We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling

You’re Not the Problem—But You Might Be Dating One


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I’ve worked with so many smart, successful people who keep finding themselves in relationships that just don’t work. They’re self-aware, they’ve done the therapy, and on paper, they’re a catch. So why do they keep picking partners who can’t meet them where they are?


In this episode, I’m joined by psychologist and “Love & Life” podcast host Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell to talk about why high-functioning people so often end up in low-quality relationships—and what to do about it.


We’re breaking down:

  • Why emotionally intelligent people sometimes ignore red flags.
  • The role fantasy and projection play in choosing the wrong partners.
  • How to tell the difference between chemistry and compatibility.
  • What “dating at your level” really looks like.
  • How to stop mistaking potential for actual partnership.


If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe I’m the common denominator,” this conversation is for you. Because sometimes, you’re not the problem—you’re just dating one.


🎧 Hit play. Let’s talk about it.


Xxoo Darcy



REFERENCES/RESOURCES

www.alternativescounseling.com

Stat on DSM


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“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen. 

 

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