Most women don’t need another date night, another vacation, or better communication strategies. What they need is a radical unlearning of everything they were taught about love and intimacy. Because even the good relationships are built on extraction.

Not reciprocity. Not mutuality. Not pleasure.

If your relationship feels like a second job, if your body is numb, if you’ve been blaming your hormones or your libido and nothing ever really changes, this episode will hit deep.

You’ve been rewarded for self-sacrifice your entire life. You are the one who holds it all. The one who fixes. The one who over-functions while feeling like your needs are too much. That’s not connection. That’s performance. That’s survival. And it’s killing your desire.

This is where we name what’s really going on. The invisible emotional labor. The power imbalances are hiding in plain sight. The way women with super traits are conditioned to have their power extracted and their pleasure pathologized.

So what does a pleasure-centered relationship actually looks like? A relationship where mutual joy, emotional safety, and erotic connection are prioritized. Not logistics. Not roles. Not appearances. A relationship where your nervous system can soften, your needs are valid, and your body is safe to receive.

If you’re ready to stop performing pleasure and start feeling it, take the Pleasure Path Assessment [TAKE IT BY CLICKING HERE] and find out where you are.

And if this resonates with you, I’ve opened two private coaching spots [APPLY HERE] this fall for women who are ready to transform everything about the way they love.

You don’t need to leave your relationship. But you do need to leave the version of yourself that disappears inside it.

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Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire.

PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]

Your nervous system already knows what your mind has been trained not to see.

“He’s a great guy.” “He’s a good dad.” “He means well.”

These are the phrases that keep brilliant, high-achieving women stuck in sexless, disconnected, emotionally manipulative relationships. I’m naming the pattern you’ve been taught not to see… the good guy gaslighter.

It’s the new face of power and control and it’s quietly draining your desire and destroying your self-worth. And might be the reason you are not feeling like showing up intimacy for your parter even when you know you want it.

I’m breaking down DARVO tactics, tone policing, covert control, and how the very traits that make you successful, your super traits, are being used against you in intimacy. If you’re performing connection while starving for it. If you’re craving sex but feel invisible. if you’re doing all the work and still not getting your needs met.

This one’s for you.

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Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire.

PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]

If you’ve ever been told that estrogen causes breast cancer, or that your mammogram will save your life, or that your only option is to “cut, poison, and burn,” this episode is going to challenge everything you’ve been taught.

Dr. Jenn Simmons joins me for an honest conversation about what actually causes breast cancer, why the screening model is flawed, and how functional medicine is changing the game.

Dr. Jenn was one of the top breast cancer surgeons in Philadelphia. She was the first fellowship-trained breast surgeon in her city. The first onco-plastic surgeon in the state. She was saving lives and doing everything by the book. Until one day, her own health collapsed. She went from being one of the most high-functioning people in the room to not being able to walk across it.

When the system she worked in told her she needed chemo, radiation, and lifelong meds, a voice inside her said, there is something more. Go find it. And she did.

She now leads a movement to help women prevent and reverse breast cancer using evidence-based functional medicine, hormone support, and real prevention strategies rooted in nutrition, detoxification, and nervous system health.

We talk about what really causes breast cancer, how chronic stress and overachievement contribute to disease, why estrogen is not the enemy, the damage of overtreatment and fear-based care, how to actually screen for breast cancer without radiation, and what needs to happen to stop the silent suffering of survivors.

This episode is for every woman who’s been told to be grateful just to be alive while she quietly suffers in pain, incontinence, insomnia, low libido, and fear. It’s for the woman who wants more than survival.

And it’s for every high-achieving, burnt-out, hormone-depleted woman who needs a wake-up call before the body says no.

If you’ve ever felt like no one was telling the whole truth about women’s health, this conversation is your proof that you’re not crazy. The system is broken. And there are other answers.

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Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire.

Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]

Connect with Dr. Jenn Simmons

Check out Dr. Jenn’s work at Real Health MD.

