Your Favorite You

I’m thrilled to be joined by my coach and one of my dearest friends for the 150th episode of the Your Favorite You podcast! Maggie Reyes has been on the show several times before, and I’m so glad she's back today to discuss procrastination, redefining self-sabotage, and the “loving SmackDowns” we all need sometimes when we’re stuck in our own perspective.

When we pass up an opportunity or go slower than expected, we tend to label it as self-sabotage. But what would happen if we viewed it as self-protection instead? What if we recognized that every part of us is on our side? This shift opens the door for more compassion, clarity, and a deeper relationship with yourself.

In this episode, we’ll dive into this topic and more, discovering that the protective part of us emerges for a reason and it’s there to help you on your journey to becoming your favorite you. 

Maggie Reyes is a Master Certified Life Coach and Modern Marriage Mentor who specializes in teaching Marriage Relationship Skills to type A women who want to know how to feel better in their marriages using a feminist, compassionate, cognitive behavioral approach to marriage and relationships.

While every epic love story is unique, her coaching programs offer insights, tools, and guidance  to help you navigate your marriage with greater awareness, empathy, and power. Learn more at MaggieReyes.com.

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Today, I am celebrating something pretty incredible. July 21st, 2025, marked seven years since I had my last drink of alcohol–and let me tell you, I don’t miss it. Not even a little bit.

I don't miss waking up with headaches, or that fuzzy, slightly off feeling the morning after even one alcoholic beverage. I don't miss spending hundreds of dollars on wine and cocktails or the anxiety that would creep in the next day. Now, I can't imagine my life any other way. Over the past seven years, my relationship with myself has transformed in a way it never could have when I was numbing with alcohol on a regular basis. 

Here’s what I want you to know: You don't have to wait until you hit rock bottom to make a change. If you've been questioning your relationship with alcohol or you've been curious about what life looks like on the other side, this is the episode for you.

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Today, I want to talk about something that has been weighing heavily on my heart. We’re living in a time when so many terrible things are happening in the world. Families are being torn apart, healthcare is being stripped away, and fundamental human rights are under attack. In the midst of all this, it can feel absurd—or even pointless—to talk about setting boundaries or practicing patience. Like I’m offering a band-aid when the patient is hemorrhaging.

And yet, I keep showing up here because I believe this work matters. I believe your healing matters. No, working on your relationship with yourself won’t fix everything that’s broken—but it can create ripples of good that we desperately need in the world. 

Maybe you’re too overwhelmed, anxious, or shut down to even consider personal growth right now. But here's what I want you to know: you can hold space for the pain of the world and still work on being your favorite you. If you’ve been feeling torn between caring about the world and caring for yourself, I hope this episode will help.

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When was the last time that you caught a glimpse of your favorite version of yourself? When you felt completely confident, purposeful, and alive. Where everything just flowed and you thought, this is who I really am. Today, we're talking about how to make that your everyday reality. 

We've been conditioned to believe that transformation requires a massive overhaul of our entire lives. But what if I told you that’s not true? In this episode, I tell you about my new one-on-one offer, Replenish and Refocus. It's an intimate four-month coaching experience designed specifically for people who are ready to start creating a life that genuinely excites them. 

This experience isn’t about adding more to your plate, but removing what no longer fits so that your true self can emerge. Your favorite version of yourself isn't someone completely different, but the you who has been just beneath the surface all along. Let’s bring her forward together.

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Patience is not a neat, tidy virtue that you either have or you don't. It's a beautiful, messy, interconnected web where your patience with yourself shapes your patience with everyone else. And when impatience creeps in, it creates a spiral of disconnection that benefits no one. 

The good news is that patience can be a practice. It takes persistence to develop, but it’s something you can cultivate in your life. I've been working on this for years now, and I still mess it up all the time. However, the effort is worth it. 

In this episode, we’ll explore why patience is so complex, especially for those of us used to pushing, fixing, or perfecting. You’ll understand why impatience is often just resistance to reality, and I’ll share practical tips to help you build patience so you can feel more connected to yourself and others.

