Your Favorite You

How often do you catch yourself saying, “I don’t have time”? Maybe you’re “too busy” for rest, exercise, or figuring out what you actually want—even though when there’s a work deadline or a family emergency, you somehow always manage to fit it in.

I know how easy it is to say those words without questioning them. But after years of coaching brilliant, capable women who tell me they simply “don’t have time” to take better care of themselves, I’ve learned that the problem is almost never actually about time.

In this episode, I talk about the real stories we're telling ourselves when we say we don't have time, and I share practical tools you can use to decode your own time stories. So much becomes possible when you start telling yourself the truth about time, because becoming your favorite you doesn’t require more time, just honest time spent on what truly matters to you.

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Have you ever been around certain people and felt instantly at home–like you could exhale and completely be yourself? I’ve been thinking about that profound sense of belonging as I prepare for my group coaching program to start up again, and today I share the magic that happens when women with similar values come together to do the tender work of becoming our favorite versions of ourselves.

I work with women who share core values like belonging, growth, community, freedom, connection, and kindness. Even though I expect it, I’m still amazed and touched by the healing that unfolds when they share their struggles and triumphs and witness each other’s growth.

In group coaching, women come to realize that everyone’s journey is unique and that there is no one right way to grow. They witness one another finding their own answers, trusting their own wisdom, and making choices that fit with the life they want. Intentional communities for growth and healing are powerful spaces for change that help you move even closer to being your favorite you.

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Intelligence isn’t just something we measure with IQ tests or celebrate in school—it goes beyond intellect into the wisdom we gain from our emotions and our bodies.

Our society tends to focus on intellectual intelligence without recognizing the importance of emotional and somatic intelligence. That’s why so many intellectually brilliant people can solve complex problems, but struggle to recognize when they’re overwhelmed or when their boundaries are being crossed.

In this episode, we explore these three types of intelligence, the differences you may see in your life if you gave them equal attention, and practical ways to start developing them. The goal isn't to be less intellectually capable, but to find balance and access all of the wisdom available to us. Because becoming your favorite you means becoming wise in every way a human can be.

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What’s something you believe is “just the way you are”? Maybe you tell yourself you're just not a morning person, not good with technology, not creative, or always running late. We tend to cling to these “fixed” identities, but what if I told you that none of them have to be permanent?

In this episode, I discuss something that may shift how you perceive yourself and your potential: the power of flexibility. Your brain is capable of creating entirely new patterns, habits, and ways of being throughout your life. When you stop believing you’re “just the way you are,” you open yourself up to so many more possibilities.

Flexibility doesn't mean throwing away all support or pretending you don't have limitations. It means staying curious about the version of yourself you're becoming while still honoring where you are right now.

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As with most women, my relationship with my body has been a complicated one. Until recently, I never truly felt comfortable in my own body. I have yo-yoed with my weight for most of my adult life, and I carried old beliefs about my body that started in childhood. In this episode, I share how my relationship with my body has evolved throughout my life, and the changes I have made in the past year that have completely shifted how I feel.

Many of you are brilliant, high-achieving women who excel in your careers, show up powerfully in your families, and lead with confidence. Yet when it comes to your relationship with your body, you might feel stuck or defeated. But your body struggles don't negate your brilliance. They don't mean that you're weak or you're lacking willpower, but often that you're carrying around old beliefs about your body that you formed when you were younger.

If I can change the way that I see and live in my body, you can too–and it's never too late to start. At the age of 52, I am finally able to love being in my body. Your body is your home for this one beautiful life, and it deserves your love, care, and partnership in becoming a favorite version of you.

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Many of the brilliant women I coach are high achievers in their careers, yet they often feel lost when it comes to their finances. Why is it that so many smart, capable women feel like they struggle with money?

​Today, you’ll hear the amazing wisdom of my friend and coaching colleague, Keina Newell. Kenia is a financial coach who prioritizes meeting her clients where they are and helps them heal the shame they carry around money.