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If you’ve ever been called intimidating, too much, or one of the boys. If you’ve had to explain how you like to be touched more times than you can count. If the idea of surrender feels terrifying because you’re the one who always needs to be in control. This episode is your permission slip.

We are talking about kink. Not in the way you think. This is not about whips or pain or anything performative. This is about kink as a nervous system tool. A way back into your body. A space where you can finally stop performing, stop leading, and just feel.

This episode is about what high-achieving women need when it comes to intimacy and why most of us don’t even know how much we’re craving surrender. I talk about power dynamics, topping from the bottom, and how we perform safety just like we perform sex.

I'm sharing what I’ve seen in my clients who say they want to be dominant but want to be held. And I explain why this isn’t our fault. We’ve had to be in control to survive. But now, it’s time to learn how to receive. To feel. To reclaim our erotic power.

Kink is a portal. And this episode is the doorway.

Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]

Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire.

Connect with Jordin

Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

#120 - The Art Of Aftercare: An Essential Element Missing From The Relationships of High-Achieving Women [LISTEN HERE]

#157 The 5 Super Traits Blocking Your Desire  [LISTEN HERE]

The 10 Phrases That Make Her Want Sex Again

She came on the call overwhelmed, crusty, resentful. She left flushed, smiling, turned on.

If you’ve built your life on doing things right and still feel disconnected from sex, this episode is for you. We are talking about what actually helps high achieving women want sex again. Not dirty talk. Not pressure. Not more performance.

These are ten phrases that soften your jaw, land you in your body, and let your nervous system breathe. Because when you are always leading, adjusting, and accommodating, there is no room for your pleasure.

If you are tired of wondering what happened to you, if sex feels like pressure or something you avoid, or if you only want it to feel close and then get blamed for wanting too much, this is the moment it all starts to make sense.

You are not broken. You are in survival mode. And these ten phrases help you come home.

Take the Pleasure Path Assessment and find the erotic shutdown style and super traits that are keeping you stuck. Let’s get you back to the sex you actually want.

Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire.

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#157 The 5 Super Traits Blocking Your Desire  [LISTEN HERE]

You’ve read the posts, tried the tips, downloaded the workshops, and still feel nothing. You can orgasm by yourself, but struggle with a partner. Or maybe you’re shut down completely and convincing yourself you’re over it. You’re not. You’ve just been stuck in survival.

High-achieving women with super traits are doing sex backward. You’re performing instead of receiving. Doing instead of feeling. Googling techniques when your nervous system is too shut down to hold sensation.

I’m walking you through why orgasm isn’t about skill, it’s about safety, why all the tips fall flat when your body isn’t regulated. And why do we start with nervous system work, not doing more? Not more effort. This is your invitation to stop performing and start receiving.

If you’ve ever asked yourself, Is this all there is, and I don’t get to have mind-blowing orgasms, This episode is the answer.

Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire.

#157 The 5 Super Traits Blocking Your Desire  [LISTEN HERE]

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The high-achieving women that I work with fall into two groups. Low desire and checked out because intimacy has become a performance, a task, a source of resentment. Or high desire and confused because sex is one of the only ways they feel close, but their emotional needs aren’t being met. And then they’re blamed for wanting it too much.

No matter which group you're in, you're trapped. And it’s invisible unless you know what to look for.

On the surface, it looks like a libido issue. But what we’re really talking about is emotional labor, power dynamics, and a nervous system that no longer feels safe. Whether it’s vacation-only sex or craving touch from someone who doesn’t meet you emotionally, your body is trying to protect you.

I’ll walk you through real client examples of what this looks like and why women who have it all are still unfulfilled in intimacy. These women don’t need more communication tips. They need nervous system safety, emotional equity, and relationships where they can finally let go.

If you've tried therapy, the books, the hormone panels, and you’re still wondering what’s wrong with you, this is your episode.

