Nope! We're Not Monogamous

Why You’re Stuck in the Same Fight on Repeat (and How to Break the Loop) Ep. 116


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Are you having the same fight over and over in your non-monogamous relationship—and wondering why nothing ever changes?

You’re not broken. You’re in a pattern. And until you understand what’s underneath that pattern, it’ll keep showing up again and again.

In this episode, we’re diving into trauma loops—how they form, why they’re especially common in non-monogamous relationships, and how to start breaking the cycle for good.

💥 Whether you're navigating jealousy, communication breakdowns, or emotional overwhelm, this episode will help you:

  • Spot the signs of a trauma loop
  • Understand how your subconscious is running the show
  • Use clarity as your North Star to shift patterns
  • Explore tools that regulate, reconnect, and reset your emotional responses
  • Learn why support accelerates healing—and how to find the right kind


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