Through her business, Wealth Over Now, she shows people that it doesn't have to be all or nothing when it comes to spending and saving. It’s possible to build wealth, save money, and pay off debt simultaneously. In this episode, Keina and I discuss the origins of money shame, the cultural narratives that hinder women's financial progress, and offer practical advice for building financial confidence.

Keina Newell works with hardworking and passionate single women who need help creating clear financial goals so they can save more, pay off debt, and stress less about money. When Keina graduated from college, she was in $75,000 of student loan debt. Cue all the overwhelming feelings that flood in when you have a mountain of debt staring you in the face. She got out of overwhelm and found clarity when she started having weekly money dates with herself. Money dates were what helped her find ways to save money and pay off debt at the same time, buy her first home before the age of 30 and pay off $75,000 of student loan debt shortly thereafter. When she is not coaching, Keina is spending quality time with friends and family and encouraging herself to go to CrossFit!

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If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re being “too soft” on your kids, consider this episode your permission to stop worrying. 

Think about what you want your relationship with your kids to look like when they’re adults. Do you want them to call when they’re struggling, include you in their lives, and let you know their real selves? That starts now with how safe you make it for them to be human in your presence.

Most of us have been told that we need to toughen our kids up for the real world–that if we don't challenge them, they'll be weak. But what if being soft is actually the strongest thing we can do for them? ​

The world will challenge your kids plenty. When they can come to you with their failures without fear of judgment, and feel valued even when they’re imperfect, the refuge you provide is much more valuable than any “lesson” you could teach them with your disappointment. Today, we’ll talk about how your fierce love and support are more than enough to raise an amazing human.

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Have you noticed how loud your self-critical voice can be? The parts of us that are anxious and perfectionistic sound so sure of themselves. They speak with authority and urgency, saying, “You’re not doing enough,” or “Everyone's going to think you're a fraud.”

But there is a quieter voice beneath the noise–one that leads you toward your favorite you rather than sending you into a spiral. What if you could listen to the quiet whisper of this inner knowing? The one that says “You’re exactly where you need to be,” and “Just take a deep breath.”

If you’re not intentionally listening for that quiet wisdom, you may miss it.  In this episode, we’ll explore how to recognize, trust, and follow the voice that actually knows so much.

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Have you ever been convinced that someone you love needs coaching? While you may not be wrong–I haven't met a human yet that wouldn’t benefit from having a coach–in my experience, the person who thinks everyone else needs coaching is often the one who will gain the most from it. Today, we’re going to talk about why that’s actually great news.

When you work on yourself first–your boundaries, your confidence, your needs–it has a ripple effect on the people in your life. Focusing on the one thing you can control (you!) often causes others to make shifts in response to your change. 

It's natural to want your loved ones to experience the freedom of living as their favorite versions of themselves, but that love starts to feel like criticism the second you start pointing out what they need to work on. In this episode, we're going to explore what to do when you think everyone else in your life needs coaching or therapy, and why looking in the mirror might be exactly the breakthrough you've been waiting for.

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Most high-achieving women have gotten to where they are by checking the boxes and making things happen. If this is you, you’ve probably also worked to balance those overdeveloped striving parts with your significantly underdeveloped resting parts.

But what happens when life throws a curveball and suddenly everything feels hard again? Do you push harder and abandon the rest you've fought to prioritize, or is there another way?

If you’ve been working on slowing down but still face challenges that threaten to pull you back into hustle mode, this episode is for you. Because here’s the thing: you don’t have to choose. You can be successful and take care of yourself. You can achieve your goals and be fully present in your life.

Something magical happens when these opposing parts take a both-and stance instead of an either-or stance. The goal isn't to silence either voice or to perfectly balance them, but to heal what they're protecting underneath. In this episode, we’ll explore what it looks like to operate from self and help these parts heal so they can collaborate instead of fighting with each other.

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