You are not broken. You are burned out. And your body is smarter than you think.

Pleasure starts when the pretending stops. Join me for the next round of Pleasure Principles. We start on June 25. [Join Here]

Not ready for the full program but craving clarity? Start with the live Pleasure Path Assessment and get the answers you've been looking for. [Grab your spot here.]

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Claim one of the final two spots in my 12-week Pleasure Principles group coaching program. Pleasure starts when the pretending stops. Join me for the next round of Pleasure Principles.[Join Here]

Superwomen, we need to talk about your pelvic floor.

If you’ve ever apologized during a pelvic exam, felt broken because sex hurts, or wondered if leaking when you laugh is just part of being a mom, this conversation is for you.

Pelvic floor physiotherapist Aliya Dhalla joins me to answer the questions most of us are too ashamed to ask. We talk about vulva appearance, labiaplasty, pelvic tension, postpartum trauma, and the invisible ways stress shows up in our bodies, especially in the pelvic floor. You’ll hear how porn and patriarchy have warped our ideas of what’s normal and why so many women are walking around in pain without ever being diagnosed.

We go deep into:

• Why do women apologize for how they look, smell, or show up in the exam room

• What’s actually normal when it comes to vulva anatomy and hair

• How stress, trauma, and overthinking get stored in your pelvic floor

• Why painful sex is not something you should push through

• The connection between clenching, safety, and self pleasure

Your body is not broken. You are not too much. You just haven’t been told the truth.

Grab your live Pleasure Path Assessment and get the answers you've been looking for. [Grab your spot here.]

Connect with Aliya

Website: https://boxwellness.co/

The Not Your Mother's Pelvic Floor Podcast

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Why you don't need to communicate better and other weaponized advice from couples therapy and Instagram influencers. These are the things keeping you stuck in your sexless marriage.

If your relationship feels like a never-ending conversation with no lasting change, chances are you don't need to communicate better. You need to understand the concepts of coercive control and power dynamics.

Most high-achieving women are not evil at communication. They run companies. They run households. However, in their relationships, they are over-functioning and over-communicating, yet still not getting their needs met.

You do not need better scripts. You need a better framework. Join the Pleasure Principles group coaching program and get the tools that actually shift your relationship from burnout to turn on.

Listen To: #157 - The 5 Super Traits Blocking Your Desire (& How to Shift From Resentment to Deep Connection) HERE

Pleasure starts when the pretending stops. Join me for the next round of Pleasure Principles. We start on June 25. [Join Here]

Not ready for the full program but craving clarity? Start with the live Pleasure Path Assessment and get the answers you've been looking for. [Grab your spot here.]

Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

You’ve read the sexy prompts, saved the dirty talk guides, maybe even worked up the courage to send a flirty text and still nothing changes. The card games, therapy scripts, I statements, sandwich feedback, even Nonviolent Communication and it still hurts. You feel alone.

It reinforces the belief that you’re the problem. But you’re not.

I’m sharing the 5 questions couples having great sex are asking each other and why communication advice does not work for high-achieving women with super traits.

You’ll learn: – Why high-desire women chase emotional unavailability in the bedroom – What’s really happening when low libido makes sex feel not worth having – How dysregulated nervous systems shut down pleasure, connection, and truth – The difference between fantasy and reality when it comes to intimacy advice

This is part one of a two-part series on why communication will not fix your sexless marriage and what actually might.

Because if you’re still not touched in the way you want to be, still feeling unseen and dismissed, the script you’ve been handed is broken.

Let’s rewrite it together.

Listen to #157 - The 5 Super Traits Blocking Your Desire [LISTEN HERE]

Pleasure starts when the pretending stops. Join me for the next round of Pleasure Principles. We start June 25. [Join Here]

Not ready for the full program but craving clarity? Start with the live Pleasure Path Assessment and get the answers you've been looking for. [Grab your spot here.]

Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]