I like excitement, novelty, change, and drama. If I had to pick one word to describe the thing that drives me, it would be "innovation." In fact, I attended a pretty dumb retreat once and had to pick a word. That was my word.
I like the new stuff.
I buy a new phone every six months. I switch laptops about that often. I download one or two apps on a slow day. I have to keep a particular task list to remind myself to cancel all the subscription software, services, publications, websites, etc. that I pay for each day.
I live in hotels. I rarely stay in one place for more than a couple of weeks. A month is a long stay for us. We go, go, go. Change is our normal.
I'm Addicted to the Next New Thing
I'm a junkie for the new. I can barely finish writing this sentence because of the pull of nearby shiny objects. (At the moment, it's a kitten here in the breakfast room of our hotel in Langkawi, Malaysia.)
It's a miracle that I'm still married to my first wife after 26 years. I'm not sure how we were able to make that happen, but here we are.
It's a miracle that I've worked in the same law firm, also for 26 years.
But there's a reason I've stuck around. (I mean at the law firm. I still don't understand how I was lucky enough to stay married, and I'll save figuring that out for another day.)
I realized something early on as a result of observing others. I looked at successful lawyers and contrasted them with other lawyers who seemed to be moving sideways much of the time.
I noticed that many lawyers hopped around, switching jobs, practice areas, geographic locations, etc. Many of us change teams like we change our underwear. We change marketing approaches every time something new comes along. We alter our management tactics when the next business book comes out.
The hyperkinetic approach of some lawyers didn't appear to result in much success. Eventually, I reverse-engineered the career path of the lawyers who looked like they were winning and realized that they had a different approach from those who kept changing their paths.
Change for the sake of change seems to simply result in more change, not progress. Much of the change isn't positive. That was an unpleasant realization for me. I really, really like change.
Smart, Successful Lawyers Do It Differently
I noticed that some lawyers had a sticktoitiveness approach. They persisted. They didn't change when the economic winds blew from a different direction. They didn't change when they ran into a challenging obstacle. They didn't change when they encountered a new shiny object. They just kept moving along---forward, upward, and toward the objective.
These lawyers knew where they were going, and they didn't let anything, external or internal, get in their way. They just showed up and did what needed doing. Maybe they don't need the change? Maybe they don't require novelty? Maybe they're oblivious, unaware, or lacking in observational skills? I don't know. All I know is that they stick to it.
The lawyers who stick to it aren't always doing anything I consider exciting. They aren't that much fun for me to chat with over lunch about the latest marketing approaches or the cool new technology. They don't play my innovation game. They just keep cranking forward and sticking to their plan.
These stick-to-it lawyers aren't always brilliant. They aren't always interesting. They aren't always the life of the party.
But they see it. These lawyers know where they're going. They have a vision. They have something they want to do, need to do, and care about doing, and they are fully committed.
These lawyers believe that sticking to the vision gets them where they seek to go---eventually. They're confident in their ability to make a plan, commit to the plan, and reap the rewards.
They've learned that it's…