Relationship Advice

‘You Can’t Do This’ Is NOT A Boundary

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If there is one thing to know about boundaries, it is that a boundary is not about what you need somebody else to do. It is about what you are going to do in response to somebody else’s behavior. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren discuss boundaries from a psychotherapeutic lens and give tools for how to better communicate boundaries.


Main Talking Points: 

  • Our bodies are the indicator for when we need to set boundaries.
  • Boundaries exist on a continuum, not as binary bookends.
  • Communication of boundaries should be specific to the prioritized need.
  • We should approach boundaries with grace, generosity, and curiosity.


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