You Are Not Crazy

Why It Hurts So Much (Even After Everything)


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When you're breaking a trauma bond or coming to terms with the end of a manipulative relationship, it doesn’t just bruise you—it shatters something inside. This kind of grief defies logic. You’re not just mourning a relationship. You’re grieving the version of you who believed in it, the future you imagined, and the love you gave so fully.

I walk through what this heartbreak really is—and what it isn’t. It’s not weakness. It’s not over-sensitivity. It’s a nervous system crash after prolonged emotional chaos. It’s what happens when your love was real, but the relationship was built on manipulation, betrayal, or broken promises.

Inside this episode:

  • Why grief after narcissistic abuse feels unbearable
  • The emotional rollercoaster of detaching from someone who hurt you
  • How shame, self-blame, and rumination keep you stuck
  • Why you still miss them, even when they treated you badly
  • A reminder that your pain is a reflection of your depth—not a flaw

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You Are Not CrazyBy Jessica Knight

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