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Integrity isn’t about big, dramatic choices. It’s about the tiny, everyday moments when we tell ourselves, “It’s not that big a deal.” These small moments matter more than you may think–even when no one is watching, our bodies and nervous systems know when we’ve gone against our values. But when you pause and choose integrity over convenience, something shifts. There's a confidence that comes from knowing you can trust yourself–not to be perfect, but to own it when you make a mistake. 

In this episode, I discuss why we sometimes act out of alignment with our values and what it means to return to integrity, one honest moment at a time.

Living in integrity feels so good–not because it's always easy, but because it's always true. There's nothing quite like that feeling of being completely, authentically, unapologetically yourself.

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No matter how much we want it to be, healing isn’t a one-and-done process. Just when you think you've dealt with something, there it is again—maybe wearing a slightly different outfit, but still the same darn thing. Maybe it's people pleasing, abandonment fears, or self-criticism–whatever it is shows up and you think, “Seriously, I thought I dealt with this already?!”

But here’s the thing: healing isn’t about “fixing” something so it never resurfaces again. It’s about gaining the awareness and tools to change your response as you spiral upward on your healing journey.

You may remember episode 64 of this podcast where I first introduced the idea of the spiral parking garage ramp as an analogy for healing. In this episode, I dive deeper into this metaphor to explore what actually happens on your healing journey–not only with the familiar patterns, but the messy, frustrating moments that make you want to throw your self-help books out the window. Healing can feel repetitive, but today we look at why that’s not a sign you’re doing it wrong, but actually proof that you’re doing it right. 

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You show up with love and support for everyone in your life–but when it comes to how you treat yourself, that kindness disappears. So many brilliant women fall into this pattern. If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. 

What would change if you gave yourself the same patience, encouragement, and compassion that you offer everyone else? In this episode, I talk about how to hold space for your own humanity and learn how to truly love yourself. You'll hear the reasons why we withhold love from ourselves, and we'll explore ways to break this cycle and improve your relationship with yourself.

Love isn't something you have to earn, wait for, or be perfect enough to deserve. It's like a radio station that is constantly broadcasting–you just have to tune in. And the more you treat yourself with love, the more you have to give to others. When you're cruel to yourself and running on empty, it just makes it harder to show up for others. 

You deserve the love that you've been withholding. And remember, learning to love yourself is not selfish–it's how you become a favorite version of you.

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When was the last time you felt genuinely safe not to know something? To fumble, make mistakes, and learn messily—without anyone judging your intelligence or competence?

If you're drawing a blank, you're not alone. Most of us have been taught that our worth is tied to performance. As a result, we avoid trying new things in adulthood–not because we're incapable, but because we’ve been conditioned to believe that not being immediately good at something means something's wrong with us.

But when you can learn from a place of safety—where mistakes are allowed and curiosity is welcome—something powerful happens. Your competence doesn't feel threatened, which creates the space you need to truly grow and allows your authentic self to emerge.

In this episode, I share an example of what this container of safety looked like for me recently, and we explore how to give yourself permission--to be a beginner, to take up space, and to let yourself grow through imperfection so that you can embrace your favorite version of yourself who is brave enough to make mistakes in service of becoming who you are meant to be.

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It’s never too late to make a change–especially if that means finally asking for help after “handling it yourself” for far too long. Does this sound familiar? High-functioning people often put off asking for what we need because we think our problems aren't “bad enough” yet, or we worry that we’re just being dramatic. But what if we flip the script? What if instead of waiting until things are unbearable, we sought help at the first sign of struggle? 

In this episode, we talk about why so many of us hesitate to ask for help and why it’s actually one of the bravest things you can do. You’ll hear a story that highlights why it’s never too late to choose a different path. And if you’re still thinking, I know I need help, but where do I even start?—I take you through three steps to help you figure out what you need and ask for it. 

Remember, your growth and healing don't have an expiration date. Whatever you've been carrying alone or whatever step you've been afraid to take, consider this a sign that today might be the perfect day to start making a change.

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