We want our kids to use healthy coping skills when they are dealing with discomfort. But what do we do when they regularly “forget” or fall back on unhealthy strategies when they are disappointed or frustrated? 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why trying to make or convince children to use healthy coping skills doesn’t work 

• Why children genuinely struggle to use these skills, even when you’ve reminded them over and over

• What children really need in order to successfully (and consistently!) handle their big feelings more effectively

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Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with Certified High Performance Coach Julie Lowe.

Listen as I ask Julie the 3 questions: 1. You're a high performance coach – what does it mean to live a high-performance lifestyle exactly? Can anyone adapt to it, or is it just for the super-organized amongst us?  2. In your book, A Few Good Habits, you talk about how relying on willpower and motivation alone can be misleading and set us up for failure. Why is that and what should we do instead?  3. Many people are on the hunt for a 'magic bullet' solution to better their lives. You, however, advocate for simplicity and returning to basics. Tell me more about this philosophy and what that looks like.

Listen as Julie asks me the 3 questions: 1. For a child with ADHD who struggles with emotional outbursts, could you share some practical advice on how parents can effectively calm the situation and help their child manage these strong emotions? 2. Many parents struggle with the constant battle over 'device time'. Can you share a fun yet effective way to inspire kids to willingly switch off their devices? 3. We hear a lot about fostering resilience in kids. Could you share a real-life example of a parent-child interaction that encourages resilience in a situation of stress or anxiety?

Children with big emotions often want to be in charge. They try to control the schedule, their siblings, and even us! But trying to take away control leads to power struggles… and giving them MORE control doesn’t lead to better behavior. The good news is that there is a way to motivate our children to be more flexible and responsible without taking away all of their control or giving them too much of it. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What leads to better behavior with kids who like to be in control 

• How to easily find the right balance between permissiveness and firmness 

• What our kids really need from us so that they can develop confidence, internal motivation, and a better parent-child relationship

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Many children with big emotions also experience symptoms of anxiety -- at school, at bedtime, even in relationships with friends and siblings. It can be challenging for us to help our child when they’re worried, especially when it seems like most strategies aren’t effective. How can we make things better in the moment when children are experiencing symptoms of anxiety?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What’s going on in the brain during anxious moments

• What’s most effective to focus on when a child is worrying 

• Three actions we can take in the moment to help children move through anxious symptoms more quickly 

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Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with pediatric nurse practitioner and sleep consultant Kelsey Alford.

Listen as I ask Kelsey the 3 questions: 1. How should you handle sleep regressions?  2. How to know when is the right time to make sleep changes ?  3. How do you stay kind and firm when you are exhausted?

Listen as Kelsey asks me the 3 questions:  1. How do you deal with parent preferences?  2. How do you deal with transitions away from/stopping devices (especially over summer)? 3. How do you deal with fears- how much to validate and when (night time vs daytime)?

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Of course we want to raise responsible, respectful children. But the strategies that we are most comfortable with – like punishments and rewards – don’t seem to be effective with our kids, especially those with big emotions! How can we teach children to do what they need to do when traditional strategies often lead to worse behavior, meltdowns, or unhealthy self-esteem?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why “traditional” ways of motivating better behavior aren’t effective for many children 

• How punishments and rewards can actually make some kids feel and act worse 

• Strategies we can use instead to motivate responsible behavior

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Many children with big emotions struggle to express what they need. Some tend to demand that things go their way…while others rarely stand up for themselves. How can we teach our children to ask for what they need without offending others or letting others walk all over them? 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why we need to identify what’s causing our children’s behavior before we try to change it

• The scientific reasons why a child might struggle to be assertive (and why our pushing usually makes things worse)

• How to teach important life skills -- like standing up for themselves respectfully -- without harming their self-esteem or our parent-child relationship

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Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with school counselor and author Ashley Bartley, who is the author of five social emotional learning books for children.

Listen as I ask Ashley the 3 questions: 1. How can I help my child with time management? 2. How can I establish routines in my home to make the mornings go more smoothly? 3. What strategies would be helpful for a child experiencing separation anxiety?

Listen as Ashley asks me the 3 questions: 1. How do you handle kids refusing to do homework? 2. How do you handle kids refusing to do chores? 3. How do we minimize screen time with our children?

When we are raising children with big emotions, we have to take care of ourselves, too.

But how do we find the energy we need when we’re exhausted by meeting everyone else’s needs and have NO extra time? 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The scientific reason why our bodies are constantly in fight or flight mode

• The differences between self-care and self-treatment

• Three questions you can ask yourself that will give you more energy…right now!

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Let’s be honest: Raising a child with big emotions can feel HARD. As we try to manage their reactions, their behavior, their emotions (on top of everything else in our lives), we may feel exhausted, helpless, resentful. How can we continue to support our kids when things just seem so difficult? 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What we can do when we feel stuck in our Yuck

• A new perspective to help regulate our emotions and keep our cool

• A tip that allows us to respond from our values, even when we’re struggling ourselves

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