We were taught how to avoid pregnancy and how to avoid STDs. That was it. Nobody taught us about pleasure, desire, or what intimacy is actually supposed to feel like.

Nobody taught us what coercion looks like inside a long-term relationship, or that consent is something ongoing and not something you say once and forfeit forever. Nobody told us that the clitoris is literally a pleasure organ, the only organ in the human body that exists purely for pleasure, and that we are allowed to treat it that way.

Andrew Phipps is the host of The Intimacy Inquiry podcast and a PhD candidate researching the ethics of AI relationships. He spent years in corporate real estate before deciding he wanted to make something his teenage kids could actually learn from.

What started as a podcast about intimacy became a deep excavation of power, pleasure, and everything society has deliberately left out of the conversation.

We talk about AI companions and whether a relationship with an AI is necessarily worse than a painful or coercive human one. We talk about the freeze response, and why so many women go to their trauma place and let whatever happens happen rather than risk making a situation worse by saying no. We talk about the one percent conviction rate for sexual assault and what that means for who actually holds power

What shifts, in relationships, in bodies, in entire lives, when pleasure stops being the last thing on the list and becomes the point?

If you have ever endured instead of wanted, performed instead of felt, or given more than you ever received, this episode is going to land.

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CHAPTER

3:15 Andrew Phipps and the Intimacy Inquiry

6:40 The Ethics of AI Relationships

10:25 AI vs Human Connection Risks

14:50 Sex Work and Societal Perspectives

18:35 Why Pleasure is Vital for Health

22:10 Modern Sex Education for Teens

26:45 Women's Rights and Bodily Autonomy

31:15 Understanding Consent vs Coercion

35:40 The Reality of Power Dynamics

40:20 Ongoing Consent in Relationships

42:55 Redefining Sex and Pleasure