we dive deep into the psychological reality of narcissistic abuse recovery and why it takes an average of seven attempts before a survivor leaves for good. We explore the biological and emotional "hooks" that keep you stuck, from the trauma bond to intermittent reinforcement.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going back or why the "final" break feels so impossible, this session provides the clarity you need to break the cycle.

  • The 7-Attempt Rule: Understanding the statistics and the psychology behind leaving an abusive relationship.

  • The Trauma Bond & Dopamine: Why leaving a narcissist feels like physical drug withdrawal.

  • Intermittent Reinforcement: How the "hot and cold" cycle creates a powerful psychological addiction.

  • Cognitive Dissonance: Navigating the confusion between who they were and who they are.

  • The Hoovering Phase: How to stay firm when they try to "suck" you back into the relationship.

  • Stages of Healing: What the timeline of recovery actually looks like after going No Contact


Connect with Lee:

  • My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Healing Support Group: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss

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