So your mind gets polyamory—you’ve read the books, done the therapy, had the late-night conversations. But your body? It’s still freaking out when your partner goes on a date. Welcome to the nervous system’s opinion on non-monogamy.

In this deeply validating and often hilarious conversation, I’m joined by Dedeker Winston (co-host of the Multiamory podcast) and Orit Krug, a licensed dance/movement therapist, to talk about why your nervous system might not be as on board with polyamory as your prefrontal cortex is—and what you can actually do about it.

We cover:

• Why jealousy can’t be “talked out of”
• How trauma shows up in open relationships (even years later)
• Why somatic therapy works when your brain hits a wall
• What healing in community really looks like (spoiler: it’s not group sobbing, but it is a little weird)
• A behind-the-scenes look at their upcoming somatic retreat for polyamorous folks in Spain

Whether you’re solo poly, partnered, in a polycule, or still figuring it out—this episode is a must-listen if you want more ease, embodiment, and nervous system support in your non-monogamous journey.

💌 Learn more about the retreat:

👉 https://multiamory.com/retreat

September 22–25, 2025 | Northern Spain | Sliding scale available

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