In this episode, I unpack the phrase “when you know you know” and how I used to take this phrase very literally, which caused a lot of anxiety and pressure on me. I deconstruct what it actually means to ‘know’ something or have ‘knowledge’, as well as the characteristics of someone who is more likely to ‘know’ something within their relationship or life. 

If you’ve ever heard someone say they “just knew” their partner was the one and felt crappy about it (“what do they know, and how do they know it?!”) – this episode is for you!

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Does it feel like you’re doing all the ‘right’ things but you’re still not happy? Does it feel like everyone around you seems to be happier than you, and you feel so guilty about it?

What if this wasn’t a flaw or something you’re doing wrong – and we have been getting happiness wrong all along? In this episode, I sat down with Stephanie Harrison of @newhappyco to explore what happiness is and isn’t, and how we can take small steps to become more happy and fulfilled in our lives.

For more of Stephanie and New Happy, check out: www.thenewhappy.com

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In this episode, MJ and I discuss why lowering the bar in your life and relationship might actually be a good thing. No, this isn’t about settling or letting go of standards. It’s about moving forward without beating yourself up for every imperfection along the way, and taking small intentional actions instead of waiting for everything to perfectly line up before you can move forward. 

This is the permission slip I’ve needed for so many years, and I know it will feel like a breath of fresh air!

For more of MJ’s work:

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In this episode, I explore the common struggle of wanting anxiety to disappear and how this often makes the anxiety feel even stronger. Many people ask, “Why is my anxiety still here even after I’ve tried all the tools?” – let's discuss a helpful shift in mindset that can transform your relationship with it.

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I’ve never done this before, but today I am bringing you a training from my Patreon membership to the podcast to show you a peek into the types of trainings we have every month! 

This month’s topic: wanting to stay in your relationship, but knowing you want things to be better or different, too. 

If you want to dive into a library of trainings like this, and connect with 300+ others on a journey to become more secure…

Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community 

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In this episode, Chelsea and I dive into the idea that true relationship strength often comes from embracing differences rather than being exactly the same.

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For more of Chelsea’s work

Website: www.healingembodied.com

IG & TikTok: @healing.embodied

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It can feel so painful to be disconnected from your partner. I get it, because I’ve had a few of these moments myself recently! Let’s talk about it. 

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This episode focuses on healing anxiety from the inside out. And who better to speak to than Alison Seponara – therapist, anxiety educator, holistic healer, and author who specializes in helping others create their own holistic anxiety healing toolkit!

Anxiety can come from many different pillars of our life; our friendships, our physical health and wellbeing, our relational attachment dynamics, our mental patterns, and so much more. Alison and I cover each of these topics and offer bite-sized tips to healing anxiety.

For more of Alison’s work:

Alison’s website 

Alison’s books

Alison’s Instagram 

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You are in for a TREAT with this episode, which truly felt like a therapy session for me. I sat down with Thais Gibson who has over a decade working as a practitioner and specializes in blending attachment theory, psychology, and subconscious reprogramming. 

We discuss what Thais refers to as the “relationship shadow” and explore why our partners can be so dang triggering (it’s not what you think!) and how to navigate these triggers more mindfully.

For more about Thais, check out:

Website: https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

Learning Love book: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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Have you ever felt like you were not going “fast enough” in your journey to heal relationship anxiety or ROCD? Maybe you’ve seen other people share their wins and felt like you’re just not getting it. It’s easy to beat ourselves up when we compare to other people’s highlight reels–but today I am peeling back the curtain of what healing relationship anxiety actually looks like. 

Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! 

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Montage Fallacy article by Herbert Lui

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