Over the years, there is a recurring ‘theme’ that brings up discomfort for me within my relationship, and that is when things feel boring or mundane. It used to really freak me out, and I would jump to thinking I had to go find a more exciting partner or relationship.

I still have these moments of judging the boredom, but when I pause to reflect further, I see things a little differently now: as a chance to pour into my life more intentionally, vs. placing the relationship or Nate on a pedestal.

In this episode, I explore how I am setting intentions this winter to intentionally show up for myself and nurture 3 key areas:

These are 3 key areas that Robert Johnson shares in his book (We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love) to take the projection off our partner to complete us and make us whole. Excited to share this with you so you can take the time to reflect on these key areas, too!

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This is a long overdue episode to explore signs of what an abusive relationship is and isn’t. I often give the disclaimer “my work does not apply to abusive relationships” and wanted to have a licensed therapist explain the types of abuse so people are aware.

And who better than Dr. Molly Burrets, a licensed clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles with 15 years of experience practicing psychotherapy, conducting research, and teaching at the undergraduate and graduate levels. 

In the episode, we mentioned resources for people experiencing abuse in an intimate relationship:

peaceoverviolence.org

Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN) – 800.656.HOPE (4673)

National Domestic Violence Hotline – 800.799.SAFE (7233), 800.787.3224 TDD

Books:

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond

by Patricia Evans

The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

by Harriet Lerner

The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself

by Beverly Engel

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

by Bessel van der Kolk

For more of Molly’s work, check out:

www.drmollyburrets.com

www.instagram.com/drmollyburrets

In this episode, I unpack the phrase “when you know you know” and how I used to take this phrase very literally, which caused a lot of anxiety and pressure on me. I deconstruct what it actually means to ‘know’ something or have ‘knowledge’, as well as the characteristics of someone who is more likely to ‘know’ something within their relationship or life. 

If you’ve ever heard someone say they “just knew” their partner was the one and felt crappy about it (“what do they know, and how do they know it?!”) – this episode is for you!

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Does it feel like you’re doing all the ‘right’ things but you’re still not happy? Does it feel like everyone around you seems to be happier than you, and you feel so guilty about it?

What if this wasn’t a flaw or something you’re doing wrong – and we have been getting happiness wrong all along? In this episode, I sat down with Stephanie Harrison of @newhappyco to explore what happiness is and isn’t, and how we can take small steps to become more happy and fulfilled in our lives.

For more of Stephanie and New Happy, check out: www.thenewhappy.com

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In this episode, MJ and I discuss why lowering the bar in your life and relationship might actually be a good thing. No, this isn’t about settling or letting go of standards. It’s about moving forward without beating yourself up for every imperfection along the way, and taking small intentional actions instead of waiting for everything to perfectly line up before you can move forward. 

This is the permission slip I’ve needed for so many years, and I know it will feel like a breath of fresh air!

For more of MJ’s work:

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In this episode, I explore the common struggle of wanting anxiety to disappear and how this often makes the anxiety feel even stronger. Many people ask, “Why is my anxiety still here even after I’ve tried all the tools?” – let's discuss a helpful shift in mindset that can transform your relationship with it.

I cover:

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I’ve never done this before, but today I am bringing you a training from my Patreon membership to the podcast to show you a peek into the types of trainings we have every month! 

This month’s topic: wanting to stay in your relationship, but knowing you want things to be better or different, too. 

If you want to dive into a library of trainings like this, and connect with 300+ others on a journey to become more secure…

Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community 

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In this episode, Chelsea and I dive into the idea that true relationship strength often comes from embracing differences rather than being exactly the same.

We cover:

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For more of Chelsea’s work

Website: www.healingembodied.com

IG & TikTok: @healing.embodied

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It can feel so painful to be disconnected from your partner. I get it, because I’ve had a few of these moments myself recently! Let’s talk about it. 

In this episode, I share:

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This episode focuses on healing anxiety from the inside out. And who better to speak to than Alison Seponara – therapist, anxiety educator, holistic healer, and author who specializes in helping others create their own holistic anxiety healing toolkit!

Anxiety can come from many different pillars of our life; our friendships, our physical health and wellbeing, our relational attachment dynamics, our mental patterns, and so much more. Alison and I cover each of these topics and offer bite-sized tips to healing anxiety.

For more of Alison’s work:

Alison’s website 

Alison’s books

Alison’s Instagram 

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